My friend is going out with a guy who has fancied her for a while, they were also best mates before they got together, but she is unsure about him as he seems to talk more to their mutual friend than her about their relationship. She told me this week she found out that he asked out this mutual mate 2/3 months before he asked her out. She said no the that time, and then yes when he asked her again a couple of months later. He had also asked out my mate over a year ago before the other girl but she said no as she didn't know him well or like him that way. I don't know if it is her paranioa or not as I don't know them or live nearby. What do you think? Does her boyfriend still want the other girl more?
2007-02-27 02:24:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw the mutual friend said no when he asked her out if that isn't clear
2007-02-28 01:50:30 · update #1
I would be very worried for your friend try to be there for her an say that you might think he likes this other girl more but be gentle especially if she really likes him tell her not to let it show but to keep an eye on them an if alarm bells ring dump him before she gets to hurt ..
2007-03-06 21:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is not about if he still likes one or the other. I think he likes both and probably much more girls too. But this is just looks. He probably is attracted to them. Still, he might have no clue about their personalities.
Don’t forget we guys get attracted by looks, everything else comes later. If we like a girl, we go after her; we meet, and go out. After we get to know her, if we like her, we’ll try to keep a good relation. If we don’t, chances are we will dump her eventually if not right away.
You girls work the other way around. I’m not saying all the guys are one way, and the girls the other, but is a general rule that can be applied in most cases.
The best thing to do for a girl on this case, is to be honest, and if she likes him, just go out with him, and let him know her. If he actually gets to like her for real (not just looks but personality as well), then he will fall in love, and if she is in love too, then problem solved! Otherwise, is a good experience, enjoy the moment, and then move on. Nothing wrong with going out on a date or many dates to get to know someone and “experiment”. It is part of life.
2007-02-27 02:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flags all the way ..........this guys like the other chicks and since they have refused him he is falling on you.............Next time when you go out with him tell him all the things which is in ur mind tell him tht u r not comfortable wht had happen if he says tht past is past and I wanna move on in my life and u r his future then dont think of anything but when u look at his eyes if u see he is trying to avoid the question then there is no future
2007-02-27 02:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should take time to work out what she wants in a relationship. i have a relationship with ny best m8 and we hav a very gud relationship. she could ask him why he keeps talking about the relationship with others and not with her? after all they are in the relationship and not the mutual friend.
you should just be there for her and let the relationship run how they want, if you become too involved or bogged down in it you might find that your life suffers as could your friendhip with your m8
2007-02-27 02:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by emmamarshall1975 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think he wants to keep them both an the line so if anything goes wrong with one or the other of them he will have the other one...
2007-02-27 02:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but yeah he prob does like the other chick more .. sounds like your friend was just on the side .. till he was done waiting for that one chickk*
2007-02-27 02:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what a looser , your mate needs to ask him who he really wants to be with make it clear she wont be treated as second best. get him to spend time with her and her alone. or better still just dump him because his interest is just not with her she can do a lot better for herself.
2007-03-07 00:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweety
but it sounds like he wants his bread buttered on both sides and his cake and eat it.
Tell your friend to walk away, he sounds like a right jerk
2007-03-05 23:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he testing the waters.He is not sure what he wants.
2007-02-27 02:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not sure what he wants
2007-02-27 03:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋