Ive been living with my boyfriend 4 Nealy a year now and whatever i do just isn't good enough. I will make dinner and summet will b wrong with it. or i will do the house work and he will pick fault. And oter little things like that.
2007-02-27 00:55:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to leave this guy, i have watched people be in relationships like this before and nothing will ever change, you have to realise its not your fault its not good enough for him, he is just an ungrateful pig.
you deserve better
2007-02-27 00:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is the same way. He proposed to me in january, do I know that he loves me, and wants to continue our relationship.
He is stressed out most of the time, and that is why I presume he does this. He finds fault in evry little thing I do, and no matter how much I do the dishes, it is never good enough.
Either your man is unhappy, he is restless or he is stressed out.
You should talk to him about it. Ask him what's wrong. Dont ever be afriad to be upfront with your man. It is important to keep open communication in a relationship, and let him know how he makes you feel when he constantly finds fault in everything you do. Ask him if there is anything on his mind.
2007-02-27 09:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because honey, anybody he's with wont be just like his mother, so even if you left him, he'll still pick on the next girl, too!! Just go and get it over with, hun!! Dumb is "Perfectionist A--!!!! My sister used to be married to a man jus like your guy for 22 years!! Well, when he came in the door, he would say to her, things like: "What's for dinner Soooeeeyyyy??!!!" And my poor sister would laugh at his "Sick-Jokes" just to keep "Peace" and that's the only way they stayed together so many years.. He called her a "Oinker" you name it, she was called horrible names, but she learned every single recipe of his mom's, and how she cleaned house, and just about everything she did, in order to please this "Monster of a Husband" and eventually left him, and then devorced his "Mean A--!!! But, she wasn't stupid, she went to a lawyer, and got 1/2 of his "Retirement" and 1/2 of whatever he made from the sell of their home!!! And she has "No Regret's" trust me, on this one!!! But, he's alone, now, and its probably because no one will put up with this type of "Sick-Minded-Behaviour!!!" He'll be lucky, if he ever gets any woman as "Well behaved, and as much like his mother as my sister was!!!" So, I feel this is why he's alone!!! If I were you, I would definately leave before you end up having to call his mom for recipe's to "Please this guy", and have to do all of those same things my sister had to do, in order to stay in the marriage as long as she did... Good Luck to you, hun!! Dont you believe a thing this guy says, you are good enough, and just let it go in one ear, and out the other, because he's lucky to have you, in the first place!!! Because you could probably be somewhere, anywhere else, where "REAL MEN" treat their women GOOD, and RESPECTFUL!!! So, always keep that in mind, no matter how good the sex is, you can always find a better man!!! And get over him!! I did, after devorcing my ex, of 18 years!! I'm alone, and believe me, its much better than being with that "Jerk!!!" When my two teens are raised up, then I will date, someone who knows how to treat a Lady, you know. And believe me, there out there!!! So, always keep that in mind! Smile!!!
2007-02-27 09:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now before you have no self esteem left or self worth for that matter.
Men like this run you down until your a pathetic mess, they do this because they are insecure and dont want you to leave them so they make sure you would never have the guts to do it.
Im been serious this will only get worse pack your stuff and leave no matter what the concequences good luck xx
2007-02-27 09:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he start like this or has this developed? If it has developed into this then think about this: just think how much he will hate your guts in five years time if he just doesn't like you now? I would be surprised if he has any respect for you as you are tolerating such behaviour. Still if you're gonna put up with it what do you expect? choice is something you both have. He chooses to dislike you and you choose to tolerate that.
2007-02-27 09:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by billiebimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has an issue and is a person unsatisfied with himself , therefore unsatisfied with everything else around him too. He is mentally abusing you to make you feel inadequate and worthless in an attempt to destroy yourself esteem. He obviously has control issues. In my opinion, you might as well cut your losses now and go find someone to share happiness with b/c this guy will not be able to do that. Sorry , probably not what you want to hear, but I was like that with my first wife , it only gets worse.
2007-02-27 09:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by EGOman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said -- nothing you do will be good enough for him -- it's him, not you and you'll never be able to do enough for him. Run from him as fast as you can before your self esteem suffers too much. You need to be with someone who praises you, respects you and appreciates anything you do for him, someone who will eat your food even if it's tempting to throw it up, just because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It sounds like your boyfriend is picking at you needlessly -- perhaps it's his way of pushing you away - maybe he's trying in his way to break up with you -- guys have odd ways of communicating. Good luck
2007-02-27 09:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem the ironing cleanin food everything i just end up saying o do it ur fuckin self then he soon changes his opinion on what i do...as i've told my bloke u don't like it find sum other mug to do it...good luck! hopefully he wont take it in a bad way he shouldn't speak to u like that least ur doin sumthing for him
2007-02-27 09:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too. All the good stuff gets wiped out by one really trivial thing,it's horrible i feel my heart sink when i know he's found a problem. I don't know the answer how to stop this,i have mentioned it a few times and he apologises and nothing really changes. I think it's a genetic problem!
2007-02-27 09:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by heebygeeby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh he sounds like my fella Victor Mel-drew that's what i call him. Either just ignore him or end the relationship. Its your call. If he is getting you down then tell him tell him how you are feeling tell him why doesn't he point out the good you do. Ask him is he happy and is it you and your relationship that he wants. Good Luck x
2007-02-27 09:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋