My boss told me there was no problem giving me the week off for my wedding in the fall and she said, she can't wait to come, but I never invited her and wasn't intending to do so. I just started the job and I am having a small wedding and reception. What should I do?
2007-02-27 03:02:38 · 33 answers · asked by kt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, she would not get an invite. You could always laugh like she's joking (and hope she is), then when she asks about her invitation say you haven't sent them out yet. She does not need to be invited, especially if you are having close family attend.
If she tries to pull the "well since I'm not invited you are not approved" go to her superior or HR.
Perhaps start looking for another job, especially if she pulls "rank" on you. It sucks you just started this job, but if THAT is her attitude and she tries to reneg on the approval, is she really worth it?
And bosses are not REQUIRED to have an invite, no matter what some people say. Especially if you are NOT close to this person. It is not required nor should it be expected.
2007-02-27 03:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My fiance said that too and he hasen't been working there a year yet...and hes a salesman so my fiance really doesnt see his boss all that much.
I'm not inviting my boss now..I dont really plan on being here that long but if I did I wouldnt.
I had about 150 in mind but our place said that 125 was the max they didnt count little kids so were able to invite a few more of our close friends but what I would do is not bring it up and when she says something about it say your trying but the place your having it at only allows you to have a certain amount of people...
or if the place can hold more say that since you and your fiance are paying your keeping it small and may not have enough room...always leave it open like someone might not r.s.v.p. and you could always invite her but dont...
thats going to be the easiest way because if you tell her I'm not inviting you she may take that personal.
2007-02-27 03:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by colie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's explore this "giving" of a week off. Do you normally get vacation days - or is it that you just started and let her know that you'll be needing that time off? Either way, she's not GIVING you anything. You either will have that time taken out of your pay or you'll get paid for it but it'll be deducted from your vacation time right? If neither of these apply and she's really GIVING you a week off free and clear, you MUST invite her. Now, as others have said, inviting her will not break the bank - but it could open the doors for turmoil...you let your boss come, can your fiance and your mom and his mom let their bosses come? Before you know it you'll have 10 extra people you had no intention of inviting. But sometimes that's life and you have to "get along to get along". I've been at my "new" job for 4 months and I'm inviting all of my new coworkers - I'm "hoping" that many won't come (there are only 7) but I'm still inviting and planning for them to be there - it's the only decent thing to do. Good luck.
2007-02-27 04:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's job security to ask the boss. She's giving you the week off the least you can do is invite her to the wedding.
2007-02-27 03:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to your boss that you are having a small family wedding and are limited on space. You would love for her to come but the guest list is tight. Most likely, she'll understand. If she insists that you can't have the week off then, go to upper management.
Congratulations on getting married!
2007-02-27 03:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by sassygachic03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just invite her...it stinks I know, especially since its a small wedding, but if you plan on working there for any length of time I would say just bite the bullet and invite her. Otherwise, just dont send her an invite, and wait for her to ask again.
Side note: yes it was rude for her to presume that she would be invited, but what can you do?
2007-02-27 03:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that your boss overstepped her place. What do your parents say, or your future spouse's parent say? That is something that should be discussed with both of them. I think that you should have been able to take off anyway. If you don't want your boss to go, don't invite her. Then again, would inviting her hurt anything? If you want to keep the relationship with her good, send her an invitation. Look at it this way : if nothing else, at least you'll be getting another gift.
2007-02-27 03:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Je veux changer le monde 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't invite her. You weren't planning on it so why do it now? Its your big day and just remember to keep it the way you want it. Just tell her you are sorry but you're having a small wedding and you appreciate her understanding.
2007-02-27 05:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Vogue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite her, I invited my boss to my wedding. What is one more mouth to feed, how much food can one person eat. But I would stop there, just your boss from the job.
2007-02-27 03:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dee G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite her, tell her only her no guest maybe she will realize you are having a small party.
Make a special invitation with the wrong time and she will show up late and you don't have to spend time with her.
2007-02-27 03:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by ajusf16 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋