yes we have done counseling she is a very good actress shebe lieves in making every one feel sorry for her l personally have raised 4 teenagers successfully not with problems but success my concern is l watch my 2 year old grandson and l do not truist her around him her mother made it hard for us to see her when she was growing up then suddenly dropped her in our laps. how do l respond to answers do l have to do a new question thanks
2007-02-27 02:05:21 · 4 answers · asked by shelaghann1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Someone has to be responsible for this teenager. At 17 she isn't grown enough to make wise decisions. Your her stepmother so your not the one who has to be there for her, but on the other hand your husband is her father, so he needs to have a talk with her and spell out what behaviour is acceptable and what isn't. Tell her if she chooses not to obey the rules there then she will have to pay the consequences, which is what most 17 years know. You are not the one who has to answer questions about why she isn't with mother anymore, but as a step mom you should try and be there for her. Maybe you could turn this girl around with the love you have. By talking or doing things with her just maybe you could be that one person who could make that big difference in her life. Gosh, all teens want pity so they can use that against you.
2007-02-27 02:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be very diligent around her if you are concerned with her being around your grandson. I would suggest writing down every situation that concerns you. Then go to the doctor or therapist with this in hand and ask for their advice. When you are in an office and try to recall events (even yesterday's) it isn't always easy and doesn't always come out sounding the same as it occurred. But armed with this printed proof someone should be able to help you. Perhaps your stepdaughter suffers from a bi-polar type disorder or depression related disorder (both of these illnesses are easily treated with medication, as are many others). The best route is to go armed with plenty of instances of the things that concern you and your husband. Good luck to you and your family and God Bless.
2007-02-27 02:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some hidden dislike for this girl.
Have you tried to stop and put her shoes on? She was dumped by mom. Now shes' at a place where she wasn't allowed.
her mom more than likely dumped her off because she has become a "problem" child, but its not her fault.
Maybe she is wanting JUST ONE person to feel sorry for her........what's wrong with that?
I feel alot of dislike in your words. GO back to counceling! So what if you FEEL you raised 4 others. Try giving her the proper care now then!
2007-02-27 02:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's kid is it?? you state "her mother made it hard for us to see her when she was growing up then suddenly dropped her in our laps" as a step kid it would be your wives child, and most step children hate their step parent, I would voice my concern about her around the grandchild to your wife and see her reaction, your grand child is in your care and you really need to heed your inner warning about the kid,, I would also continue counseling,and tell the councilor about her manipulative behavior, also seek help from a Psychologist not a psychiatrist
2007-02-27 02:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋