a year and a half ago my step daughter came to live with us she is now 17 her mother could not control her, we have been firm with her made her go to school etc. she is very promiscuous her mother is her legal guardian but refuses to take her back l do not want her in my house anymore her father agrees we have done everything we can, she says she wants to go live with a friend and her parents is that legal if she runs away are we legally responsible and can we make her mother take her we live in florida
2007-02-27 01:29:11 · 8 answers · asked by shelaghann1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Has this girl seen a therapist? If not, than no you have not done eveything you can. She is still a minor and you have to step up to the plate no matter how hard it is. I used to work for a special needs counselor, who patents go to as a last resort. Some of her clients have beenon drugs, tortured animals, slept around, Parents need to recognize that they brought children into this world and because its not the way they want it, they wash there hands of them. I know how hard it is and how devestated iyou can become. It is hard. Depending on the state you live in, parents can be responsible for their childrens wrong doings. My suggestion is to look for a counselor for her and yes she can be forced to go, even if you need to take her mother to court, the judge can enforce certain things. You can also call the local police station and tell them your situation and they can send her to a host home. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-27 01:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by tcg7213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to live with my father and i was a teen and I got pregnant and had a child and my parents never wanted me to run away nor would they have let me. If she is promiscuous that is a sign of needing love b/c she feels like she is not getting it at home.
Do you want her to become a prostitute on the street. Get her some help look into things. take her on a talk show and if she needs it they will help you get her into boot camp.
All she wants is love from her parents and she will grow out of the bad things and fix her life when she gets older. If her having s@x is a problem then just make sure she has proper birth control don't let her go. get her on the pill, the patch and make sure you tell her how many people have the aids virus and get her condoms and make sure she carries them on her all the time. If she gets in any other trouble make her go through the probation and the court system. But please do not let her go.
2007-02-27 09:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems too many people toss their children away when they become a problem. The unfortunate part of this is it isnt mentioned how anyone loves her, listens to her, its all about making her go to school etc. She is promisicous because she is seeking love. Her father your husband should be alot more sympathetic towards his daughter rather then forcing his ex to take her back. Is it possible that you do not feel connected to her? You married her father, he is responsible for her. You saying you do not want her in your house anymore is very unfair of you. This is the reason why teens run away, get pregnant. Tell your husband her father, to step up to the plate and talk to his daughter. If he cannot relate to her his own flesh and blood what does that say about his empathy and love for his daughter. Very sad excuses for both parents. And sadder still for the child. I gather you do not have children as you do not have any maternal instincts for this girl. If I were her father. I would take my daughter and himself and get his own place so you can live in peace.
2007-02-27 10:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is 17 in most states she is not a adult and she is acting out for a reason i doubt that this girl just fell out of the sky i bet you knew she was in the picture when you and her father were married she isnt a pet thats acting up and you can find another home for her father and her mother need to be involved in find out the real reson shes acting this way. as for being legally responsible i dont know but her parents need to get beyond the legal and move more towards the ethical. with so many people telling her they do not want her no wonder shes misbehaving she doesnt think anyone cares
2007-02-27 09:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You being the Step parent you can only just support your husband especially her being out of control. This is her mtoher fault she had the child child got out of control and know she does ot want to deal with her. Yes I believe at the age of 17 yrs old she is legal to live where she wants but must stay in school. Just pray for her. One day she will come back to you and say that old saying You were right and I was wrong I am sorry. I will be praying for your whole family. May God bless you! Keep us informed
2007-02-27 09:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds a lot like me when I was a kid and went to live with my dad and stepmom. Turns out, my stepmom sat me down and said to me, "ok we're starting over, fresh slate". She spent more time with me, listened to me and even though she ended up leaving my dad. I consider her a mom to this day because what she did helped me so much.
It seems like you guys are really trying to just push her out the door and not have to have any responsibilty for her at all.
I didn't know that people could create kids and then just dump them out on the street like that.
If shes that out of control contact department of human service and get a pins petition or in the south I believe it may be fins
That will have her go in to court, have a case worker and they will moniter and enforce certain rules.
Worst case, she gets taken by the state, but that doesnt seem to be that big of a deal to you guy seeing how you just want her out of your house instead of trying to help her not ruin her life.
2007-02-27 09:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her mother and her father need to step up and be parents....she's the most important person right now. You don't "throw" away your children.
Her parents need to take her for family counseling....their daughter has some problems but you don't get rid of her because it's not convenient.
2007-02-27 09:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever set down and really talk to her? something is causing her to act up and most likely she is feeling that no one loves her so she see sex as her only way to get love. if that doesn't work try military camp or something similar.
2007-02-27 09:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋