I'm getting the sense that the guy I'm seeing is seeing other people, or hanging out with women at the least. He works at a strip club and I often find him hanging there on his days off. When he first got the job there, he said all the guys that work there are trying to get involved with some of the dancers and they hang around at the bar to watch them even when they (the guys) aren't working. He said he'd never do that. Now, he'll say he's just having a drink on his days off. I straight out asked him was he seeing one of the dancers or anyone else for that matter and he got mad. What's wrong with being straightforward instead of guessing and being all shocked when your suspicions are right (or wrong). I'm happy he said no, but why did he get all mad?
2007-02-27 01:18:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because the answer is really "yes" or "that's what I'm trying to do" and he's upset that you're questioning him about it. It's called "righteous indignation," and he's trying to put you off your game with it.
If he's just some guy you're seeing and you're not exclusive, you don't really have any right to complain about what he does when he's not with you. If you don't like what he's doing (by not being forthcoming, not committing, whatever), it's time to break things off with him. If you continue to date him and are sleeping together, make sure you use a condom EVERY TIME, because there's no telling what he's doing when you're not with him.
Sorry.
P.S. Did he actually **answer** your question (whether he was seeing one of the dancers), or did he just get mad and avoid answering it altogether so he didn't have to lie to you?
2007-02-27 01:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got angry because you made him lie to you. Of course there's something going on. No one hangs around their job on their days off unless they are getting something from it.
You did the absolutely correct thing in asking him straight out. Did he answer you truthfully? Wait until he saunters on down there again on his day off; then show up down there an hour or so later. What you find should answer all your questions.
2007-02-27 09:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that make you feel secure wondering is going to ware you out. Dogs go mad people get pissed.So he doesn't like to to questioned him.
2007-02-27 09:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is seeing someone there if a guy gets like that you know that he is guilty
2007-02-27 09:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was possibly lying. a strip club many times has fringe benefits. if i were you, i would move on.
2007-02-27 09:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋