sometimes at parties my bf gets really drunk and flirts and flirts. it doesn;t matter who it is - guys, strangers, girls, best friend's girlfriends,
at this situation, i get a very little attention from him, he's having fun... and it almost seems like he forget he brought me with him.
it is never one girl a night - basically lots of people he gets very friendly with and of course because he's very funny and good looking a lot of girls take it as complete encouragement and I have to look as they try to pull him.
it's more the lack of attention that bothers me - yet these things happened only twice - we are together ten months and the last time he was with his friends who he hasn't seen in a year.
however, when i go to a party with my boyfriend, i want to have fun with him- not all the time we are there, i'm very outgoing and maybe flirty myself - but i don't feel like i;m following him and begging for attention too.
how would you behave in my situation?
2007-02-27 02:41:43 · 16 answers · asked by petr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Set him up with a friend of yours he doesn't know and see just how far he'll go before he gets cold feet. It'll be even funnier if you can fix him up with a bloke - better still if you can film it............
2007-02-27 04:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, luckily you stated how often (or rather, infrequently) this has happened. Otherwise, I was going to suggest that he maybe has an alcohol dependency or issue. Twice. In ten months. I think you need to let him let loose and not be quite so possessive. Possessiveness is like poison; it will turn him off and make you look desperate. Just go with the flow and have fun. If it becomes a pattern, he may have problems with the bottle, but so far, there is no pattern. Just relax and enjoy the fact that you are out together and can be independently having fun within the same crowd of people. He'll find you much more attractive if you don't act like you need his attention in that kind of a situation. And you don't!
2007-02-27 10:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't know how to party, and have fun, without being drunk. His drinking could be a major problem. There's a huge difference between social drinking, and alcoholism; you may want to consider this. Sit down and, honestly, discuss how you feel about his behavior when he's drunk. If he doesn't see it as a problem, then you might want to consider finding someone that has your definition of fun, rather than the one your current boyfriend has. No woman wants to be ignored when she's out with her boyfriend!
2007-02-27 10:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it, and let him know it makes you feel a little jealous. If he really listens and cares, he will try to spend more time with you than hitting on others at parties. If he doesn't listen, then it maybe time to lose him. If he does it when you are around, imagine what else he does when you don't go out drinking with him. I had a bf that did similiar things, and I hate to tell you this, but it turned out he was cheating on me. Sorry again, and good luck!
2007-02-27 10:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by jbug742 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not doing anything wrong by flirting but I can see it might look like he's ignoring you. Do you trust him?
I say let him have his fun, because it's not hurting anyone and you don't want to be responsible for killing it. But make sure he knows which side his bread is buttered too - promise him something wild as long as he remembers you - and then deliver it. I think you would be happy just as long as he makes it known that he is with you, yes?
2007-02-27 10:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I been in a relationship like this...and if your at a party together then you should be leaving together... You have to be able to trust him and realize when your at a party together its a time of socializing and he cant be at your beckon call while having a good time with others..I say just have fun and dont worry about him...Good Luck
2007-02-27 10:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation so i told myu bf how i felt. I did the same thing then he didn't like it so he decided not to party so often anymore. Apart form it he had an ugly drinking issue which served him right.
2007-02-27 11:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id flirt with the most good looking bloke in the room and wait for him to come and say something to you then you can tell him you were showing him how it feels. Lesson learned!
2007-02-27 10:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel if that doesn't work next time you go to a party start flirting like he does and see if he likes it at all .
2007-02-27 10:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by somebodyssexygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he really isnt flirting..just a very social person..since he is a guy in a serious relationship..when he has the chance we just want to catch up with everyone..and him being friendly maybe you just think it's flirting..
just don't mind him and catch up with everyone too..
2007-02-27 10:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by moonstar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel. he might just like the attention he is getting from everyone. but if he still does it after u talk to him then maybe u should do some flirting around urself.....
2007-02-27 10:45:33 · answer #11 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋