My boyfriend and I currently broke up. He told me that he still loved me and that his feelings have changed a lot since we first started dating. I really love this guy and I want to win him back. He said that before we go back out I need to realize that he can not talk to me 24/7 and that I had to be okay with him and his cousin hanging out a lot. I told him that was okay with me, and he said we would try again soon. after he took a break. How long is this break going to take and how can I make sure he knows thatI still love him and I will wait. I have already written him letters and emails. and we still talk all the time.
2007-02-27 04:15:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you have already clearly told him how you feel. Be careful not to smother him though, since it also sounds like he feels you demand too much of his time.
You might want to let him know that if he wants to spend time with you and his cousin that would be great. That might make him more comfortable with spending more time with you.
Remember though that there are a lot of guys out there and you will meet others. If he does not come back to you that will be ok in the long run.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-27 04:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You even identify yourself on Yahoo as his girl. That's why. Can you imagine having someone cling to you, call you incessantly, want to be with you around the clock?
If you continue your behaviour during this cooling off period then you will cross the line to being a stalker.
You really need to get a grip on who you are, what you like, and get a lot more involved in your life....not as his girl but as your own girl.
It's over, I'm sorry, but guys don't take a break from girls they love, it never happens. Ever. They stay or they leave and sometimes they may hide away for a few days and sulk but, that's it. He's trying to let you down easy, so have a little class and accept it.
Move on. You have a lot to offer someone, you just have to find the right person, the one who wants what you have to give. This guy...doesn't.
2007-02-27 04:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll get a better response if you don't talk to him all the time. It's probly your insecurities that make you want to stay in such close contact. Guys don't work that way. Guys want to have time and space to be guys, play video games, sports, spend spme time alone.
It sounds like he still wants to be with you but he'd like a little breathing room. If you can find other ways to calm your restlessness, I suggest you try those. Go work out every day, spend time reading or better yet, find some girl friends you can hang with and share those things you both enjoy. If you can manage to stay away from him for long periods, like over a whole day, he will be the one making your phone ring, not the other way around.
2007-02-27 04:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's over because there is no balance!! As he said... he can't talk to you 24/7. You BOTH need time and space for yourselves, and other friends! The break will probably last as long as it takes you to realize he needs some guy time once in awhile, or it will be permanent.
2007-02-27 04:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound slike you have already let him know and you have done everything you can do. You just have to sit back and wait for him to make that decision. Do not put your life on hold though. You still need to do your own thing. Dont let a guy be the only thing on your mind or run your life! You might be pushing him to much and that only pushes them away!!
2007-02-27 04:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by bb77blueeyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok there that's what you should not be doing. he just said he can't talk to you 24/7 and while you are on a break you should talk a bit less. i think you should let him get in touch with you first. let him think you are getting on grand without him and eventually you will get back together if thats the real reason he broke up with you.
2007-02-27 04:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Shannyn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Appearently your honey thinks that you're too clingy. He's basically asking for this "break" because he honestly needs room to breathe! Just respect his wishes and give him some room. Men love it when women get desperate for them so they love to make you wait. Make it seem like you aren't desperately waiting for his replies. I know you miss him, but distract it with other activities like sports, arts and crafts, writing, reading, and other things. Wish you luck!
A.L.
2007-02-27 04:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Angelus L 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cut him loose now. If he wants a break...GIVE IT TO HIM. If you hang around he will never realize what y'all had was good and come back running. Cut off all communication!
2007-02-27 04:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're asking Yahoo! Answers how long your man will take a break? Only he can answer that, and it will be in deed not in words.
2007-02-27 04:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well being so close to some one at times don't press some so i will advice you to give him some time to be alone and see things out if he can live without you
2007-02-27 04:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by gegan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋