We were together on & off for 7 yrs. It wasn't the easiest of relationships and I'm probably being, no I AM being v. foolish, but I feel for him so much. I love him, in fact I adore him, but we fell out over something 6 months ago and he just cut me dead. It was and still is very painful. I just need to know is there ever going to be a chance or if not then some closure. Please help any experience or useful advice gratefully received. I don't need to be called stupid as I know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-27 03:36:26 · 14 answers · asked by LMac100 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he has not been in contact for 6months,write him a letter explaining how sorry you are and that you miss him very much.if you get no reply,start your life and get over it
2007-02-27 04:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by pixelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you care for him so much more than he does for you. He cut you off and walked and you're still wringing your heart out over it six months later. I bet he hasn't spared you a thought.
I'm not saying this to hurt you but to show you how it is. If you get back with him he'll do it again without thinking about it the next time you have a tiff. He might even just use you for some convenient sex.
I know it's painful but you will thank yourself in the end if you just ride the pain for a while and then move on. The worst thing that could happen is that you end up having a family with him and get stuck holding the baby while he treats you like dirt. Get away before that happens - he already has.
And remember, it's like Bill Hicks said:"Chicks dig jerks". Maybe that's why you can't let go of him.
2007-02-27 03:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Everyone tells you to move on and for them is so easy. Look I am going through the same thing you are. I haven't spoken to my ex for 10 months and just last week he added me to his friends list...mine is a long complicated story...Anyways, just because he doesn't call that doesnt mean anything. Sometimes is necessary to break up entirely to have a chance in the future. If you want this man back I suggest you have faith and pray. Let God know what it is that you want and then have faith and wait. If this happended is because for right now it wasn't meant to be but you don't know what will happen later. What are you feeling ? What vibe are you getting from this situation? Trust your instinct. Don't loose hope and don't get despread. Take it one day at a time. And like I said Trust in that God is listening to your prayer.
2007-02-27 03:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by EV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can offer is talk to him on neutral ground and try to find out what he wants and how he feels about you only you. No one else can tell you what to do and only you and him know whether the relationship is worth trying to salvage. People can split and then make a go off the relationship if they are both willing, before me and my wife married we split up a couple of times but we sorted it out (most people were saying leave it its not worth it ) we have now been married nearly 4 years so just go with what your heart tells you and if he is not interested any more at least you have talked it through and can then move on with your life.
Good luck and I hope this helped in some way
2007-02-27 03:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's taking you for granted! You adore him and he probably knows that and this is how he plays you! I don't think that it crossed his mind that he has hurt you because the truth is I don't think he even truly cares about you. Maybe you are always there for him whenever it is 'convenient' for him. On and off 7 years, seriously I don't think he is that into you and I don't think he is loyal to you because he thinks he can find someone else anytime and you will still be there when he had his fun. He literally is taking you for granted, please stop letting him treat you this way, I am sure you deserve a better guy. Plus you are not stupid, don't ever think that way. When we love someone, everything is clouded and we are willing to look pass a lot of things but you need to think for yourself, 7 years on and off is a long time. It's actually time to move on, I know it hurts but you need to. All the best!
2007-02-27 03:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Carrine G 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/l4PaM
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-22 19:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wont call you stupid its very hard to get over some one you have been with so long and love so much but time will heal your broken heart it feels like that person has died and you are grieving for them its the worst heart braking feeling there is but give it time it will get easier go out and enjoy your self don't sit at home moping about you will get your life back if he has not got in touch with you for six months then that should tell you its time to move on don't live in hope that you are going to get back together what do you think he is doing bet he is not sitting at home moping about every night
2007-02-27 04:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by patricia t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him straight up whether or not you have a chance of being in his world again. If not, then try your best to move on. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 03:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bad 33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating Katty!!! Ask a man out, just a date. Meet men. Oh and I am available this weekend :P
2007-02-27 03:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Surrendered 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, these things happen for a reason. If he's cut you dead since the break up, I think it's unlikely he wants you back. Even if you did get back, I doubt things would be the same. They never are. I know, tried it (twice)!!
2007-02-27 03:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋