How does a single adoptive mother cope with a child upbringing without a father?

Answer 1

The same way any other single mother copes. You do the best that you can. I was adopted as an infant. My parents divorced when I was 11. Mom and dad did the best that they could to make it work, but the thick is hard to get through and the thin is hard to get over, and sometimes you just have to call it quits. Unfortunately they made some bad decisions with significant others post-divorce and that really negatively affected me, but that was no direct fault of their own.

Answer 2

Just be a family. A single mother/child is a family and you just have to raise the child with love, nurishment, a bit of discipline and encourgement. Not having a father there to help out with some things is something you just cope with and sometimes that might mean you feel like you are being pulled in three directions at one time...but you take one day at a time..do what you can...and watch your child blossom. :)

Answer 3

For a single adoptive parent, this is a question that you should confront prior to adoption... and weight the results long before you do adopt... The most important part of the process is the child's future... Keeping that in the forefront of your thoughts should give you the path to take...

Answer 4

You cope the best way you possibly can. Remember back to why you adopted your child. A lot of love can go a long way. There is always help out there if you get desperate.

Answer 5

You do your absolute best like you mean it.
Raise that little one like you would like to be raised.
Treat him/her with the same respect you would give anyone else.
Let him/her be who he/she is.
Listen, even to the goofy stuff.
Always be honest, and make sure he/she knows you always love him/her no matter what.

I always liked the following instructions:
Be There.
Say "yes" as often as possible.
Let them bang on pots and pans.
If They're crabby, put them in water.
If they're unlovable- love yourself.
If they're not nice -YOU be nicer
Realize how important it is to be a child.
Go to a drive-in theater in your pajamas
Read books out loud with joy.
Invent pleasures together.
Remember how really small they are.
Surprise them.
Say "no" when necessary.
Bake a cake and eat it with no hands.
Plan to build a rocket ship.
Imagine yourself magic.
Make lots of forts with blankets.
Let your angel fly.
Reveal your own dreams.
Search out the positive.
Keep the gleam in your eye.
Mail letters to God.
Encourage silly.
Plant licorice in your garden.
Stop yelling.
Express your love. A Lot.
Speak kindly.
Paint their tennis shoes.
Handle with caring.

And the best bit of advice I ever recieved on the matter:
Learn to Pick Your Battles.

E mail me if you need help.

Answer 6

Isn't this something you should have thought about before adopting a child as a single parent?

Answer 7

Try using a rope and a taser. That will keep him under control.