When I was only young a boy told me I was a bad kisser, and I've been afraid of trying ever since. Can anyone help me with trying to enjoy the experience, give tips etc., as I'm destined for singledom forever if I don't get over this fear... I've just met someone nice and would like to go out with them, but this issue is holding me back.
2007-02-27 04:23:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thing that you have to deal with is that you believe that what one boy said is true for all the boys. Everyone has their own opinion of what is good and bad. Just because he did not like your kisses does not mean that you are a bad kisser.
Kissing is good when the kisses are heartfelt. If you really mean to show love then your kisses will be great. Just kiss based upon what is in your heart and you will always be a great kisser.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-27 04:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships do not have to involve erotic kissing. Kissing comes in many forms:
Tongue
No tongue
Pecks
Fast and extreme
Slow and Soft
Quick with a short pause
And several more.
My wife and I have been together since 1988 and kissing was not part of our relationship because we were secure about our feelings toward each other. Kissing came in small doses and not to the extreme point of slobbering because its not for everyone. Every form of kissing depends on the mood and the situation you are in at that point. When you are really sexually attracted to someone kissing comes natural and when you are not then of course it will be an unpleasant experience. Imagine kissing a total stranger that was not very appealing and imagine kissing that one person that you are sexually attracted to. Which person do you think you will give your best kissing performance to?
Relax and start off slow, if you really don't want to kiss this next guy then tell him, he may actually like you non the less, hence my marriage.
Excellent Question!
2007-02-27 12:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by SuperDave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start it takes two to tango, forget about that muppet in your past,
there's no such thing as a perfect kisser, everyone kisses differently you have to change how you kiss in accordance to who your kissing.
Don't go steaming in there, or just do the same thing either, it takes time an practise lady. Lots an lots.
Think playfull, teasings an important part of kissing.
An think about it when its happening, copy what the other persons doing for sure but try different kisses to.
An RELAX, thats the biggest hurdle you face your mind.
2007-02-27 12:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... i'm not trying to be funny when i say this.. but i know thats a bad memory.. and someone telling you something your bad at makes you only want to practice being better at it if you have any passion for it at all.. example.. i was a young boy: they told me i was dumb.. now i'm the most relied on in my class(which i hate,i'm a rebellious scholar) and i recite quantum physics theories and got one of the few full academic scholarships to a 4yr university....which neither our sal or val got... another: i wanted this guy to draw me a power ranger back when i was little.. he drew em for everyone else and story short he declined drawing one for me so i decided to prove that i'd be able to draw which i did and eventually became a better artist than he... so with that being said.. (no puns intended) i know you've made some pillows day/night/afternoon whatever. haha.. so... all you have to do is overcome that emotional scar you've got.. regain confidence and self esteem and just go for it... allow that passion whenever you get in the moment to just overcome you and work it's magic.. have you ever taking or done something risky.. and once you did it laughed at what you did and thought to yourself how easy/simple that was.. and how much you enjoyed it.. and how crazy you were for thinking what you thought before hand... well this is no different.. it's easy!!! all you have to do is tell that "little girl" who was emotional scarred a long time ago when she was told she was a bad kisser by "A YOUNG BOY" that she is now a grown woman.. something completely unique and different than the sweet young girl.. and that any dude she kisses.. is gonna fall victim to her lusty passion!!! word up!!! now.... get to it and don't rape too many guys lips!!! haha
tokyo londons
2007-02-27 12:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tokyo Londons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing gets better with practice and often or not your kissing style is better when you really like someone. Go out with this guy and don't worry about kissing just take it slow and easy. If your worried about a kiss what you going to do when sex comes into the equation. Go out and enjoy the experience of courting. Getting to know someone takes time so don't rush.
ATB Red
2007-02-27 12:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Redmonk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex was terrible i tried to give him a few tips on what i liked (when i say terrible i mean with his mouth in every sense (sorry to be a bit rude) )but he just kept telling me it must be me cause his ex said he was amazing. however my present b/f (6months and very happy!!) says im an awsome kisser and cant get enuf.
i reckon everyone is different some people just arent meant to kiss each other. so ignore this young boy and put it down to a bad expeirience his problem not yours
good luck and dont be scared
2007-03-02 15:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you'll get over this fear is to just go kiss this guy you like and see what he thinks. If he doesn't like you afterwards he wasn't worth your time. Then you can come hang out with me and I'll show you what your doing wrong. I have to kiss you to know where the problem is, I'm not looking for a freebe! Kissing is something you learn throgh doing.
2007-02-27 12:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, get over it. This happened as a child and you are in your 30's still thinking about it???
OK. Let things happen naturally. When you are kissing someone think about how good it feels, not about what you are doing.
Some techniques include light biting of the lips, and gentle insertion of the tongue.
If he is turned on the rest will come naturally.
2007-02-27 12:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kissing is just the best. I love kissing. Imagine your kissing two soft pillows and maybe that would make it easier. Ignore what your past B/F said. You are different now. Kiss how you feel and be confident when doing so.
2007-02-27 12:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaahh....after my first kiss it was a bad experience..he was a really bad kisser....and i was scraed to kiss andone else that way for a long long time because i was scared i would be really bad and they would stop likeing me....if he likes you enough then he wont care...kissing isnt all the relationship!!!!just relax in his comany and follow what he does do something like run your hands through his hair....etc which will mean if he likes that it will add to the pleasure of the kiss.....good luck!
2007-02-27 12:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by confused at college 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋