my boyfriend has just finished (last night) with me as he has said he thought he was ready for a relationship buts hes not, as he was hurt so badly by his ex.
just a month ago he was showing me the house we were going to move into together at the end of the year.
i dont understand men i really dont.
anyway i stupidly fell in love with him and now he has broke my heart, how can i make myself feel better???
2007-02-27 00:41:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get active in something, get together with your girl friends..anything u can do to get ur mind off him will help, but the best healer of a broken heart is time..this just happened last night so its fresh..but time will heal...believe me there have been a lot of broken hearts and most have healed over time
2007-02-27 00:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy answer and i know you probably won't want to hear this but time is a great healer
Spend time with friends, have a make over go shopping join a gym etc so that you aren't just sat at home mopping.
Don't contact him if he wants to try again with you he knows where to find you, but if he does contact you be very wary about restarting the relationship. Make sure that it is what he wants and is not just using you as he is also feeling down.
Some guy broke my heart 4 months ago and i never thought i would be able to cope with all the hurt that i was feeling. I'm pleased to say that 4 months down the line that i am getting over this and actually enjoying being single something i never thought i would.
Look after yourself and remember you will eventually find Mr Right.
x
2007-02-27 10:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sorry you have a broken heart but at least he was honest with you some men can be cowards, and just stop texting.
u do understand that this was not your fault, its just his not ready for a serious relationship and when you feel like that you can't make yourself no matter how hard you try especially if you have been hurt in the past. i went through this some years ago my boyfriend finished with me and i wasn't able to be in a relationship for years. so basically his heart is not open to love anyone at the moment.
i wouldn't contact him at all its easier to get over someone when you don't see them and just look after yourself and keep busy. and tell yourself that it is not your fault just the way things happen sometimes.
i hope you feel better soon and good luck.
2007-02-27 09:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by cd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need your friends round you now to pick you back up. Go on girlie nights out and see how much fun you can have. You might not feel like going out but its best as staying in only gets you more upset and down. Things like this happen all the time, you cant be with some one if they dont want to get serious and things like that. Its best not to be with them otherwise you will get so much more hurt in the long run. Having fun is what its all abotu now. Sorry to hear you are so upset and hurting. Keep your chin up.
xx
2007-02-27 08:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With time and a better man.
It seems women, and men, enter relationships without making indepth search as to why the previous ones failed, and thus we make the same mistakes all over again. We pick the same personalities and characters similar to the ones we dumped or dumped us...as if we wanted to replay the past. It seldom work, and so we get broken heart again.
I suggest you deepen your outlook, and cast a wider net. Lots of fish in the ocean. I am sure with a little work you'd pick the right one.
2007-02-27 08:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry love, but no easy answer to this one.
Allow yourself to be unhappy and cry, but only for a while...then go out with your mates, don't stay home moping.
Try to avoid him, if you can, as it's easier(!) to mend a broken heart when you don't see the person constantly. But at the end of the day, it takes time. It will get easier, honestly. I was in your position in July last year, so it did take time. Your friends and family are there for you, so use them.
Good luck love.
2007-02-27 08:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am so sorry for the hurt you are going through now. Your heart will take
time to mend. It is too soon yet for you to feel any different.
Look back over the weeks - has he changed towards you at all?
Did you have any clues? It might just be that he is afraid of
committing himself to you. He shouldn,t have made you believe
that you were going to set up home together.
Good Luck.
2007-02-27 08:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have asked this question before when
i was in your situation ..
We made plans and everything, but things
started to change . . i was confused, he was
divorced and said his wife dumped him and all
that, and wasn't ready after our only few months.
He begun to have exuses, and exuses . .till i was
fed up . so I said "you can do better than this"
So yes, we ended up there . .
I said to him you don't have to hide, I won't chase you. .
I guarded my feelings by choosing to be bitter towards
him, instead of missing him . .
then i've I've worked him out, he's not genuine as
i am, or else he won't do this
I did my best, i know i did. Spend time with him, showed
him that I care, then after all, he's got all these excuses.
so basically I only concentrate on the negative
ones to feel bitter towards him..yes it was hurting
but i focus on bitterness then it was all done. .
And yes, I fell sooooo in love with him too, i trusted
him and all that. I was so genuine . . but to me now . .
WHO CARES . . WHO DOES HE THINKS HE IS .
o' yea, he droped into my place one day, knocking at
my door, but NO, didn't open the door for him . .
(he knows I'm inside tho) don't care..
So try what i did . . don't think of the happy memories,
just focus on the bad ones. . you'll be fine. .
it didn't take me long time to completely put that
memories in the bin, it's trash, trash and trash . .
.
2007-02-27 09:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest love i dont understand men too,'m kinda in the same situation,gues u'l jes av to be strong and move on.Theys nothin u can do about it,guys made up his mind and 4rm the look of things i think he's still got feelings 4 his x.Guys come and go,u'll surely find one soon......
Be strong
2007-02-27 08:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chocolate and time in varying amounts. Indulge yourself for a couple of days maximum, sob, scream and throw things. Then start to get yourself back on track - go out with friends even if you think you don't want to. Don't call him or beg him to re-think. Don't let your spirit or self-worth be damaged. Good Luck.
2007-02-27 08:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by bumpity-bump 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋