The real reason why older guys go for younger girls?

Question

Ok now id be going for late teens early twenties not mid teens or younger... but when was younger all up to mid twenties... we all hung out in mixed age groups..and dated down to mid teens . ie when 16 there were mates in twenties, when in twenties,mates in 16 Plus (as that age could go clubbing... usually peoples younger or older siblings...

So no plot.

But as all these parents thinking all older guys say 18year old and a 15 year old... or a 23 year old and a sixteen year old seem to have these looney tune deluded hysterical fantasies.


Probably as they dont go clubbing and to parties any more and forgot what it was like.


Where they think all older guys are devient, pyschotic baby eating manipulators, who worship belzebup looking for a virgin the sacrifice alone with ten garaffs and a goat, who are part of global terrorist cults acquiring nuclear weapons who only want to have some sort of demented sex bringing about the end of the world, caring nothing for others and

are possed by the devil dealing crack and creating a zombiwe army to take over the world where all will prey on inncent teengage girls who parents believe have no consept of their own sexaulity, have no homrones, no feelings, have no idea of the effect of their clothing and flirtation with boys who parents beleive like noting better then playing with dollies, and hopsctoch and dolls houses.


Ie the parents are bonkers


How about a reality check...


Ie guys will usually date those with similar experince to them as quite frankly girls are fussy and only like going out with more experienced guys who are often bad boys,.


So shy, sheltered, guys who had strict keep them in the dark parents, who are nice, caring and sweet and aint been with many girls can only really date younbger girls as their experience matches up


Ie similar amount of dates, longest relatioship lenght, number of kisses etc & number of times been laid.


Ie no manipulation just maturity levelling

WAIT UP STILL WRITING

Plus second real world reson guys date younger girls...


they aint into wearing suits, hate dinner parties, are bored senseless by the pub, mate formal gatherings, only ever making love in the missionary position in a quiet bedroom with no mates and hanging out at home as boooooooooooooooooooooooring



And want to be with people who like...


dancing, break dancing,
moshing, stagediving
surfing, rollerbalding
foam parties
wet t shirt/boxer short competions
wild parties,
raves
nightclubs
quarsar lasgergun games
bowling
cinema
kart racing, jumping on walls,
making out not in bed but posh golf courses, in clubs, around mates, posh resturants


Etc



Ie seeing as the reality is...


1) People date similar folk with similar experince

2) Guys go for girls who are fun, energetic, lively, naughty and wild...

Usually younger but not always.


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Question

Why do parents have these hysterical, irrations, panicky ideas thinking guys

Want to manipulate and be mean and nasty to their daughter when all boy and girlfriend is, is cuddle and snuggle friend and in then end all sex is , is the means by which guys and girls get to gether to get extra snuggly and fall in love so no longer lonley and hurting.


And that many older guys will be far better and safer for your daughter to be around...

then guys their age into getting drunk and high, who are part of mugger crack dealing gangs who all shoot and mug seach other.


Plus younger guys have more to prove so more likly to want to take said daughters vigintiy to boast about it and treat her bad and be less responsible.

So why dont parents think that way and instead of going bonkers...

Invite the guy around and get to know him and work it out from there...


Makes more sense does it?

And if he is too old dont you think the couple will realise it and just break up and be friends instead?

Ie why worry so much

Want to manipulate and be mean and nasty to their daughter when all boy and girlfriend is, is cuddle and snuggle friend and in then end all sex is , is the means by which guys and girls get to gether to get extra snuggly and fall in love so no longer lonley and hurting.


And that many older guys will be far better and safer for your daughter to be around...

then guys their age into getting drunk and high, who are part of mugger crack dealing gangs who all shoot and mug seach other.


Plus younger guys have more to prove so more likly to want to take said daughters vigintiy to boast about it and treat her bad and be less responsible.

So why dont parents think that way and instead of going bonkers...

Invite the guy around and get to know him and work it out from there...


Makes more sense does it?

And if he is too old dont you think the couple will realise it and just break up and be friends instead?

Ie why worry so much

Ok thats the question sort of the question getting at...


Yup think in lots of detail and hard to explain.

But really dont get why people here and parents have all these funny ideas... For one all the 16/17 year olds and some 15 year olds were anything but all sweet and innocent. Most have been doing well with boyfriends etc.

Does not make the grown ups, means they are developing and growing.


And the older guys are just their special mates thats all.

Piano


Was saying why do all these parents go bonkers and think just as a guy say 19 is dating your daughter 16.


he can't possibly just like her and she like him, as mates who like making out and have feelings for each other. 9ie reality)


But think simply as older he must be some manipulative devil worshiping terrorist , hell bent on global destruction, who must be some psycho looking to sacrifice 100 virgins and various wildlife (ie a garaffe) and said 16 year old daughter must be a latest victem (ie parents deluded fantasty)

Not to mention 16 year olds aint kids into dolls houses anymore

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Er Soon to be mom... serveral of the girls I knew at 16 moved out of the home and been independant ever since, several could beat up boys, and all of them knew exactly what their wanted...

Thats reality.


Its just they should not be drinking as cant handle it.


Maybe its as in the rock and metal scene you tend to get more mature and samarter girls

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ruby

Long story short, a person becomes a lot more mature (one would hope) in that couple of years.

Point is it is a hope and not always true...
mAny still living with parents and without dates or money dont mature

Being more mature, an older guy does have the advantage of life experience over a girl that much younger,

---Not nec... only if looks like Justin Timerlake and gets lots of girlfirends... njot everyone is that lucky. Some are lucky to get a new years kiss

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so sorry, but I would have to wonder why you're not interested in a girl your own age.

See other posts...


Basically cannot relate to them as no histroy of long term live in realtionships, therefore noting in common.


Plus hate boring dinner parties and suits and prefer stage diving, break dancing and rollerbalding and fun

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Jimmy not dating a 15 year old... but in twenties most of mates in that age group were dating in that age group mainly as had stuff in common and the older guys had been the shy types so were like 8 years behind everyone else.


Plus had the same interests in partying and plying bowling etc

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19 and dating a child under 16 is just sick and shouldn't be allowed.would you like it if it was your daughter?

Actually usually refering to those over 16... but acknoweldge in reality you get dating like 14 and 17, 18 and 15 etc

And as said in most cases the older one bore no resemblance to these notions or fully mature predators... ie guys mature slower.

Im older now so year more into 21 year olds...

But dont go unrealisit...


Im missed out so on the what if it was your daughter sinario...

I would want said daughter happy and safe.

So would investigate properly to find out what was happening not jump to hysterical conclusions...


And point out to the older one certain ground rules till she was older...

if he was nice and responsible he should be cool with them...

As said we haung out with the shy but nice crowd.


not the tossers

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You keep talking about 15 & 16 year olds, But you probably mean 12 &13 year olds.

No why think that... Look at what happens around that age... thats the start of it for most.

And we were partying and clubbing from that age, most of the girls were seriously dating from mid teens


Not 13

Answer 1

would you PLEAS stop saying ie

Answer 2

In spite of the rambling which was amusing but made no sense....

Somewhere in all that, your question was why do parents not want their young daughters to date guys who are a couple years older.

When I was 17, a long time ago when people lived in caves and used eight tracks, I wanted to date a guy who was 20. Only a three year difference I said.
And my parents imploded like he was a three-headed goat-slayin baby-eatin deviant psycho with a herd of giraffes and weapons of mass destruction and all that like what you said.

And I thought they were having hysterical paranoid delusions and were so old they no longer remembered what it was like to live and all that like what you said.
Oh yeah; and they were trying to ruin my life because they wanted me to be unhappy like them.

Fast forward a LOT of years;
I have a young daughter. While it's only a couple of years, there is a big difference in that couple of years.
Look at the same 17 years to 20 years scenario.
This is a person who's legally an adult. My girl is a minor.
At twenty, a person's had a couple of years of living as an adult. She's still in high school.

Long story short, a person becomes a lot more mature (one would hope) in that couple of years. Being more mature, an older guy does have the advantage of life experience over a girl that much younger, so sorry, but I would have to wonder why you're not interested in a girl your own age.
No offense; I'm her Mom-it's my job.

I would see it differently if it was a mixed group of people she had been friends with for years and had grown up with. There would still be curfews and such in place, because the kid is just that; still a kid.

For example, there was a holiday dance at the local youth center. She was ten years old, wanted to go with a boy. No way in hell is my daughter dating at ten years old, so I said no, was paranoid and hysterical, and ruined her life because I wanted her to be unhappy.

Next holiday, she wanted to go to a similar function with a group of friends, and I was cool with that. I don't know if the boy was there or not. It doesn't matter because about six of her closest friends also went with her, and there comes a point where you have to believe you've raised them to have good sense.

So, that's how that works.

Answer 3

Guys go for young girls because it is usually the other way around for girls who like older guys.

The reasons may be as you sort of state but for my ex wife, she chased my. She was eight years younger. At that time, I let my penis do the thinking and ended up getting married a year later when I knocked her up.

This I should have just said: I will just support the child but I really have nothing in common with you. This is a mistake that took me 10 years to figure out by the time three kids later and many break ups.

Anyways, I guess what I am saying is that a lot of the times, the girl chases the older guys for experience. The older guys chase the young girls to get laid easier. It can't be because they are more grown up than the younger girls otherwise he would try to get a perfect match for him, no matter the age.

Hope that makes sense.

Answer 4

i have no idea what you wrote but ill add my 2 cents anyway

why would anyone want to date a child as thats all they are 16 and under

why dont you go for girls your own age? do you think all 16 year olds are virgins then? think again! and yes you do get some older girls who are virgins,

as i think this is th ONLY reason boys go for younger girls.

ages doesn't matter if your over 21 and you date someone older or a year younger

but being over 30 and dating someone over 21 is ok too.but anyone who is over 19 and dating a child under 16 is just sick and shouldn't be allowed.would you like it if it was your daughter?

Answer 5

Right...dont really get what your getting at but I dont think an age difference matters so long as the girl the guy is dating is the legal age of consent and isnt a young school girl. I have a mate whos girlfriend is 6 yrs his junior and I am strongly opposed as he isnt the best iffluence for her and could wind up runing her life. he can go out but she cant her parents give her kerfews when hes with her so it isnt the best relationship.And coming from someone whos partner is older than her it was fun to begin with because your breaking rules etc. but it ends in tears so its best to get with someone who is at least emotionally mature

Answer 6

Hmmmmmmm

I always thought that older guys go for younger girls because because the mind of most men is al least 8 to 10 years behind most women.....

so.. if you're 24... and she's 16.....she's actually dating a 14 yr old, at best!!!!!!!

Grow up

Answer 7

Why don't you write Rap or do something else with your desire to write and leave the teenage girls alone.

You keep talking about 15 & 16 year olds, But you probably mean 12 &13 year olds.

Write Rap...you sure have enough material for it. Then ALL the GIRLS will be chasing you.

Answer 8

i dont even understand what you wrote?!?!


the real reason that older guys go for younger girls is becuase the girls pay attention to the guys. the younger girls will go for the older guys becuase they are older and they think that it will make them look better if their guy is 8 years older or whatever.

Personally, i think its gross. I wont date anyone thats more than 2 years younger or older becuase i want to have something in common with them. If i date someone my age, we like the same things, we know the same people, we can just do more stuff together because were the same age.


What i think happened is your dating a younger girl and her parents dont approve becuase your probably 20 something and she is probably like 15. Your probably banging her and making her THINK that shes in love and that she will never want to leave you. GET A LIFE. why dont you just date people thats not in high school and date other people like you that just go party with twelve year olds to get a little.


Nuff Said

Answer 9

Well, you took a while. Quick and easy answer, younger girls go for older guys because boys take longer to mature. A girl at 16 will go for a guy say 20 because the guys mind is only at 16. Where as a girl who dates a guy at 16 will act like he is 12. A guy at 20 doesnt want a girl say 25 because she will be like a mom and make him act responsible,etc. So there is the answer for everyone to read easily!

Answer 10

There are so many typos and misspellings here that I find it practically impossible to understand more than half a line of what you're trying to say. Add to that your annoying and unnecessary habit of using double line blanks, all I can answer is this: When you ask a question without all the ramblings and strange words - what's a belzebup, what's a garaff - and take the trouble to think through what you want to say, then I'll consider taking the trouble to read your work; and another thing: Ask a question - don't write a novel every time and then keep adding to it all the time. It only complicates matters.

Answer 11

You need a job! You have way too much time on you hands and all I saw in that long drawn out mess was blah blah blah blah blah. Older men go for younger girls cause they are not mentally compatable with a real woman! Oops...Did I just decribe you?