Please I ask to help me with a situation we have in my family. My brother just told us that his girlfriend is pregnant and well we were happy for them and everything the only problem is that his girlfriend is 17 yrs old and my brother is 21 yrs old. her family just found out two days ago and her dad told her that he didn't want her to have the baby so my brother when to their house told them that he is going to married her and wants the baby but the father of the girlfriend kicked him out. we understand they are angry at my brother but they knew about the situation and they even use to drop her off at our house the mom of her was never around her. what to do? because my brother started crying yesterday because he wants her to have the baby and she does to but here family is thinking of taking her to have an abortion the problem is that she is 4months or going to 5 mths already this is a new life already formed and everything! PLEASE HELP WE ARE WORRIED!!
2007-02-27 00:21:31 · 17 answers · asked by brenda_zamudio2005 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your brother is 21 old enough to be alone, she is 17 old enough to say where she lives Have your brother take responsibility to work, if not already, get his own place, if not already, and move her in. Fornication obviously had already been committed and living to gether with a baby on the way till she is 18, legal age as I know of to get married without parental approval. Her family is sick to think of abortion at this far along. So their approval shouldn't be considered.
By the way, I am not saying her parents don't have rights under their roof. For her to take a chance or plan to have a baby when she can't even pay her own way is totally irresponsible and to expect her parents to pay for her baby along with herself wouldn't be right, which is why I say have your brother take responsibity as he is the older one and should have thought of this more so, evn though she is plenty old enough as well. She should also get working part time till she finishes school, if still in
2007-02-27 00:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 is underage, but old enough to legally divorce her parents and make her own decisions. Dont let them abort the baby' that innocent baby did nothing worng but live, so it is not its fault. If her parents cant understand that, then thats their problem. If she doenst want the baby, adoption is key here. If they want to get married, by all means, do it, but NOT just because of the baby; situations like that never last. Maybe the girlfriend can move in with you brothers parents until a bit after the babys born, A pregnant woman, especially a young pregnant woman needs all of the support that she can get and shouldnt be exposed to her parents for long periods of time if thats how they are going to treat her (and her baby). That baby has a heartbeat, and shouldnt suffer because of its mothers parents. Also if shes 17 now,, she may be 18 by the time this baby is born.
2007-02-27 00:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by ksmarriedcouple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your brother does not have to worry about going to jail as some on here have said. She is 17 and thats past the age of consent in every state. As sad as it is there really nothing you or your brother can do if her parents convince her to have an abortion. If she does not tho then your brother can marry her once shes 18 and they can be a family if she wishes to do that. She is almost past the time when she can get an abortion and in some states she's too late so maybe theres hope after all. Good luck to your family.
2007-02-27 00:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Amberlyn4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how her parent's feel about this situation, they cannot force her to have an abortion. She needs to leave that house immediately!! Since your family has such a good relationship with her, have her move in with you all. Her and your brother are getting married anyway. Then maybe your parents can take her to a lawyer and explain to them whats going on, so that her parents can't accuse her of being a runaway or accuse your parents of parental interference. The lawyer should be able to tell her the legal way through this. There's something that can be done. I wish your whole family the very best & congrats to your brother and his g/f. I truely hope that everything goes well for them!!!
2007-02-27 00:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forced abortion is ILLEGAL in this country. Your brother's girlfriend's parents CANNOT legally force her to abort her baby.
At 4-5 months, the baby looks and acts just like a tiny newborn infant. He or she will only grow in size from now on. In fact, a baby was recently born at 21 weeks and survived! See:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/health/healthmain.html?in_article_id=437236&in_page_id=1774
Here are some photos of what the baby looks like right now and information about his or her development:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
And here are some photos and video of aborted babies:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
Abortion would be very dangerous for your brother's girlfriend. She could even die:
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
Please tell your brother and his girlfriend to go to a crisis pregnancy center as soon as possible. They can find one in their area by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting this link:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
They will be able to give the couple advice and help, including referrals for financial, medical, and legal assistance; a free ultrasound (at some centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy and parenting information; and counseling and emotional support. They can also help your brother's girlfriend find another safe place to stay, if that is something she needs.
If her parents try to force her to go to an abortion clinic, she should refuse to even get in the car with them. She should kick and scream and make a fuss. She should yell, "Call the police!" until someone intervenes. Her baby's life is at stake, and she needs to do WHATEVER it takes to protect her baby.
Good for your brother for wanting to take responsibility for this new little life. I admire him for wanting to marry his girlfriend. They CAN make it work, and honestly, her parents will probably come around in the end once they have gotten over the shock.
Please keep encouraging your brother and his girlfriend to do the right thing, and show them the information in the links above.
2007-02-27 02:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Judges do not prosecute at age 17, because teens are so active , so do not sweat that . some states will allow 17 year olds to leave their home they just can not have anything in their name or sign contracts until age 18 .. he should go talk to a family court attorney , besides he did wrong ,but she is close to the age of consent ,and they both want to do the right thing so I would not think a judge will hold him accountable .....good luck , I do think she is too far along to have an abortion , check with local police to see if the pregnant girl age 17 leaves home can she be made to return , most states will not force a 17 yr.old to return especially if she is afraid of her safety or the safety of the unborn child
2007-02-27 00:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where are you from, in the United States, 17 is legal and they can not make her do anything, if she wants to keep the baby they can not make her have an abortion, what are they going to do hold her down and make the doctor do the procedure, that is murder! Tell your parents to let her come stay with you guys and you guys can take care of her the last couple months of her pregnancy and your brother and her will be able to have their beautiful baby.
2007-02-27 00:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by echc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too far along to have an abortion. Is there any way that your family could take her in at least until she has the baby, and then if her family does not want the baby, maybe your family could adopt it. Try talking to her family and suggesting this, or ask them if you can take the baby once it's born.
Best wishes to all of you.
2007-02-27 00:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unable to have an abortion after 13 weeks unless there is something wrong with the pregnany or the baby.
Young peoplemake big mistakes.This is a whopper.The only thing that can be done now in adoption or keep the child Il'd prefer the later , theres noway i could have a baby to give it away.
Goodluck Auntie!!!
2007-02-27 00:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by dobbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm not mistaken it's to late for an abortion. When does she turn 18? then she's an adult can't make her do anything that she doesn't want to do. It breaks my heart to hear this because I realize that you are a Little young, but it's to late the baby is forming into a beautiful person. I hope that everything works out ok. for your sake and for the baby.
2007-02-27 00:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Laura L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋