i have been married for 6 months, and i like my rings. is it okay to ask for an upgrade of my diamond on a significant anniversary 5 or 10 year.... my husband said that i should keep the one he bought me because that is the one he proposed with, but i think i could use the exsisting diamond and make a ring out of it after an upgrade.
is this a fair request ?
2007-02-27 02:20:39 · 24 answers · asked by frankfarter! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my wedding band is tcw of one carat, and my engagement ring is 1.1 tcw including a .5 carat principal diamond
2007-02-27 02:22:24 · update #1
my engagement ring is not one carat.... the principal diamond is half a carat.
the meaning of the rings is what is important to me, im just asking the question because we happened to have a conversation about it and i wanted a diffrent point of view. at the beginning of my question the first thing i said was im happy with my rings.... im not a gold digger!
in the long run he said he is going to get me another matching band to signify our 5year anniversary....
2007-02-27 03:01:47 · update #2
HAS ANYONE READ THE ADDITIONAL INFORMATION I HAVE ADDAD!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-27 09:49:31 · update #3
The one you have seems like a very nice set , however I wouldn't press for an answer right now , you have expressed a desire for one so for now I'd wait it out for a few years , perhaps then he will surprise you or your sentimental values will have grown by that time for the one you have . I won't say that your request is unfair perhaps a little early but it's one of those things that need a little time to sink in . You have much time to think it over and maybe by then you will have thought of other equally desirable gifts as well . Congratulations on your marriage also is in order also ! I'm sure he obviously loves you and will consider your request in the future also .
2007-02-27 02:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anniversary bands are becoming more popular. They're usually given on the 10th year or later. Ask him if he'd be willing to have an anniversary ring designed that incorporates the diamonds you have in your rings, that way you have your original diamonds, which mean a lot to him and an upgraded ring. Maybe a 3 stone ring with the .5 carat diamond you have now in the middle and two new .5 carat stones with the smaller ones inset down each side of the band.
2007-02-27 03:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by rockjock_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong in wanting an upgrade at a later date, but think about maybe taking the diamond that you have and put it in another setting that has a few diamonds already in it. Dress it up a little, it will make it look like new again. Basically you are getting a new ring, and at the same time you have the diamond he proposed with.
2007-02-27 03:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dee G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im gonna put this to you as fair as I can from a mans perspective. Anything more then a carat is a good size ring! Is it really that important to have a bigger diamond?? Your probably making him feel bad with your this tiny rock aint big enough for me attitude. 1 carat and you want bigger?? This is like say for example you have a full C breast and your Husband wants to "UPGRADE" your breasts to a D that would be pointless and shallow. Get my drift?? How would that make you feel?? Like sh*t! Try getting a wrap to go around the solitare it makes the ring look bigger increases carat wieght and you don't hurt your husbands feeling by asking for a bigger ROCK! Can't understand why women are so materialistic! Most women would be thrilled to have a 1 carat ring!
2007-02-27 02:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bucs_Fan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I couldve had any ring I wanted but I wanted my grandmothers engagement and wedding ring. They were married in 61 and after 40something years of marriage my grandpa went all out and got her a bling bling ring haha...but I had always told my grandmother that I wanted hers and told that to my fiance too...
well he got it and proposed...he feels bad because the main stone is about .5 carats and the others make up .25 but to me it symoblizes a long lasting love...but even my grandmother said well a cool idea would be to on your 5 yr wedding anniversary get a bigger diamond and turn the one you have into a necklace or something...
so see thats perfectly normal and ok...(if my grandmother whos ring it was in the first place and who would be offended if I did any changing too it came up with the idea) i see no problem with doing that.
2007-02-27 02:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by colie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of couples do that-there's nothing wrong with it. Alot of couple who marry young simply can't afford a more substantial diamond, and it is not unheard of to "upgrade" for a major anniversary.
Everyone on here comes from someplace different. Don't listen to those who say you're a golddigger or whatever. I saw someone on here yesterday comment that spending any more than $1000. on an engagement ring is excessive. Mine was substantially more than that, and I don't feel like a gold digger. In fact, my fiancee thought he was going to have to spend a certain amount to get what he had in mind, and was happy he only spent what he did.
My sister got a new ring for their 10th. What's wrong with that?
2007-02-27 03:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really a personal preference and if your husband will get insulted.
I am going to give my personal feeling on the subject; I DO NOT mean to insult you or anybody else with my beliefs.
I purchased my fiance a 1.75 TW (1.02 main) and if hse asked for an upgrade, I would be insulted. I purchased it for her as a gift and promise and spent a lot of money on it. I took the time to pick out a very clear diamond and place it on a very nice band with accent stones that I felt she would love (and she did). The ring represents our commitment, not a fashion statement. it represents the people we were when we got engaged and the promise made on that day.
I will buy her jewelery in the future but I will never by her a bigger diamon for her engagement ring.
2007-02-27 02:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by AntDU 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very fair request, just do closer to 5 years. I have a 5 tcw engangement with a 2 c center diamond. then my wedding band is 1 tcw. and I'm requesting an upgrade at 5 years. (I've also been married 6 months). i'll be getting him an upgrade also at 5 years. Good luck!!! Congrats on your marriage!
2007-02-27 02:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by AE 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would absolutely never do that --- and why in the world is it on your mind when you are ONLY six months married? Sheesh......
For me, my rings are special. Firstly, because of the symbolism. Secondly, my husband chose them. Thirdly, the wedding band was blessed at the wedding ceremony.
Your husband is right; anything else you are thinking of is extremely selfish. If you want "another" or "bigger" ring so bad, just go and buy yourself a dress ring on your own.
At our 10th anniversary, my husband bought me an additional band (after a lot of hinting).
2007-02-27 08:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy with a diamond, my fiance says in a few years after the wedding he will get me the actual stone for my ring, but he put a lot into the band itself,
2007-02-27 02:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋