my sons birthday is on friday but his birthday is verry important to me he passed away from sids when he was 6 weeks old on friday he wold be 2 years old i want to do some thing special for him but i just dont know what im already going to release ballones for him 42 of them because thats how many days old he was butit doesnt seem like enough and i want to do more i was thinking about makeing a cake but it seems wasteful noone in my house will eat it and i think i might get upset if some one did does any olne have any ideas?
2007-02-27 02:45:42 · 14 answers · asked by mommyofanangel06 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
So sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine the pain you must be feeling.
*****Balloons are a wonderful idea.. !!
I would encourage you to attend some grief counselling, as your pain really comes across strongly. His life had purpose, even though we might not understand it. He came into your life and showed you what love is, and he was deeply loved, that is obvious.
May I suggest maybe joining a sids parents group, or becoming active within the foundation. It may give you some peace knowing you will make a difference, even if by sharing your feelings with other parents. This would be a great 'gift' to your son.
His birthday is important and always will be, my thoughts and love are with you. God bless.
2007-02-27 03:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. The balloons I think is a wonderful idea. I think he would really enjoy that. As far as what else you could do, you could place a card on his grave signed by everyone that loved him with like a little toy or some flowers. As far as the cake goes coming from a mother of two, I think I would get upset if anyone ate it either, and I would probably not ever want to throw it out. So I would not suggest that.
No matter what you do, be sure to know that he is looking down smile at you and that he does and always will love you very much.
2007-02-27 11:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Juicy Fruit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am so sorry for your loss . Its hard losing a child. The balloons things is a good idea:) How about donating money to the SIDS research ? You could do that every year on his birthday.If it helps go to his grave site and sit with him for like a half hour . Just you and him:) best of luck hun
2007-02-27 12:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by nhmomma2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do it should be a wonderful memory of your child... the balloons are a great idea and Maybe you'd feel good about something more lasting as well - such as planting a tree in his memory somewhere that you could see it every year. Friends of ours found great comfort in this process actually. Or plant flower bulbs that will come up in the spring. Something that will give you a good memory when you see them.
2007-02-27 12:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by littlemiraclesmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sincere condolences.
How about setting up a small yearly scholarship in his name at a local school for a graduating highschool student going onto medical school? It doesn't have to be a lot. In this situation, it would be remembered and appreciated more by the student and their parents, as opposed to any of the thousand other scholarships available.
Once a year, for the next 17 years, you will be helping out a new college freshman in the name and memory of your son. Hopefully, one will go the distance and become a doctor to find a cure.
Best of luck
2007-02-27 11:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. My close friend lost her baby and he will be 9 this year - she thinks of him a lot so I understand your feeling.
You can do an "In Memory Of" in a newspaper or on a website. The balloon idea is a great one - as you release them, you could recite a poem you wrote for him, say a special prayer and speak to him. It's a beautiful memory.
2007-02-27 10:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by downinmn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a note to him and read it when you are releasing the ballons, donate money to a child in need in his name. Build a bench and plant a tree in his name then put rocks around the tree and then when you miss him you can go outside and eventually sit under the tree while you think about him.
I am sorry for your loss
2007-02-27 10:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by neicee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could write little notes on the balloons and attach them with tape or use post-its. On the notes you should write all the little things you wish you could say to him, and maybe include the ways that his life has changed yours and so on... Ya know just write your thoughts. Maybe even include on the notes any grief/sadness that you still have that you would like to move past. Just a thought. I hope you figure something out.
2007-02-27 11:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nolagirl83 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you write him a letter about what kind of a birthday party you would have had for him. Then take a ballon and some flowers to his grave with the letter and read it to him.
2007-02-27 10:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am sorry for your loss.
What about releasing some doves for him as a symbol of love and peace for him and a symbol of moving on for you and your family?
I really couldnt give much more advise as i have never had anything that sad happen to me in my life. I trully am sorry.
I hope all is well good luck.
2007-02-27 10:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋