well Im the type who waited a long time to get into a relationship because of lack of trust until I fell head over heels in love and couldnt help it :P many months ago. but Im a christian and hes not and he doesnt value or even like talking about my views it always ends in an arguement...which is bad cause its important to me and talkin about opinions makes me happy but he thinks Im gonna try to convince him of something. we love eachother though and other than that we get along great and are nearly planning our futures off eachother. everyone says find someone who respects you following your views...on blogs and stuff about love. that was what got me thinking so I asked him if he will respect me if my views dont change he said "I dont care. Im me your you" so I really dont know what to think. could this turn out to become harmful?
2007-02-27 01:38:52 · 9 answers · asked by infoseeker07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See.... Nothing against you, but this is why I dont like people who are overly religious. They take EVERYTHING WAY TOO SERIOUSLY!!!! Girl... YOU HAVE A GREAT GUY! THE QUESTION BECOMES: Are you going to let your insecurities tear apart your relationship? HE thinks differently, THATS IT! GOD WANTS US ALL TO BE HAPPY! Right? So GO, BE HAPPY! YOU have your faith, YOU know what you believe. You dont have to convince him to think like you do, and he doesnt have to convince you to think like him. Its FREE WILL to believe however you want to believe. Being truly happy with another person is a blessing. DO NOT tear that apart, or let it go. You didnt find someone who thinks exactly like you in this area, but you obviously get along well and love eachother.... so DONT be crazy. Stick by your man, (I mean god), and stay with the ones you love. You can have both, you just dont need to have him "follow" your views. You've got a church for that... TONS of people who follow your views. Go talk to them! I wish you the best of luck in life.
2007-02-27 01:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could turn out to be harmful.
Your love of god satisfies a need inside you, I'm sure that he has some need that he needs satisfying, say for example, what happens if you stop cooking for him, or doing his laundry or satisfying his sexual needs.
In a relationship, you must include him in your life and he must include you in his life, not just talk about it, actually do it together. Sure there will be things that you do without him and there will be things that he does without you, but how important to you is your love of god?
To many people it is the most important thing, that is why people get married in churches. It is a way of telling each other that they will both be living by the rules of that church.
Some people I met once told me about how, he was going to hell, and she was going to heaven because she believed and he didn't, and she couldn't handle being with someone who was going to hell, so she broke off the marriage. Some other people I knew for a while were in a similar boat, she went to church and he didn't, she kept bugging him, and he rebelled, eventually he left her because she wouldn't quit bugging him about church.
Some other people I knew were in the same boat and they have gotten along well enough, and I think they are still together. But for the most part, it seeeeeeems that people who are of the same religion have a better relationship.
2007-02-27 01:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by dd_lee123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be possible to marry and still keep your views. You just have to understand, that, he isn't going to be very attentive toward your Christian beliefs. Either you go into marriage knowing that and make it kind of a non-issue. Or, you make your Christian values bigger than him and don't get married, knowing this will always be a problem.
2007-02-27 01:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what his religion is but mine and wife were different and it didn't work out. She is catholic and I'm pantheistic. I had no problem with her raising our kids in the catholic church, but what she did was try to keep them away from me in all respects. My kids are all adults now and totally appreciate what I did in not trying to force my beliefs on them. In fact the 3 of them lean more towards my belief than their mom's.
2007-02-27 01:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he has given you "permission" to be yourself. Do that. If you want to go to church and stuff, then do it. He just needs to know how involved you are up front and what to expect in terms of how often, etc. Be honest now and don't hide yourself. People of different religious backgrounds and upbringings do this all the time.
2007-02-27 01:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone is entitled to their own opinions on politics and religion, and I think as long as you don't try to push your beliefs onto him, or make him feel bad in any way bc he doesn't have the same beliefe, you'll be fine. there are plenty of relationships with mixed religions - as long as he respects you, you can agree to disagree on this.
I would also suggest not debating it anymore - move forward.
2007-02-27 01:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ther is a full possibilit for this relationship to have an unhappy ending. it's alright if your guy doesnt shares your ideas or opinions but he must have faith in you that u'd never force your opinions on him.
2007-02-27 01:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. its not harmful . he is a nice guy. he is cool. Nice attitute. Jus don argue over anything...
2007-02-27 01:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by ee2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say just be ur self and he will love u no matter what u choose.
2007-02-27 01:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋