Alone but miss human contact - how to handle....?

Question

For singles out there who are not in a relationship - how do you handle being alone when you really need to have some human contact? I'm not just talking sex here, I mean just having someone to cuddle with, make-out, kiss, fall asleep next to, or just get a really big hug when you've had a bad day.....Do others alone find you miss this?? I am contemplating a friends-w-benefits thing, but it always makes me feel cheap and used after.....Any good suggestions out there?

Answer 1

The one thing that people need to learn is how to nurture themselves.....We (our generation) has put ourselves into a category of needing to be with someone to fulfill all of these empty spots we feel in our hearts when we have no-one to cuddle with etc.....It can be hard to do but trust me it can be done!

Answer 2

If it's not about sex, then why should you get a friend with benefits? It must not make you feel too cheap, you used the words IT ALWAYS, leaving me to believe you have done it more than once. If you didn't learn from it the first time, then you will once again, become someones benefit. We as people have to learn to live and love ourselves, before we can entertain the thoughts of a real relationship coming into our lives. Another person should not fill some kind of void in your life and if there's no one in our lives, we resort to cheapen ourselves and becoming a human mattress for someone else. I use to miss someone in my life until I realized... I fulfill my own self, I came in this world alone and I will leave it alone, so in the between time I learned how to love, like, cherish myself. I don't mind living alone now if that's what I have to do. When I wanted someone in my life, it was for keeps. I don't want to have to call someone over for that night and when I need them again, they maybe busy with some other benefit.

Answer 3

Hi! Well I here ya loud and clear and my man has been locked up in the pen since Oct 05 and I don't cheat and he has another 2 years left to go and it is very hard not to have contact but I love him with all my heart, I was even planning on letting him go a little while back but it had nothing to do with sex or loneliness. Anyhow I just keep myself busy with work, the boys, doing what I can to help others and have fun, I sure don't put my life on hold. It's hard at times to sleep at night but I get through okay. Hey you won't be single for the rest of your life and when you do find that great guy or he finds you the affection will be very appreciated so hey just be patient things will be cool.

Chow!

Answer 4

Well unless you have a good friend of either sex that you can visit for physical affection, then you will have to just bear it for now, it can be hard I know, but when you do meet someone it will be all the more special.
About the friends with benefits thing, if you feel used, it is best not done, but is it because you end up with sex instead of affection ?
There is no replacing someone who genuinely cares about you and can show it with physical affection.

Answer 5

I'm alone An single??Read more of these sites, that will cure most of your human answers,Till i starting reading here i felt like you think there was hope ? How after reading , i know there no hope.Just kidding you.
Life is what you make of it ,Been alone is better than being with someone an being alone.Find someone to talk with that has your interests or you want to learn there's. I know what i like till it comes along. can't be with someone just 2 have someone.2 trying.
Hope this helps you it was fun writing it. Have a great day.

Answer 6

Get a massage, a manicure, a shampoo or trim. Having someone touch you as part of a service can be comforting. All else fails hit up a bar and I'm sure no one will mind you getting cozy in a booth.

Ha ha J/k Have you considered a pet?

Answer 7

You should get out more. Try to find singles parties or events, and do things that you are interested in. That way you might be able to meet someone who shares common interest. Good luck.

Answer 8

any relationship is better than NO relationship, so if you feel like you need a friend with benefits, make sure you set the ground rules from the moment you meet.. and use protection always.

Answer 9

dont look at wat u dont have!! pay attention to wat u do have, n believe in urself!! spend time with friends n be happy with wat uv got, if u still feel lonely at home with no self comfort then get a nice big dog!! always gud for a snuggle n they r always there to greet u wen u come home, they let u cry on them, n they r wicked at keeping secrets! lol, only trouble is they tend to spread across the bed, so make sure its not too big, lol. take care xx

Answer 10

All I can suggest you do is get out of the house, and go out and meet people.