Should I move forward?

Question

I met a young lady on a matrimonial website & we hit it off very well. She had a prior relationship 3 years ago that she ended & admits to feeling guilty about as she sorta "strung the guy along" and did not verbalize her concerns regarding their relationship that she felt wasn't everything she wanted. This young lady suggested to me that we need to meet in the early stages to assess if we should move forward with the relationship. I agreed & visited her last week after a month & a half of communicating & we had a great time...very relaxed, fun & open. We kissed & to describe the intensity of the passion, our tongues were on fire. She later told me that she holding back as she felt something was missing & she wasn't feeling something. Since then, we have had a couple of disagreements (no shouting or such) & some character issues came up. I found that she was being more defensive, interruptive and less proactive...she did accept some responsibility but I felt has yet to introspect...???

I stepped back calmly & was able to introspect, take responsibility for maybe coming across to direct very early in the forming stages of a relationship where trust etc. are still developing. I didn't feel she did that...what should I do?

I kinda felt unable to point out (respectfully) what she was doing or saying and how it was making me feel without being interrupted or her offering up some explanation that justified her words/actions. There was little empathy, emotional supportiveness or remorse on her part. The irony is that she is a Harvard trained Psychologist...what do you think?

Answer 1

Well it is hard to form an online relationship with people anyway. But if you think that you really like her don't make a big decision one mistake or flaw. Wait to see how it all unfolds and the more that comes along take it like that...If you see that its not going where you want it to go then, approach it then.. Maybe you could talk with her about the problem you have. Good Luck.

Answer 2

No, don't move forward with this. This lady clearly has issues when it comes to men. If you don't mind being strung along, go for it. Otherwise, don't put the ball in her court and wait for her to feel complete with you. She has already told you that she feels something is missing. You can spend you time trying to "be" what this woman needs but frankly, she probably doesn't even know that for herself.

Answer 3

If you feel that she is the one for you, then go ahead with it. Sure, you'll have disagreements every now and then, but that's normal for a relationship. That's all I can really say. Good Luck.

Answer 4

She doesn't sound right for you. Chemistry by itself will not make a relationship. It takes much much more - communication, respect, honesty, getting along or what you called character issues.

Answer 5

the best advise i can give you would be fallow your heart!! sit down and think about what you want i mean what you really want think about your relationship and if its meant to be then it will be!!! Everything happens for a reason and its not a mistake that you met this girl!!! so like i said fallow your heart and the rest will fall in to place!!!!!! Good luck and keep your head up!!!!

Answer 6

She doesn't sound like she's ready to move forward with any relationship. It sounds like she's always holding back and not feeling what she thinks she should. I'd back off from her. She's emotionally immature.

Answer 7

Listen to your gut instinct. Only you know if this is worth continuing to work on. Be careful, she sounds a bit finicky.

Answer 8

Follow your instincts; find someone else!

Answer 9

yes move on