I am about to get a divorce after 13 years of marrige. I so long to be loved and to love another. I got married when I was 21 and after both of us finished college, we went different ways. It is difficult to think about dating again but I feel so alone. I want the happiness back that only a respectable female can give. Any comments?
2007-02-27 01:31:58 · 15 answers · asked by dogbite1562 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have experienced what you are experiencing right now. It has been seven yrs now since my divorce. Only you know what your desires are. I am of course a female. Now is the time for you to take this opportunity to sort out your problems with self. Don't rush into anything. Pray to God for your next love and go about the procedure in a spiritual way if you want to be blessed with a spiritual wife that will love you with understanding. Sometimes when we rush into things without God's help we then find ourselves miserable. So far I am happy and is not looking for anyone. I am now concentrating on loving everyone around me in a positive way. But this is my solution for me. Seek the Lords face and he will give you your hearts desire. He won't fail you. I am now concentrating on loving everyone around me in a positive and Godly way. But, this is my solution for me. Seek the Lords face first and he will give you your hearts desire if that is what you desire from him. Then you will find happiness.
2007-02-27 02:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good 18 months before it would be FAIR for you to try to love someone else. Chances are you will end up with someone not quite right for you, selected strictly out of emotion and you will unfairly hurt that person. A person innocent of anything you have been hurt by in the past. As a divorced male I made every mistake in the book. Drank myself silly, spent stupid money, defiled every willing woman possible. But in the end I came through it made my peace with those I hurt and am a happily married man once again. I wouldnt trade my life for anything. Patience grasshopper - patience. You have been lucky enough to have been given a second chance. Enjoy it.
2007-02-27 01:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is the pathway to depression. Find some friends and if you really need that feeling of love, then they say that eating about 40 kilograms of chocolate will give you enough of a particular chemical that will make you feel like you are in love. But then eating 40 kilos of anything in 24 hours would probably kill you, so maybe go to the doctor and suggest that you might be in the initial stages of depression, and he might be able to recommend a counsellor for you to talk to about your feelings and the break up of your marriage and emotional state.
BUT don't just go out and get yourself a shag, it's one of those things that you can regret for the rest of your life.
2007-02-27 01:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by dd_lee123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your self for a while to heal the pains then you can look for another lover. But if you think that finding another lover is what will make you happy then go on. Love is something that you can hardly control. If you know that you've found someone you love then go on. But if you haven't found someone else, make sure you look for somebody you are going to trust and whom you know is going to make you happy always. Don't look for somebody that you will break up with so soon.
2007-02-27 01:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to give it time trust me
i was alone for 8 yrs after my divorce and i loved it
i got to know my self again
did things i wanted to do
worked on myself went back to school
and out of the blue i met my mr right
i was not looking for him he just popped into my life now i am the happiest i have ever been
i am happy with what i did in those 8 yrs and how i grew as a person as ME not as a wife or mother
it was great let it go you will find mr right when the time is right
2007-02-27 01:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have to answer this one yourself, do you feel ready?
being single isnt all it's cracked up to be. If your depressed you need to find out why, a women isnt going to change that you have to find it within yourself. Im in the same circumstance as you but have a daughter, I too want happiness and want to give love and get love in return, that is the quest and the journey. good luck.
2007-02-27 01:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my own experience...staying single and uninvolved for appx. 2 years gave me a sense of Independence and self esteem as well as making me self reliant enough to consider going into another relationship. I'm not saying be a hermit, just don't get too close for quite a while. Build yourself.
2007-02-27 01:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL LET ME CONGRATULATE U FOR HAVING SUCH AN OPEN MIND INSPITE OF ALL THE HURT U MUST HV FACED SO READ THRU AND FOLLOW IF U AGREE
THERE IS NO HARM IN TRYING TO FIND LOVE AGAIN GO AHEAD AND TAKE ON THE WORLD . ONE PIECE OF ADVISE IS THAT DONT MAKE ANY COMMITMENTS TOO SOON BECAUSE RT NOW U R IN A VERY EMOTINAL FRAME OF MIND SO WD NOT BE ABLE TO MAKE RATIONAL DECISION .TAKE YR TIME TAKE TIME TO FIND YR TRUE LOVE SO IT LASTS A LIFETIME.
GOOD LUK
2007-02-27 01:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by ng2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for your pain. i was in a very similar position, my husband of 10 years left me, and i was so hurt and lonely. i ended up falling for the completely wrong guy because he showed some interest, luckily i saw it for what it was before it was too late, then i decided to take some time to myself the next week i found the man of my dreams and was luck enough to recognize him as that even though he was not even remotely what i thought i was looking for.
what i am trying to say is take some time for you, if you are meant to find another it will happen despite your best efforts, not because of them
2007-02-27 01:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Allow yourself time to heal first.....whether you think you need to, or not. Your heart has just been torn out of your chest, and it takes a while to heal. If you jump right back into a relationship, usually it doesn't last. Go out with friends, have a good time, just don't get too serious, too soon. Good Luck!!
2007-02-27 01:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋