I am 16, female, and I have a girlfriend, one who I have been dating for almost a month. When we met I was incredibly attracted to her (and still am.) When I’m not around her, I miss her terribly, and we only see each other on weekends, which makes matters worse. I am extremely physical, and I crave intimacy. I love just being around other girls, ones who I am attracted to. Because I don’t get to see my girlfriend as much as I’d like, I often feel deprived. It’s hard for me to control myself around other attractive girls, and I often end up making out with them, among other things. The truth is, I care about my girlfriend to death, but without her being around, I am simply wild. I often don’t think about what I do, or how it will hurt her. I’m only 16, but she really, really likes me… and I like her too, but apparently there’s something missing if I can’t keep myself monogamous with her. She doesn’t know about the things I’ve done with other girls while she’s not around. I’m afraid to lose her… I want both. But I know sooner or later I’ll have to choose. Any advice??
2007-02-27 04:07:23 · 11 answers · asked by liawhite333 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And what makes you think that she is being an angel while you are a devil? Maybe she has been sleeping around with not only girls but also guys… and many at the same time. It is a possibility.
If you think about it, and you feel a big pain inside just thinking about it, then you do have at least good feelings for her.
If that is the case, then you now know how she would feel if she finds about you cheating (assuming she is really in love with you). Would you like for her to feel like that? I don’t think so. So then you know what to do.
Otherwise, if you don’t feel much about this whole thing, then you are obviously not in love, or at least, you don’t care that much for her and is more a “sexual” relation.
Because of your age, you lack of experience, and is difficult to see things beyond your own eyes. But simple things like this should be obvious already to you.
Think about it, and take a decision.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 04:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would rather be single instead of in a relationship. You may care about your gf but until you can be faithful to her you you should not be in a relationship. I think you should talk to her and let her know what you have been doing if she decides to forgive you then let her know that you guys should only be creeping on the weekends because you are attracted to other people. Just be honest with yourself and her because either way you both are going to end up hurt.
2007-02-27 12:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooookay what is wrong with this picture? 16/female with girlfriend and wanting a cake and thinking you are a playa? LOL Girl, you should worry about school so that hopefully you won't end up on wellfare or homeless somewhere. By the way wanting more than one partner at a time says a lot about your psychological maturity. I think you have low self-esteem...get help.
2007-02-27 12:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by EV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real answer is one that you already know. MONOGAMY. If you really cared about her the way you say, it would be a problem. Search your soul and ask yourself what it would feel like if the role was reversed and you were being cheated on. How would you feel. Sooner or later it will be discovered and the problems are going to become bombshells.
2007-02-27 12:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you must choose because you are going to hurt someone you claim to care about. You need to slow it down missy, put some ice cubes in your panties if you need to but you are way too wild. Perhaps you need to be free so that you can sow your wild oats without hurting another person. As it is you are simply a cheater and you had better learn to change your ways or you are going to wind up alone
2007-02-27 12:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have both.
You will just end up hurting more than just her.
You need to excercise some self controll or you WILL loose her.
You are being very selfish and oppertunistic.
You need to decide what is more importnat to you- what you are doing with who ever you want, OR her.
2007-02-27 12:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bearess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats so damn grimy
u cant possibly like (love)her as much as u say if u cant control yo self
if u keep doing this u will be hurt worse than her in the end
tell her and if u wer ment to keep her then u will stay with her if not hopefully u apologize
remember wat come around goes around
2007-02-27 12:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by ANTHONY D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha. You hit it on the nose. You are lacking something: experience. Let experience be your teacher. At your age, there's nothing anyone here can teach you that would help more than you figuring stuff out for yourself.
2007-02-27 12:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously do not care about her since you are going around getting with other girls.
2007-02-27 12:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by sirtitan45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't care for her as much as you might think. If you really loved her, you wouldn't even consider messing around with the other girls.
2007-02-27 12:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋