We have been dating for 2 + years and she lived with me for about 8 months, now she is moving out, still wants to date and have me in her life, but needs time to think things through. We became good freinds a year or two before her divorce, and something clicked between us and we fell in love with each other. It is great between us and we are in love. Her ex is a pain in my side. I know she doesn't have any love for him, but just can't be nasty and cut the ties. He has not done well with loosing her, and has gone from mean/nasty to now being nice to her and wanting to be just friends. Problem is I feel he is trying to get her back by being nice to him and playing on her sympathy because she feels sorry for hiim being alone. He had multiply affairs while they were married. Should I press her to drop him out of her life? or should I be paitent and be there for her when I can. We love one another so deeply and we have so much fun doing and talking together.
2007-02-27 02:28:39 · 11 answers · asked by j d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldnt press it , but I would let her know how I felt
2007-02-27 02:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right about the ex trying to get her back. I wouldn't press her to get rid of him or even say anything mean about him. You need to play the game too. Do whatever it takes to keep her in your life. Why is she moving out? If there are things between you that need fixing than fix it or you probably will lose her. If you come out and start acting all jealous of her ex she might be put off by your behavior. You could make it clear to her that you don't trust him and that you don't like it but don't make any demands on her.
2007-02-27 10:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JD, your girl is moving out on you, she's distancing herself. That is not a positive sign. You can't ask her to do anything at this point because more than likely it's all going to blow up in your face. If you both loved each other "so deeply" she wouldn't be moving out on you. Sorry.
2007-02-27 10:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is PATIENT..she will know that you are there for her.
Don't force her to do anything-she could retaliate,you don't want that.
just keep loving her and try to put him in the back of your mind,
Ask her from time to time if there is anything you can do for her?Showing her that you can be a man and not immiture,will win her heart..
Good Luck
2007-02-27 10:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure that she feels what you feel to her or if you feel that she really loves you as you do then you really have nothing to worry to. Just tell her to get rid of her ex to make your relationship run smoothly.
2007-02-27 10:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by nelson_maus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just keep her close, tell her how you feel, just because they where married doesn't mean they can pick back up where they left off the fact that she is moving out tells me she might not be trust worthy
2007-02-27 10:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is definitely wrong there. It sounds like it hasn't yet run its full course. I'd err on the side of caution were I you.
2007-02-27 10:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she fills the same way you do, you have nothing to worry about she know how much hurt he has caused and if she goes back to him she is a fool~!
2007-02-27 10:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need this guy out of her life. PUSH FOR IT.
2007-02-27 10:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should. do doubt
2007-02-27 10:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mihran S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋