As a son, what can I do to stop these arguement and avoid this family to break???
2007-02-27 00:49:52 · 8 answers · asked by benjamin Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry you are going through this -- been through it, too, and it is no fun. You can't control your parents' relationship with each other, but you can make your feelings known, clearly and respectfully.
I would tell them together: Say, "Mom and Dad, I'd like to talk to you about something important." Have them sit down and make sure they are listening and not distracted -- no TV on or anything. Don't do this over a meal, either.
You can say that you have noticed that they seem to be going through a rough time and arguing a lot, and you realize that is none of your business, but the arguing is upsetting to you. Let them know how it is affecting you -- making it difficult to concentrate on your school work, making you feel physically ill, whatever it is in your case. Be sure to tell them that you love them both.
Ask them if they can please conduct their conversations in private, and in civil tones of voices. I wouldn't get into the issue of keeping the family together because you don't really have any control over that, unfortunately. If your parents are at the breaking point, and I will say a prayer that they are not, you can't stop that train.
Good luck to you, and God bless!
2007-02-27 01:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stop the argument. You cannot avoid the family to break if your parents do no care to work to keep it together.
What you can do is let them each know you love them and care about them and you are there for them both, and that you want to remain a family. Let them know how you feel when you see or hear them arguing.
You may want to talk with a counselor at school or someone from your church for your own peace of mind as well during this difficult time.
Good luck. I have been there. It's tough.
2007-02-27 00:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by YaYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
as a son you should try to talk to them separately. and make each one understand how you feel and you fears. then after you have talked to them each on your own, ask that the three of you talk together and try to work things out. remind them that you are a part of the family and that if there are problems that you feel they should at lest let you in on what is going on, that you don't want to be left out in the cold.
2007-02-27 01:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do except tell both of them what their arguing is doing to you.
Your parents have to decide how to get they help they need to find another way to solve their differences.
Just remember this has nothing to do with you...it's all about them.
2007-02-27 01:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever just think to say MOM DAD STOP i just can't take the fighting anymore PLEASE try to work this out without fighting sometimes moms and dads don't know that they are hurting everyone by thier fighting and need that shock to wakeup and see thats not just them involved anymore good luck and remember none of this is your fault
2007-02-27 01:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by mom101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. It has nothing to do with you. They need to work it out. And whatever you do, DO NOT take sides!
2007-02-27 00:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't do anything, maybe suggest marriage counseling.
2007-02-27 01:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy earplugs because they need to work it out themselves
2007-02-27 00:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋