I'm worried about girlfriend PLEASE HELP?

Question

my girlfriend went to the hospital last night twice. she came to school today late and didnt feel to well. her ex came up and said he hopes she gets better. then later he tells he to call him so he can talk to him. he is know for cheating and he has done alot of things to my girlfriend and has has cheated on me once with him so we broke up. now we're going back out and hes all of a sudden talking to her and she talks to him. i feel like killing him and he will put pressure on someone untill they do it. i dont trust him talking to her but they think they have the same kind of heart or heatlh problem but still. i dont like him, nevr have, never will, and sure in the hell dont trust him with her. should i tell him to leave her alone, tell her to leave him alone, dump her, or just not worry about it. PLEASE HELP ME!!

when she cheated on me she came up to me the next day and said she had something bad to tell me and she told me everything she did. she said she would never do it again but i have my doubts about HIM

we cant really spend time together cause my mom dont like her and i only see her at school and now im trying to convince my mom to let me stay home on sundays so i can spend time with her

Answer 1

If she cheated on you with him and doesn't have the decency to stay away from him, she's disrespecting you and you should respect yourself enough to remove yourself from that situation. If she truly cares for you she will make the effort to get YOU back.

Answer 2

WOW,
uh, difficult situation. One question, do you deeply, trully, completely, and utterly love this girl, more than yourself, more than life?

Think for a second, let all the past play in your mind, all the truth surface. Do you intend to marry her.

Ok, if you didn't say yes to both questions, Just dump her nicely and read no further...............but if you said yes to both...............

If you trully love her, there is no human way you can forget her, or not worry about it. Don't let walls build up between your relationship because you don't share everything with each other.
you MUST tell her how you feel. this may lead to an arguement, but if you don't tell her, things will just get worse and worse. If the relationship is serious, (ie she loves you too) she will respect your wishes. But be sure that you're not talking to other girls she doesn't trust. Do some research on your girlfriend's condition, learn what you can, then she can lean on you when she's having a bad time, and not MANWHORE who tries to play girls. Pray, God is the greatest help, He's gotten me through a simular situation. Good Luck, Really

Answer 3

In order for you to be ok, I think that you should let her go. I believe that people have the intentions of not cheating again, but it will more than likely happen again. This is putting way too much stress on you. I don't know how old you are, but seeing that you put that you were in school, I'm assuming you're in your teens. Don't get too caught up with something like this this young. Trust me, you'll have the rest of your life to deal with "grown-up" stuff. Be young, have fun, and don't let this get you down. It seems you're a caring person, so give that to someone who will truly appreciate it. I'm telling you this out of experience, good luck!

Answer 4

I would do something about it. If she has cheated on you before with him, and he is known as a cheater himself, that is a big warning bell already. The sudden and spontaneous conversations between her and him suggests that something could happen. You should not just ignore this. Talk to your gf and tell her how you feel about her talking to him, if she loves you she might respect your wishes. Don't dump her yet, because considering the fact that she came and owned up to you about the first time also suggests that she felt guilty, and that it would be him that pressured her into doing it. If all that fails, then you should basically step in and tell him to leave your gf alone.

Answer 5

Out of respect for you and the relationship, she should never talk to him again.

With a history of cheating and such lack of respect, you don't have yourself a winner here. $500 says she gets insanely jealous of you being around other women... especially ex-girlfriends. This is because she knows how she behaves and that she can't be trusted... so she's not going to trust other people.

You KNOW deep down that she's not the one for you.... but sometimes it's scary to think of being alone. But there's someone better for you. And being single can be alot of fun. Don't bring this drama into your life or soon you'll become dependent on it.

Answer 6

Trusting him shouldn't be an issue as long as you trust her. And if you don't, then why are you with her? Never in a million years could I imagine wanting to kill (or hurt) a girl for talking to my husband. I don't own him, he should be able to do whatever he wants and be friends with whoever he choses. If he happens to fall out of love with me and into love with another woman, that's his choice. It would make me sad but there's nothing I can do about it, he's his own person.

You can't force someone to love you. Your girlfriend either does (in which case her actions will reflect that) or she doesn't, in which case you should wish her well and go your separate ways.

No fulfilling and mature relationship should be filled with that kind of drama. If a relationship is working, it should be EASY. When I hear people say that marriage/relationships are hard, it just tells me that they aren't with the right person or they aren't mature/fulfilled enough to be in a romantic relationship in the first place.

Answer 7

Relationships are very hard. What you need to do is you need to figure out if you even want to trust your girlfriend. Cheating takes two just remember that. If you do not feel you can trust her, don't stay with her. It will only keep you in a bad relationship and you will be sad. If you do trust her, talk to her about your feelings and see what she says. If you don't like what she says, don't be with her. You are still young that you are not bound to the relationship.

Answer 8

I dont know. I would talk to your girl and explain. Be calm and just express how you feel about it. Say look baby i know you guys may have things in common but i dont trust him and i would appreciate it if you guys wouldnt talk. I mean you have cheated with him. Explain your side of the story, because shes being selfish. If i cheated on my man, i wouldnt DARE think of mentioning that other persons name or bringing them around. You've done great by letting that much go! Good luck!

Answer 9

The best thing you can do is talk to her and let her know how you feel. After you talk about it you need to trust her. Without trust what kind of a relationship would you have. If you find you can't trust her, then you shouldn't be with her. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Dont jump to conclusions too soon. Find out whats going on first. Talk to her. It wont hurt. Since she has been with him before, of course there will be that doubt. But the two most important things in a relationship is trust and communication. To me at least. Talk to her.

Answer 11

You need to talk to her. He's not the issue even though he keeps pursuing her. If you trust her (and she is trustable) he won't be an issue. You just need to let her know how you feel about it. She shouldn't be running to him with her problems anyway. She should be talking to you. If it's on a health problem they share, that's kind of understandable. But you need to discuss this with her and let her know you don't really trust him, especially because of the history. If she really cares about you, she'll put an end to it.