My 9yr old is needing to wear DO. and is starting to develop hair down there. She is very mellowdermatic, everything fricks her out. She also has ADHD and Asperger Sys. How do I explain to her what is going on w/ her and about the monthly friend?
2007-02-27 03:50:46 · 12 answers · asked by taboo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all I am her mother not her father. I just am not sure how to approch the sit. My mom never gave the "talk"..
2007-02-27 04:06:57 · update #1
Most girls would rather die in a mellow-dramatic form than talk with their father about female changes. If you don't have a female to talk to her about this, then I would suggest that you take her to the gynecologist. They are much more adept at explaining these processes than you would be. (I must say I'm a little stunned that you know that she is developing hair, I would wonder how you knew that.)
2007-02-27 04:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rahab 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand how you feel... My mother never did either.
I found out about my period at 9 years old after falling down while roller skating and having it start... I was given a pad and told to "Put this on and change it often, until it stops..." Nice huh?
LOL... It's a wonder we survived the 60's/70's.
Anyhoo... Have you ever considered anything in the website that i have given you below as an alternative to the possibility that you "medicate" her for her condition? (because I don't know for sure that you do?)
It is a hard time, especially for those of us who were not told in the correct way ourselves... I did the opposite and went over board with my explinations to my kids... I have Boys though so I think that is easier. Glad I don't have girls... I wish you luck!
Check out the website I provided if nothing else, it is something to consider looking into. Everyone harps and bit*ches about how these people only like to think that their kids are "Special" rather than sick... I don;t know about you, but I believe that children act accordingly to how they are first treated. I would much rather have my child taught and raised to believe that they are in fact different and special rather than sick and different and in constant need of their medications...
2007-02-27 12:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many books on the subject. Look for some in the teenage section of the library for her to read and other books for you in the adult section. Start with a general explanation of what happens to women and how they handle it. You may want to get a female friend to help you out with this discussion. Is there an adult female that your daughter likes and trusts? That would be a good person to ask. If you do not have a friend that meets the criteria, perhaps her school teacher can help.
2007-02-27 11:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad gave me a kid friendly sex book, I cannot remember what it was called but I am sure you can find a few different ones. Then she has a book that she can look at and look back to if she comes up with more questions. I also would let a nurse talk to her maybe. My dad and I could and still do have a close relationship so I didn't really feel weird if he talked to me about that kind of stuff. I have 2 boys and have always been open with them so they do and can come to me with all of their silly questions, we are all human!
here is one I just came across
http://www.kidsreads.com/reviews/1557044414.asp
2007-02-27 11:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by bb77blueeyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to have a female relative explain this to her or a female family friend. If she freaks out about everything it may freak her out that her father is trying to explain "girl stuff" to her. Doctors can also assit you in what to say or talk to her about it for you. Good luck
2007-02-27 11:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eek depends on how open your relationship is. I know i wouldn't want my dad explaining that to me. If you do have an open relationship just sit her down and tell her the facts. You could bet a book for her, my mom bought me this one http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-American-Paperback/dp/1562476661/sr=1-1/qid=1172595345/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-0127322-9250422?ie=UTF8&s=books
it tells you everything from how to find out what size bra you are to how to put in a tampon. If you want someone to talk to her, get a woman close to her to do it. have her take her out for lunch or a shopping day and explain what's going on. Good luck!
2007-02-27 11:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Becs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit the doctor and tell her about how its ok and how shes is no different to any other girl and what happens and that she can come to you for help etc.
This is slight sdnormal i dont think she has started her monthlys but just in case visit doctor :D
GOOD LUCK :D XXXXXXXXXX
2007-02-27 11:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Charlee j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE being too melodramatic!
stop putting negativity on her
see yourself in her
at that age
talk to her
as YOU would have liked
to have been talked with
she's beautiful
...and so are you
mother-daughter love :)
2007-02-27 12:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its had ,but your her mom so try to set down and try to explain to herwha tis going on.But explain it the best way you can just take your time when you do.
2007-02-27 14:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can take her to the docter and have them explain it to her.. or you can also have one of your female friends who your daughter feels comftorable with explain the cycle to her.
2007-02-27 11:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋