I don't really want to be "friends", I've been out with other girls...but I keep thinking about HER. Is this ever going to end? I'm getting sick of it.
2007-02-27 01:28:36 · 13 answers · asked by Skeezix 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...I know how you feel dude. I'm going through the same kind of silly self inflicted nonsense you are. Self inflicted pain really hurts miserably too...doesn't it? YIKES!!! It's only been 4 months for me now...and she's absolutely let me go twice now...with no explanation of any kind from her really. Geezez!!! I'm certain all women have their reasons for dumping us...but only cowardly people leave relationships without explanation. How are we gonna ever be better partners for somebody else, if we don't know why we're being let go? It is our responsibility to move forwards...not backwards. Nobody's perfect dude...not even your ex girlfriend is perfect. Let time be your best friend...and get out in the world and enjoy everything it has to offer you. Standing still and stuck in your own pain and sorrow will absolutely lead you to no where's good. Get off that treadmill of pain and take your first step forwards into your own new light. Find some reasonable women to be with occasionally...and go out and live life generously for yourself. It's our own fault when we stay stuck on nonsense seriously. Now get out your shovel and dig yourself out of this rut. No one else can do it for you dude...not even your ex girlfriend. Be a man and stand up for yourself my friend. It'll be an attractive feature on you if you DO!!! I'm digging out of my own silly rut as we speak. Do it with me dude too. You'll be happier eventually if only you try. (too much info)
2007-02-27 01:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you do.
Focus on you. Did you listen to the things she said that caused the breakup? If you ever want her (or anyone else), you must focus on yourself now.
Change your life for the better (i.e.- get an education, a plan, set some goals, get busy on you.)
Don't be the same person you were, if there are changes you feel you need to make, then now is the time.
It's also possible that you mainly remember just the good times, and you have a non-realistic, idealized memory of how good it was. This is not the truth of the matter.
By clinging on to the past, you are letting some good ones get right by you. There will never be another her, but you will find someone different in time.
The best way to find someone else is when you are NOT looking for them. Get busy improving on yourself, and you will see that everything else will fall into place.
Trust me.
2007-02-27 01:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Krystoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe in the Holy Spirit? If you haven't forgotten is because something very powerful inside of you moves you to keep connected with her, at least spiritually...Look, have you heard from her? How did her life turn out? Look for her, call her, write to her. Do something! Don't stay like this forever. Maybe she loves you too. The best thing is to find out and for that you have to make contact with her. If you don't want to be "friends" then stick to this descision and try to make the best of it. IF she doesn't love you back then you have to find a way to let it go by focusing on what you do now, and the reasons why the relationship ended. Lastly, have faith, faith moves and changes everything! Don't give up before the miracle happens!
2007-02-27 01:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by EV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just haven't found anybody special or significant enough to take your mind off of your GF. I had a lot of BF's before I married and I found it hard to get over some of them as well. Keep on searching and keep your mind on the present. Best of luck and I hope I've been a help.
2007-02-27 01:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's been 2 years since my husband left me. As much as I date and get asked out, nothing works out because I think about him. But, recently, I have been working hard on getting over him and I think it works. Think about it, people don't break up just to break up. There's a reason they are your ex and you should keep it that way. Otherwise, history will repeat itself. Pin point all the things you dislike about her. Intensify it until you get to the point that you convince yourself that you would NEVER date anyone like that again. --Of course, because of this, I haven't dated since November. But I'm sure that when I meet the guy I'm destined to be with, he will have all the qualities my ex didn't have. Keep your head up, rationalize, and analize all you want.. You'll get it.
2007-02-27 01:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't help but remember her because we are our memories. Just turn the light switch off when you think of her and think of something else or get busy doing something else. Surround yourself with people and before you know it you will have a whole other life. Good Luck
2007-02-27 01:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't get over her as long as you keep thinking about her and obsessing about her...there is a reason that you are an ex-. Think about those reasons.
2007-02-27 01:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. You're stuck on stupid over a chick who couldn't care less about you. What does that say about you as a person? You need to get over this and move on with your life. Don't EVER allow anyone this much control over your mind. That's cruel and unusual self-punishment. Now, Go get laid!!!!
2007-02-27 01:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have some unfinished business.
A deep emotional attachment.
2007-02-27 01:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww. thats so sad. well just tell her how you feel and ask her if she can tell you anything thats gonna be a turn off about her.
do you get what im saying bubby?
♥ ,
Your sissy
2007-02-27 01:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋