i've only known him like 5 days and, he is obsessed with me. won't quit calling, begging for me to be with him. i don't want to. at all. he creeps me out. i slept with him once. i just don't want a relationship at all. i just got out of a really bad one. i've told him niicely and i've been mean. he is not getting it. what do i do????
2007-02-27 02:26:58 · 24 answers · asked by higa1980ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just sleep with him again...he'll be happy! You didn't mind the first time, so shouldn't the second time!
2007-02-27 02:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he calls again - answer. and say something along these lines "Look, i know what happened, and i am sorry if it was misleading, i really apologize for that, but this is not what i want now, if ever. Please be understanding, i really need you to leave me alone for a while, and if you can't respect that i can't have you in my life."
If he STILL doesn't respond... call your phone company and have them put a block on his numbers, and let him know that you are doing this because of his actions.
I hope it doesn't get worse after that. If need be... contact those he lives with or who he is close to and let them know you a really creeped out by his actions and that you need help keeping him away from you. That usually works really well.
And oh yea, anyone who wants to post a comment here judging you for your actions is just a jerk.
2007-02-27 02:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by PiaAntonia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haven't you noticed yet that if you just talk to some guys they are like this! And you slept with him! you will never get rid of him!
Best advice I have is continue to be mean, don't lead him on at all, when he calls answer and then say look I don't want to talk to you, we have nothing together! Don't go anywhere with him, don't call him and hang up on him.
I had a guy that after one date, he was like this and I didn't sleep with him and wouldn't set my self for this kind of drama by sleeping with him, I didnt even kiss him, and it took me months to get the message across that I wouldn't go out with him.
2007-02-27 02:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably is a good guy, he's just overly excited about a prospective relationship, and you're not ready for one. Just tell him straight out it's not gonna happen and he has to accept it. Don't answer his calls or the door if he stops by. He'll get the message.
2007-02-27 02:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've created quite a mess for yourself, but I'm not here to judge your morals. If he won't leave you alone, file a police report for stalking. You may be able to get a personal protection order to keep him away from you. Next time you meet a guy, you might want to get to know him better before having sex with him; you never know what you might be getting yourself into!!!
2007-02-27 02:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing for you to do is not except his calls. You don't have to talk to him if you don't want to. Sleeping with him wasn't the smartest thing to do especially only knowing him for a few days. Tell him the next time he calls you, you will call the police! This should get him off your back. Cocoa
2007-02-27 02:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first mistake you made was sleeping with someone you just met, bu you should just tell that you aren't looking for a relationship right know and tell him to quit call you.
2007-02-27 02:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tika08 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, don't answer your phone when you know it's him.
Also, I wouldn't recommend in the future sleeping with people you know less than a week.
Be firmer on the phone - "Please stop calling me" an say no more, just hang up. If it escalates, meaning if he starts following you, threaten to call the police. Then, if he doesn't stop, follow through on that threat.
2007-02-27 02:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Frankly, whatever you did with this guy is none of anyones business. I was in a similar situation. What I did is change my number. If he continues to contact you, have a restraining order placed on him. You do not deserve to live in fear of some man. I don't wish that on my worst enemy.
2007-02-27 02:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is bordering on stalking and harrassment. If he does not take no for an answer, threaten him with a restraining order...trust me...he doesn't want that on his file anywhere.
2007-02-27 02:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by joey_z40 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋