I need opinions from the GUYS please!! HELP!?

Question

I started seeing this guy that I met at the Gym about two weeks ago. We talked everyday the first week and hung out a couple of times. He went away the day after the last time we hung out, and since then he's been so distant. He barely picks up my phone calls anymore, doesnt try to get ahold of me like he did before. No texts, calls--nothing. But its not total and complete silence. We HAVE talked some and he even showed up to a place he doesnt like to go to, knowing I'd be there and he acted normally towards me...aside from still somewhat avoiding me. He tells me he's just been busy and I've brought up not talking.... he claims he DOES want to talk to me, he's just been busy. My better judgement tells me he DOESNT want to talk/see me, but why is he telling me he does? Ive given him 3 opps to get out, why does he continue to BLATANTLY tell me he DOES want to talk to me, but then actually refuse to get ahold of me or talk to me? Im completely confused, PLEASE HELP

Just want to clarify for those two think im being a typical girl with CLAWS:

This has nothing to do with "digging my claws into him" As a matter of fact, HES the one who was calling and texting me everyday throughout the day so if anyone was obsessing or clinging, then it would be him, I'd have to say. And how much of a hold would I possibly think I have if I've given him the option to say "fine, this isnt working, lets move on"

Im an honest person and I expect the same from those I have relationships with.
So my point is DONT LIE TO ME. I just want to know the truth.

ALSO, he's not married. I may be a fool, but im not that much of a fool.

AND! No intimacy.

Answer 1

It's possible the guy is telling you the truth. Then again, if he really wanted to talk to you he could take 2 minutes and pick up a phone. Sounds like he may have someone else he's seeing. If I were you I'd be straight with him and just ask him. Give it a little time...it's only a 2 week old relationship. Maybe he's just trying to play it cool with you. See how things go for the next week or so. His actions should give you a definite answer.

Answer 2

personally i feel he want's to see you but he is married. Now since that has never come up in any of the little chats you have been having he is not willing to bring it up. The one reason could be he does not want to hurt your feelings and yet he isn't sure how to tell you. So just move on. Sorry i didn't have another way of saying that . But the best explanation for this is time. Just play it his way -one call in a long while, no dates, but don't fake anything (some girls turn to make that mistake of thinking that because a guy holds a soft spot for them then they fake stuff) it will only make you look like a lier and when a guy thinks you are a liar the foundation of your relationship disappears. That's when you get casttles in the air.

Answer 3

Let me get the facts straight here:

1. Girl knows guy for 2 weeks
2. Talked every day for week 1, and hung out
3. After last meeting, he's distant and no communication

Conclusions:

1. You are not bf & gf
2. You are desperate
3. He is married, not into you, busy, or just ?whatever?

The big question here really is why are you letting yourself be manipulated by this guy's words? The reason(s) don't matter so much, but rather why you don't pursue your own interests. Keep your claws under control. Good Luck

Answer 4

Play the same game with. When he calls, ignore him. Stay a distant from him and don't pay too much attention on him. If he came to you and asked you why you did not pick up his call, use the same ans he gave you - you are busy. He is either afraid of the new relationship or he could have another person. Some men are just coward!

Answer 5

I am going out on a limb, and asking if you had sex with him??? I am not making a judgment on you by asking this only looking to give you a resulting answer if you have.
If you answer yes to my question, than the answer is that he got what he wanted, and is just stringing you along for the long run.
Unfortunately we guys have the animalistic drive in us that sometimes takes over in our heads. Some of us are smart enough to remember what it is to have respect for a lady/female and other have none.
He will keep playing you, because you keep giving him the attention that he is looking for by attempting to keep in contact. I suggest that you remember what some guys are like in situations like this, and don't get hung up in a bogus relationship like this.
If there hasn't been any intimacy, he may just be trying to play a little game of hard to catch.

Answer 6

Hello rstr0619,
I hope for your sake I not correct in what my "gut" is
telling me.
This guy may be doing something I once did (I'm not at
all proud of it, either), and that is---he already has a wife or girl-
friend, or is somehow "attached". Maybe he DOES want to talk
to you, but at the same time, he's feeling guilty about it.
My event like this ALSO started at a gym, during a workout
session. A beautiful lady sat down at the Lat machine next to me,
and we immediately hit up a conversation. At first, it was just about workouts and exercises. Then, it progressed to dating and
romance. Suddenly, reality slapped me real hard! "You stupid
s--t, you have a girlfriend! Leave this lady ALONE!!

Like I said up above, for your sake, I hope I'm wrong.
Good luck with him, honey.

Answer 7

Males tend to get scared quickly in a new relationship-they don't like the new feeling of getting serious. Give it another month-if the communication does not improve it will be time to move on. Just play it cool for now

Answer 8

Chalk it up to him being immature and not knowing what he wants or he has a girlfriend and your just a play toy for him on the side. Though it sounds like he needs to just go home to mamma to fininsh being breast-fed cause he is a boy and not a grown man. Best thing you can do is just forget about him and find someone else.

Answer 9

Last year, I was dating a girl who acted the same way. Later found out she had a pre-paid cell phone, and was low on minutes. She got a contract phone, and wouldn't quit calling me. Almost got me fired from work.

Answer 10

Maybe he just wants to have frantic sex but doesnt want to be seen with you. Maybe he's married. Maybe theres another girl thinkin the same thing about him as you are. Maybe your just makin up a dude and you have mental issues. Maybe he has mental issues. Either way quit callin me I dont wanna talk to you but I'll be over for hot sex later.