I recently met a guy and we met for a drink. He is polite, has a good job, he’s nice, and is easy to talk to. My friends want me to give it a go with him and I’m not sure because I don’t fancy him, I feel mean and I‘m not sure what to do. I don’t fancy him and I feel mean. Am I in the wrong? Is it a good enough reason (not fancying him) to not be with him or am I being mean and too picky/fussy?
2007-02-27 03:39:42 · 35 answers · asked by rainbow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the spark ain't there... You have to feel an attraction and connection to someone. Maybe he'll make a good friend rather than a great lover.
2007-02-27 03:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by urbanrt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be some attraction for you to get to know anybody in the first place. You say that both of you had a nice chat (easy to talk to). Perhaps, you could give it a couple more chances - so to speak and then decide. You seem to have something going if you can talk to him - dont say no' - you may just' grow to fancy him and end up kicking yourself because you did not give it a chance'. If it is only looks you are bothered about, I would let that one slip - they often tend to be full of themselves. But as the who's home is it saying goes 'its up to you - you decide'.
2007-02-27 03:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about how YOU feel about it. Don't worry about whoever would get mad about you being with you. If you don't fancy him, then ya don't fancy him. It sounds like you know enough about him to be saying this. Just be friends with him and if not, maybe you two would be ok being together. But from how you say it, I wouldn't recommend it. Your feelings matter and don't let a guys politeness, being employeed, and being nice win over something you don't fancy lol good luck.
2007-02-27 03:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ahmad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it is you that is going out with him not your friends so you can do whatever you want.
You did the right thing by actually going for a drink with him and getting to know him first, and now that you have done that you still don't feel like you both connect. There is nothing wrong with that so don't beat yourself up for not fancying him.
Don't ever settle for someone just because other people think you should be with him, its your life!!
Be happy babe xxx
2007-02-27 04:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a good time with someone without being interested in them in a romantic sense. First of all, regardless of what your friends think, if you don't have that attraction there, it's not fair to either you or him if you try to push it. Allowing outside influences to determine your love life never works out.
I say, enjoy your new friendship with this person, but don't feel any obligation to take it to another level. And maybe a gentle "mind your own business" wouldn't hurt your friends, either.
2007-02-27 03:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by amelia_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feeling bad because your friends say give him a try and you like the personality but you dont fancy him. A relationship is half based on their personality and their looks. if you dont fancy them then the relation ship wont work because you will see people you fancy and he can't be the one if you dont fancy him! it's not up to other people you have to do what you want to do!
2007-02-27 03:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by alexandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be with someone you don't fancy? It is mean to string someone along cos he happens to be there and you don't want to feel lonely. And yes, not fancying him is a good enough reason for you are being honest with both him and yourself. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Good for you I say.
2007-02-27 03:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, have another date with the guy. It might be different this time around. If nothing else, just remember for every guy you meet, he has other friends. It's called "networking". Maybe you can hook him up with one of your friends? I think you're taking this much too seriously. He hasn't asked you to marry him yet. Go! have a good time! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Or maybe ask him to bring a friend and you do the same. Many a double-date have "switched" and you'll get an idea of who his friends are and know more about the guy. He might be worth knowing better. Kiss the frog! Godloveya.
2007-02-27 03:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was set up on a blind date and i just didn't fancy him. We met up a few times but the spark just wasn't there so i had to tell him. He was gutted but was pleased i was honest and didn't string him along. Whenever we see each other he always speaks and is with someone so he's happy now. He had money and could have offered me everything but i knew i had to be realistic and happy. End it now before he falls for you hun x
2007-02-27 04:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never consider yourself mean just because you don't like a man, or feel you don't have the potential to like him. You must never forget, it's your life, do what you want, live it, and do waste it spending times with guys you don't fancy.
Look at it this way, if you did decide to go out with him, and you really don't like him, then you could be leading him on, and that is even worse than saying no the first time.
2007-02-27 03:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by BretFTW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may develop further if you continue the friendship. As long as you don't lead him on there's no reason why you should stop seeing him. If you give him, a chnace and it still doesn't work out then at least you've tried. If you don't even give it a chance then you're not in the wrong because no-one should do anything that makes them feel uncomfortable if they can avoid it.
2007-02-27 03:44:10 · answer #11 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋