I have found out that they are in contact several times a week, and occassionally he will drop by to visit her. When I try to discuss how this makes me feel, He gets very angry with me. I have asked that he stop hidding the phone calls and start letting me know when he plans on going over there. I don't think this is asking to much, but he says I am being controlling. We have been dating for two years, and this problem has been going on most of the time. I am tired of not knowing what is going on, and I am tired of the secrets. I like him a lot, but I dont think anything is going to change. I could use some advice.
2007-02-27 01:19:26 · 11 answers · asked by sunshineasd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is keeping this secret from you, imagine how many other secrets he is or will keep from you later on. If he truely loves you and wants to be with you, he would tell you when he is going over there. It sounds to me that he is keeping a lot more from you than just the visits. My fiance will tell me when he gets a email from his ex girlfriends. I trust him because he tells me. There is obviously a lack of trust in your relationship, and because he is not willing to talk to you about it, I would dump him. Everyone deserves a companion they can trust. Trust is the most important part of a relationship.
For Shannon: When you are in a relationship, you should expect your significant other to tell you where they are going. I call my fiance when I go to the store (If he's not home from work yet). If I come home and he's not there I worry. I always like to know where he is, just so I know he is ok.
2007-02-27 01:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all are they sleeping together? Second of all you in all honesty can't expect him to tell you where he is going all the time. And if you think they are sleeping together ask hi or ask her and if their stories do not match or you just don't beleive em then rethink this relationship.
2007-02-27 01:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still getting benefits from her. Others probably are, too. Use protection, or drop him. Anger is a deflective defense.
2007-02-27 01:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him go. He's so defensive cause he's got something to hide. Obviously, he's still not ready to let go of the sexual side of their relationship.
2007-02-27 01:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Seryus! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it now, do not invest any more of your life in a guy that cares more about a piece of @ss than you. Even if he is not sleeping with her he is disrespecting you. Move on.
2007-02-27 01:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to her, and ask her directly, if she says something like nothing were just friends, and then yo ask him, if he is still defensive and snapping then she was lieing and there having sex everytime he goes over there.. sry
2007-02-27 01:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by dizzyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's your problem? So he likes other girls, I don't see a problem. If he didn't like girls, you wouldn't have a boyfriend. I'd say you need to count your blessings, stop whining and chill.
If you don't like the set up, leave. No one's holding a gun to your head to stay with him, right?
2007-02-27 01:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him u are are going to leave him or he better start telling u the truth
2007-02-27 01:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweet84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
control and adjust
2007-02-27 01:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got to let him go girlfriend!!!
2007-02-27 01:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋