I met someone two days ago whom i have known of for about five years. This person used to play football with my now ex partner. The ex cheated on me and since then I have not found it easy to trust and have lost my faith in whether I will find love again. This person approached me and starting chatting me up. He didn't say he had a girlfriend in fact he said he didn't. We got talking and it was nice and he was very definintely coming on to me. When he was leaving he didn't ask for my number so I offererd it to him. He seemed a little reluctant but took it. I should have known then. The following day he bombarded me with texts and after a while he told me he had a girlfriend but wanted to remain texting - I though it would be harmless so I agreed. Since then the texts have gone on and he wants a physical relationship. I have agreed to meet him but so far we haven't done anything. I do feel its wrong to be with someone who has a partner but he is very attentive and persuasive
2007-02-27 03:29:48 · 27 answers · asked by billiebimbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should get your own guy. Forget the puppy.
2007-02-27 03:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only re-met him two days ago! That's a short time for him to be so attentive and persuasive as to convince you to violate your own moral code. It sounds more like "first blush crush" to me, that the flattery has turned your head.
And why wouldn't it, everyone loves to be paid attention! Not saying your reaction is wrong, just that it's the wrong basis for deciding about what to do with this male.
Stick with your feeling that it's wrong to be the "other woman" in an affair, at least until it's gone beyond the first heady weeks of attention, and you can make a more clear decision about whether you want to compromise your principles.
2007-02-27 11:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet someone and if they can't be straight forward with and let you know they are already involved, I feel that it shows that this person is up to know good. Its a tease for him and you are getting out of a bad relationship so then it makes you vulnerable. Take a step back and really decide is it worth it? You already have the feeling he isn't telling his girlfriend about texting you so why put yourself in what would turn out to be a messy relationship. Find someone else to talk to and leave him alone before he hurts you and don't think that it won't happen to you. God bless.
2007-02-27 11:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Wifey K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is a no. What if the shoe was on the other foot and you're the girlfriend and another woman his backup for a physical relationship? How would you feel then?
Treat yourself with some respect. You love the flattery & attention but watch out cos he will probably leave you once he tires of you. He cheats on his girlfriend for goodness sake - you're mature enough to read into what that tells you about his character.
2007-02-27 11:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your going to do to some other poor girl what your ex did to you? Do you really want to go down this road? There are plenty of men who are single and can maintain an honest relationship. Go find one and stay away from the married guys, it just ends up ruining it for everyone. Besides, if this new guy is willing to cheat on his gf with you, why do you think he'll be faithful to you?
2007-02-27 11:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his girlfriend' s shoes....you were cheated on, would you really want to put another woman through that? He sounds like a jerk, and you probably are not the first one he has approached, you also probably won' t be the last....is it worth hurting someone innocent? Also consider this....say he broke up with his girlfriend to be with you, how long before he' s doing the same thing to you? He would you know.
2007-02-27 11:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by nativemaiden27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! you really should go for it, i mean come on he is hot right, so who gives a **** if he has a girlfriend... thats certainly not your problem. I mean i get it,when your ex cheated on you, you loved every single second of it so much that you are willing to give this guys girlfriend the same happiness you felt. Its people like you who make the world a better place. god bless.
2007-02-27 11:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Xander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wasn't with someone I would. But he has a girl and you must remember that this will have consequences. If you can go through with it with no conscience, good luck to you, but me I couldn't. I know I would dislike what I had done and I would feel that I had let myself down and I know that he would think me a slapper. This isn't a judgement it's experience talking. If you can pay the price you do what you gotta do, it's your bill.
2007-02-27 11:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by LMac100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There u are but then be very careful and don't even give it a tryal cus u will regeat at last. U guys can remain just friend and nothing more than that and if possible keep ur distance.
2007-02-27 11:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Impossible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like this person is offering you love or a relationship that you indicated you would like.
Besides, if he would cheat on his girlfriend to be with you, chances are he would cheat on you with someone else.
So any way I see it, you are likely going to end up with more heartache.
I would recommend cutting ties with this person, and go find someone who will appreciate you and love you for who you are.
2007-02-27 11:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Reiki Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I always say treat others the way you would like to be treated... Remember how you felt about your ex cheating on you? Do you want to be with a guy who treats his gf that way? You have to have trust.... tell him to break free and then he can get in touch with you....
2007-02-27 12:14:27 · answer #11 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋