Im 23 and in the military recently divorced after 7 years. I have been trying to date other women but everytime i find a women im interested in she pretty much tells me all she wants are the benefits and the money. i dont make much i have a hard time sending my own son money. wat is a soldier to do?it seems all we are is a one way ticket to free housing n benefits. need HELP any ideas
2007-02-27 00:40:45 · 12 answers · asked by jon s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What type of girls are you going for? Sorry, but WAY too many guys try to hook up with a girl for her looks/body/vagina. Then they have the nerve to complain that the girl actually wants something from THEM. Funny isn't it? LOL. Kinda like a 400lb guy wearing a tshirt that says " NO FAT CHICKS", LOL. My advice to you is to make friends first; no dating until you can judge from her behavior and her friends that she's ok. Stay away fom "drinky girls" if you are serving in Korea. I shouldn't have to tell you how many soldiers go there, and marry these women, who are basically prostitutes. Then they get back to the states, she divorces him, and starts her own business; which he basically pays for via alimony. Pathetic.
2007-02-27 01:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume that you are overseas and that these women DO see a paycheck and a trip to America. Happens everyday - all day long my friend. (You were 16 when you got married?) I can imagine the same thing happens here in the States for the housing and benefits. The ladies learn by example! Just keep your head up - keep your eyes open to what's going on around you and don't jump into any committed relationships right now! Might be a good idea to keep your friendships with your co-workers for now...until you feel less vunerable. Good luck!
2007-02-27 08:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by jennw33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO offense but that's bull. Most people, regardless of their profession, meet someone who is in it only for money. Alot of people actually like the low committment. U should keep doing what u have been doing and when the right girl comes along she will be what u are looking for. U can't change people so just find someone who is already what u r looking for. You're in the military so i'm sure you r a smart guy. Don't worry about it you'll figure it out.
2007-02-27 08:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me, but you sound a little impatient.
You've spent nearly a third of your young life married, are "recently" divorced and already frustrated with your search? JEEZ! Some people spend their entire lives looking for somebody suitable and never find them. Others are mired in relationships they'd be better off ending. I could go on and on, but you should get the drift by now: it's not only for you that it's not easy.
Anyway...
Give yourself a little time to heal from your divorce before you start freaking out about not finding anyone who loves you for you, and not for your benefits.
2007-02-27 08:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someday you will find the one for you, dont just give in to anyone, a true love will want you not your money. Stay away from them kind and sounds like you need to live your life a little on your own anyway after getting married at the age of 16. Just be yourself and you will find the perfect woman someday.
2007-02-27 08:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there soldier! well what you need to do is find someone who just likes/loves you for who you are, they are alot of good women out there but I think your looking to hard, just give yourself sometime. Money doesn't buy love and alot of people just don't understand that.
I don't believe in being dishonest but maybe when you meet the next girl you should just keep your private life just between you, yourself and Irene! lol for real though! just give that a shot that way you know that she likes you for you and not what you have.
Well you take care and stay safe!!
2007-02-27 08:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool... u got married at the age of 16...
btw u can start by getting another job or even a part time job... you need to be financially stable if you want to find yourself a girl (whether she cares about money or not), cos u need 2 support your family...
you can keep your mind of ladies for the time being(it really aint that hard if you try)...
just work hard...
and once people recognise your talents,
you may get to know some of your hot colleagues...
(and thats how love starts in the first place!!!)
2007-02-27 08:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by xbox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years and you're only 23? Jeez! Weren't you the eager beaver?
Find a rich girl or a girl who works. We couldn't care less about money because we already have our own. In fact, my ideal guy is a poet, philosopher or artist who doesn't work at all. The only people who care about money is people who don't actually have any.
2007-02-27 08:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a somewhat unattractive woman with a pleasant personality - she'll be better than most; or, find a traditional Asian female - she'll be the absolute best; an American chick with even slightly good looks and some t&ts will be an a$$h@le every time
2007-02-27 08:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by ekim2211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of women out there just out to get what they can....but not all of us are like that. You'll know early on if she's like that, don't waste any more time or money on her:) Good luck!
2007-02-27 08:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by blueyedgirl623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋