The person in question is an ex.bf who a few days ago poped up after 7 months without contact.He drove around my house looking to see if i was around at 7 a.m when usually walk my dog.He works nights and goes to school during the day.He asked me to hang out and then tried to hook up with me even though he has had a gf for 9 months.I said no and felt uncomfortable.Anyway i still have feeling for this guy he was my first everything.He is the only guy i have ever had sex with and i trust him.I took him up on his offer and now feel num and empty?What can i do?
2007-02-27 03:05:11 · 21 answers · asked by Mandie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so confused but i still care about him?
2007-02-27 03:07:39 · update #1
It's done. I don't know your world view so I don't know if you would like me to suggest that you seek God's forgiveness.
Whether His or not, you should forgive yourself.
Then make a promise to yourself. Okay? And stick to it. Remember how you are feeling and promise yourself to not put yourself in a situation to feel like this again. It's your body. Take care of it, take care of yourself!
2007-02-27 03:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have given him something that he didn't deserve. He is trying to take advantage of your being weak. You need to let him go and if he tries to contact you again you should tell him that you are not falling for the "booty call" thing any longer. And you can't put your trust in someone like that, because he doesn't have your best interests or your health for that matter at heart. Do you think he is using a condom with his new girlfriend before he comes to see you? It's about filling his sexual need at that moment. It's easy "pray" for lack of a better word. You made a mistake, it's done and over, just don't let yourself be in a situation like that again. The next man that you give yourself to should have to earn it..you're better than just a piece of you know what
2007-02-27 03:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep going backwards. If he has someone else in his life it's not worth it. I had this issue for a long time myself after being with someone 11 1/2 yrs. He still calls for sex. (its been 7 years) You can't let yourself give into it cause it will not help you at all. Trust me on this one. Don't answer his calls, let it go to voice mail or something. If he stops by talk on the porch but don't let him come in the house. You are feeling the way you are because you know what it was "booty call", not the real thing. It will help your self esteem alot if you can just say no to him. Good luck and if you need anything you can email me anytime on this name at yahoo. I know exactly what you are going thru, it's not easy but you gotta stop it for yourself.
2007-02-27 03:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously does not respect his women. He has a girlfriend yet he looks up other women. Nett, he cannot be trusted to be faithful to you or anyone. Do not let yourself be used again no matter what cos his intentions are not good - he just wants to use you. That empty feeling you feel is just your heart and intuition telling you that he is NOT the one for you. Do not trust him again either. He was the first guy you got serious with so you still have some feelings for him. But he is not the one for you so let him go once and for all. Remember that you deserve someone who will be faithful and treat you with the respect you deserve. Do not settle for less.
2007-02-27 03:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel empty becuase deep down you know it wasn't right and when you have a "booty call" with someone there is no emotional attachment. casual sex makes you feel good at the time that you have it, but afterwards you are still "empty" inside since you have no emotional bond with that person that you would crave in a relationship. I would say stop sleeping with this guy and move on to someone that cares about you and will give you that emotional bond that you need in a relationship.
2007-02-27 03:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no the next time. You feel empty b/c you've given a part of you away. You will never get over him if you continue to be intimate with him. You are looking for love and affection and he is not able or willing to offer you that. Shake yourself and don't let it happen again.
2007-02-27 03:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn from this. You have those feelings for a reason and I think it should be thought of as a wake up call. Don't let him use you just because you love him. Any guy that makes you feel bad about yourself is definately not the right one. Move on and don't stop till you find the one that makes you feel as you deserve to feel...good about yourself.
2007-02-27 03:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you experience so depressed. It hurts a lot in view which you nevertheless love him and he's your first. He feels like a creep, by way of fact he's ordinary with of the type you experience approximately him and he took earnings of you. keep in mind the type you experience maximum appropriate this minute approximately it, basically keep in mind this melancholy you experience. that could desire to be reason sufficient so you might no longer do it back. i'm hoping you come across somebody who will appreciate you. sturdy luck
2016-09-29 23:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dwelling on it. What's done is done. He's no good and you know it. You feel empty because you crave intimacy. So brush off that whole experience and start thinking about finding the next special someone. You never know you may just open yourself up to find the ONE.
2007-02-27 03:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by nothesecret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to be available for him he will hang around. The reason you feel the way you do is because you know its wrong. And honestly if you do not love yourself (like you think you love him) then you will help continue the cycle. Stop being available or always around and he will get message. Move on with YOUR life!
2007-02-27 03:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by allbutsweet82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋