I have a relative whom I'm half-way estranged from, whose idea of any contact is for her to send me stupid spammy messages which usually direct you to send that to a certain amount of people and send it back.
Up until now, I haven't said anything to her because I don't want to risk further estrangement by hurting her feelings, because I know that in her own way she's trying, but I'm quite offended that the only time she thinks of me is when she send me these stupid messages that have the potential of damaging my computer (no matter how unwittingly, if the message is an attachment).
I have made the effort by sending her real e-mails that talk about the weather and other positive things, although it hasn't been easy because we are avoiding the elephant in the living room and between us there is no way to point it out without further estrangement.
Some people have said in her defense that this is better than nothing. But I'm inclined to disagree. What do you think?
2007-02-27 01:50:53 · 6 answers · asked by flyhasitall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All of the above is mostly about peace in the family.
2007-02-27 01:51:17 · update #1
To Janeanpat: Unfortunately, being direct with her and blocking her e-mails isn't an option. The problem with her is hypersensitivity and it takes nothing for her to get extremely offended. Also, blocking her e-mails would defeat the purpose of trying to mend fences with her.
2007-02-27 02:06:49 · update #2
Send her your question...maybe she'll catch on.
2007-02-27 01:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't mend fences unless you confront and clear up whatever situation there is between you. It will always be there making the both of you uncomfortable. After that the relationship will either work or it won't. If it works, great. If not then that's one less person that you have to worry about cluttering up your life. I know this sounds harsh and coldhearted but life is way too short to deal with bullsh!t.
2007-02-27 04:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to send your her spam. Seriously, this isn't something that serious. If she gets upset over that, how immature and ridiculous she must be! Or, block her emails, then you won't have to see them. I think you are really overanalyzing this.
EDIT: Well, if you can't block her emails and you can't talk to her about it I don't know what else to tell you. I suppose you could try a round about way of telling a family member and having them relay a sugar coated message to please not send any spam, but then she would probably get upset that you didn't come to her directly. Sorry, I am out of options.
2007-02-27 01:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,,maybe i am not the diplomatic type,,but i told a close girlfriend not to send me email unless she is writing it to me,,as i dont know whats attached to the email she has received and i dont want a virus. her computer crashed a few weeks back and it took her 2 weeks to get it running again,,,cant imagine why it crashed! but even as blunt as i was,,she still continues to do it,,so then i figured it was better to just delete them,,so thats what i do now,,,delete them without opening. because in the grand scheme of life,,that small stuff just dont matter.
2007-02-27 02:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what is more important to you: peace or stopping the spam. I have friends who forwarding messages is their idea of contact also. I've got to say, I love mass deletions. I know they were thinking of me but I don't feel the need to read everything they forward on.
2007-02-27 05:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my brother. I very politely told him that I would much rather hear how he and his family are doing than having my email so conjested with stuff I really don't have time to read.
2007-02-27 02:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by frenchfry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋