Me and my boyfriend have been together for more than a year now. We've been having sex since...I can remember. The thing is, I don't want to have sex anymore...I'm not using any birth controls pills and I also don't want to start taking them because most girls gain weight and I'm only 17! Is it unfair of me to expect him to go along with this and still be with me or do you think that he will leave me as soon as I tell him.
Pls just honest answers from your own experience ect.
2007-02-27 01:30:28 · 44 answers · asked by primadonna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WELL THE POSSIBILITY THAT HE MIGHT DUMP YOU IS ABOUT 100%. But you never know, it depends on what kind of guy he is, I can't really say...I've never been in a situation like this before. It is selfish of you to expect of him to just tag along you know, he might start to cheat on you? I think yo might as well break up with him as soon as you tell him..Sorry ;-?
2007-02-27 01:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Yollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only reason you dont want to have sex with your partner is because you arent using birth control then he could always use condoms! From my experience of the pill injection i never put on any weight and i was on it for 3 years, as long as you dont eat more than what you did before the injection you'll be fine. Dont be paranoid about your weight your young and active so you should be fine, the pill injection lasts 3 months and doesnt hurt and just keep doing the same stuff you do daily and i assure you, you wont put on any unwanted weight good luck
2007-02-27 01:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you saying u dont want to have sex or you dont want to take the responsibilty of having sex by taking the pill? there are other forms of contraceptive such as condoms the coil and there is an implant now u can get put in ur arm which is effctive for 3 years i think! but i would advise a condom anyway because you could end up catching something. im concerned about what u been using for the past year with this guy and why now the sudden change?? talk to your local family plannig clinic they will be able to advise you on what is the best thing for u. as for him leaving u, well if you seek advice now there maybe no need for him to do so??!!!! good luck!!!
2007-02-27 01:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by emma b06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether you have had sex before or not if either of you choose not to have a sexual relationship, the other should respect that.
Having sex is something fun and loving in a relationship and should only happen if both people want it to.
You have been together for a while and if he respects you your boyfriend will understand this decision and won't be shallow and dump you.
Talk to him about how you feel, if he won't respect your wishes you may be better off without him.
There are men out there that only have one thing on their mind but you have been together long enough to talk things through.
Its your choice at the end of the day, please don't let fear of losing a man make you feel you should continue having a sexual relationship.
Good Luck x x
2007-02-27 01:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by BlondeBabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to ask yourself, is why dont you want sex with him anymore? You've obviously been sexually active for a while. Ask yourself how you would react if it was your boyfriend who suddenly didn't want sex with you!
You decided that you were old enough to start a sexual relationship, yet it doesn't sound like you are being very responsible. You really should be using contraception. The pill is not your only option.
You are entitled to change your mind about your sex life and what you do with your body, just dont be too surprised if your boyfriend finds your decision a little hard to except.
2007-02-27 02:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something tells me there is more to this than meets the eye. Why don't you want to have sex anymore? This has nothing to do with your method of contraception. Could this mean that your no longer enjoying the experience?, if so why not? I think you should identify why you aren't having enjoyment and if its something that can be worked on like perhaps technique then be completely honest with yourself and your partner and see if you can sort it out. Perhaps visit your GP, Relate or a sex therapist. If you care for him and don't want him to dump you then work at it.
Good Luck hope it works out for you.
2007-02-27 01:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell girl - Im prettysure he wont be happy with this!!! I cant talk from personal experience as i never found the pill to put any weight on - why not ask your doctor for one like mine - its called celiste - even then I think the weight thing is a slightly fabricated story - Ive never known anyone to balloon out with weight from the pill!
I think you should give them a try - if you do see yourself putting on weight THEN start to worry - but trust me hun, a few extra pounds here and there are much nicer than having an unplanned baby in your belly! Particularly at 17!!
xx
2007-02-27 03:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I suggest using a condom. If you say that you are concerned you might get pregnant & you would like to stop having sex unless he takes precautions. This is not completely safe however but it would be better than nothing & will help prevent STDs. Don't rule out the pill completely though. I started on it at 17 & didn't put on any weight.
2007-02-27 01:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by FC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't really see anyone going for this. You're changing the whole fabric of your relationship and I don't think that's fair. Are you sure that you aren't really saying: 'I don't want to be in a relationship right now - I'm only 17 and I need some time to discover myself'?
That sounds more like it. I can't see him sticking around as our boyfriend under these circumstances but if you are honest you may be able to salvage a good friendship out of it.
Best of luck.
2007-02-27 01:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. . . don't worry about the pill! iv been on the pill since i was sweet 16, I'm 19 now and i haven't put weight on! the doctor will find the right pill that suits YOU! but as you get older you will start to get more of a women's body as your still growing! I have heard the injection makes you put weight on, so give it a go! good luck! xx
2007-02-27 01:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you dnt wanna gain weight? Grow up and look to other forms of birth control, if you really dont wanna give up sex. And if he dumps you cos u actually cant be bothered to work this through together.. well you're as bad as each other then.
Talk to your doctor and go through the options if you want to carry on your sexual relationship. Mind you, your bf may understand.. you never know.
2007-02-27 01:37:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋