i finished with this guy because i just didn't want a serious relationship at the time i met him, i didn't cheat on him or anything just wasn't able for a relationship. now months later i feel i am ready for a serious relationship and feel i made a big mistake by letting him go completely we ended things on bad terms. it was just the wrong time to met him the first time around.
has anyone ever made this mistake and did you get a second chance with the person.
2007-02-27 02:51:14 · 24 answers · asked by cd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This has never happened to me, but if id had of done i think i would move on, and when the right guy came to have a serious relationship i would go for it then!!
Dont go back to your past, your just asking for it if you do!
2007-02-27 02:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy yeah. I was way too young and afraid to have a serious relationship when I was with my first X. He was moving things way too fast, met his family, went to his family reunions, was toasted as "James' fiance to be" and I really couldn't cope. His family were really controlling too. I had to end it.
Sad thing was we ended on bad terms, we didn't even get to be mates again. Then after 5 months I realised that I made the biggest mistake of my life by letting him go. No matter how much his family drove me insane, I loved him. So I tried again to make things work. Amazingly enough, after a long talk, we decided to start dating again. Unfortunately the second time round felt different. The relationship had been damaged by the first break - up and the love wasn't there anymore. I soon ended it again and many Xs later I still haven't learnt my lesson! lol.
*sigh* Dating is such a drama. lol.
2007-02-27 03:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask hun, you'll never know if you don't. He might say yes, he might be angry and say no or even have moved on. You may be able to win him back over time, after all he has a huge leap of faith to make to trust you not to break it off again in the future. But ask anyway or you'll go your whole life wondering what if. I hope it works out for you whichever way and if you really love him and want him I hope he wants you too. I'm sure he still loves you, that doesn't fade. Just take it gently. Good luck and be brave and go get him if you can.
2007-02-27 03:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you broke things up for a good reason. You may be feeling some remorse right now because of lonlieness. Some of the problems that you experienced back then don't seem as important now. Best bet is to move on. That is unless you are over 35 and looking to get married. In that case, go begging on your hands and knees because the clock is ticking.
2007-02-27 03:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by floridaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everyone makes a mistake or two in there life. we always can charge that though if what you are saying is true then well i was in a simalar poistion and i though i was in love with this person but i was in no condision to be in a realationship or to settle down and well a few years later when i decided to start cleaning up my act i met the same person and she decide then and i decided then that we were both ready to be in a realationship together and now i've been going out with that person for almost two years now and when i met her this time she had a kid and that totally change my view on life and now i enjoy life even more now. well i hoped this helped and if it did not good luck to you
2007-02-27 03:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by liquid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go win him back girlfriend!!! Talk to him tell him you were spooked. You'll have to take the risk that he may have moved on, but lay your cards on the table. Then you know where to go from thee with your life. I hope you get him back. Just a thought but you could give him a little novelty sorry gift anyway & also think about how you would like to be approched in this situation. I don't have personal experience of this matter by the way, just thought you should know this.
2007-02-27 03:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by LMac100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made a horrible mistake and broke up with a guy because I didn't think I was strong enough to deal with his issues. It broke both of our hearts, well I figured out aweek later and thank god I saw him and apoligized and told him I could deal with anything as long as we were together, he gave me a second chance and we are now married.
So ya just explain how you felt and now how you feel.
Good Luck
2007-02-27 02:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by neicee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally have not done this, and I think it will take a lot for this man to trust you as you finished with him before. You didn't feel ready, and there is no shame in that. See if he is still free, make your apologies for your behaviour last time and ask if he wants to go out for dinner or something. If he says no, you have to respect that decision, and move on to someone else that is ready.
2007-02-27 02:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I have been there. I didn't get a second chance. The person had moved on to someone else. It hurts, but I believe if it was meant to be then it would have been. I hope you find happiness, if not with that person then someone even better for you!
2007-02-27 03:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by willie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be sure that you are ready this time? You may not get second chance. You rarely get a second chance to make a first impression........if the chance passes you again,then make the best of it.
2007-02-27 03:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋