my aunt was suppose to come down to see me this weekend. she is my favorite aunt lika a mom to me cuz i don't have one. 2 days ago i called and ask her if she was still coming to see me guess what she said '' oh taylores got her banquet thing this weekend, so i can't come'' how dumb is that she goes to all of that spoiled brats functions. gymnastics,dance class 3 of em, cheerleading,basket-ball u name it she does it. i know thats her daughter but come on i was really looking forard to her coming. she was'nt even gon tell me thats she was'nt coming. im mad at her. and my question is. should i be mad, should i tell her how i feel ?
2007-02-27 01:21:57 · 14 answers · asked by it's HG !! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No don't be mad she's busy and you mom shoudn't flake out on you either.
2007-02-27 01:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you're disappointed that you didn't get to see your aunt and she should have told you about the change of plans as soon as she knew. That being said. . .
Her daughter's activities are very important to both of them and she needs to be there to support her daughter at special events like banquets and such. It's not being spoiled to have a loving mother who is there for you. Think about how Taylor would feel if her Mom missed out on an important event in her life. She can postpone the trip to visit you a week or a couple weeks, but Taylor only had that one banquet. Please be understanding...when you're a parent you'll understand.
As far as telling her how you feel, sure you should. Tell her you were really looking forward to her visit and you're very disappointed she couldn't make it so you're excited about re-scheduling very soon so you have a chance to visit! And by the way, you hope Taylor's banquet was a smash! Oh, and next time, could she let you know earlier that she couldn't make it so you could have time to re-plan your weekend.
2007-02-27 01:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest with you, I am seeing two wrongs here. First, your aunt was wrong to brush you off like that. I hope it was just a simple misunderstanding. Yes, I think you should tell her how you feel. It sounds like you are as important to her as she is to you, so I hope you can work things out.
I also see some possible jealousy with your cousin. I would like you to try and maybe turn that around and be supportive of her accomplishments. Has your aunt ever offered to take you along to any of her activities? Have you ever asked? It would be a good opportunity to spend more time with your aunt and get involved with something new. Who knows, maybe you and your cousin could become good friends.
Good luck in whatever you decide. I wish you the best!
2007-02-27 01:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Aunt has a lot of responsibilities on her side. Just because he life is busy, doesn't mean she doesn't love you! I know it's a let down that she can't come at this time, and I fee bad for you. How about call her and have a nice long chat on the phone?
Try to be understanding even though it is hurtful.
2007-02-27 01:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be mad. Well, if she is willing to come down to wherever you live in the first thing, that's enough to ask for. But, she had something come up, that shouldn't be a big deal. Just keep in mind that there's a next time. She loves you (I'm hoping), and you love her. That's all that matters.
2007-02-27 01:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Luke 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were really looking forward to her visit and would like for her to make some time for you too. If the two of you are as close as you say then you don't need to get into a fight over her daughter and the time Auntie spends with her.
You could also propose a visit from both of them that way Auntie won't have to choose she can spend time with both of you.
2007-02-27 01:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes,when you calm down and when she calls you or you call her just express to her how you got your feelings hurt,you could also add that a phone call would have been nice,ask to set up another visit,making sure nothing is planned and tell her what those visits mean to you,
Send her a cared telling her you miss her,can;t wait to see you.She might like that.
2007-02-27 01:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
sounds like your the spoiled one
you think you are the only person in her life
as a mother MY KIDS COME BEFORE ANYONE even my nieces
does your mom come to all of your sports functions and such
maybe you need to talk to your mother about your feelings and not be mad at your aunt
2007-02-27 01:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think you could be the spoiled brat here. there her daughters and she is bound to go to there stuff, she can visit you any time. when she said she couldn't come you could have said you were really looking forward to her visit and does she think she could make it another week or something or maybe you could have offered to go and visit her
2007-02-27 01:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is being a good Mom to her children ...I personally don't think you have any grounds to be angry with her. Instead to getting upset about her being to busy to come see you ...take a trip to go to her...you don't have kids to worry about.
2007-02-27 01:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by *Alice* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋