how do you get over fear of rejection when asking someone out?

Question

even if you have confidence in yourself when you approach someone, when all is said and done, what if you cannot handle rejection?? does anyone have a secret or a loophole..haha????
because this seems to be a common problem nowadays more than it used to also.....

Answer 1

I look at it this way , if the person is not capable of rejecting me in a ladylike manner then I feel much better that we didn't hookup . If you look at it from a women's perspective and the guy is not a gentleman and embarrasses you then they lack the character you desire anyway so you've lost nothing but gained a better intuition from the experience so your judgment will improve on your next try .

Answer 2

The simple answer: you don't.
But, the upside is you can handle rejection. Yes, you can. But there's no loophole.
Think about how you got good or confident at anything, whether it was a sport or an instrument or art or whatever. How did you get good/confident at it? Simply put, by doing it over and over and over again until it started to feel natural. Now does that mean you can hit the free throw every single time, or you can play Moonlight Sonata note for note every single time? No, but you can work on it til you get to a stage where you VIRTUALLY never miss. Why would dealing with the opposite sex be any different? The more you work on it, the better you get. Simple as that.
The fear of rejection (an aspect exclusive to social skills) will never completely fade, but what will happen is you'll get so USED to the fear, that it'll slowly stop bothering you so much, kinda like stage fright.
Work hard.
Oh yeah, and that baloney about how it's more of a problem "nowadays"? Whatever.

Answer 3

I've never gotten over fear of rejection... it's sort of a natural side effect of being outgoing and confident, the pitfall when it doesn't work.

All you can do is work very hard not to take the rebuffs personally. Don't quiz yourself on what you did wrong, what you could have done better, etc. The reason it hurts is that you're psyching yourself up too hard beforehand, and taking the results too seriously. Just smile and nod and walk away.

Answer 4

Accept the fact that everyone will get rejected at least a couple time in their life. Hell I get reject 99% of the time because I'm deaf but I keep on try ask other girls out and when I happen to find right one, it was alway worth it!

Plus what's the worse he could do beside say no?

Answer 5

We all fear rejection but that is the price you pay if you are ever going to get anywhere. You must risk the rejection if you areever to have someone or something that you want. Rememer the motto of the Texas Rangers: No guts, No glory. It is true.

Answer 6

I know rejection real well. There's only one answer, persistance, and it rarely works, but it does give you a form of hope. What you need is to be rejected at least 100 times, then it becomes so expected it's like nothing.

Answer 7

The worst that can happen is they say "no" Have you ever asked any other question and gotten that answer? Right, it's just an answer and then you either get what you want or try again. Only a word.

Answer 8

I don't know. But I've been told that no is the worest thing you can hear, And if you expect it then it won't surprise you and it'll hurt less. My personal fear is falling in love with someone that doesn't share the same feelings.

Answer 9

thats easy, do it. fear is diminished once you do it. how do you handle the rejection? tell yourself positive things , like it wasnt meant to be. there are many loves in this life for you, dont worry you will be just fine.

Answer 10

Never get your hopes up in the first place just approach it as if it isn't a big deal. His loss anyway.