my son is 3 and wont listen to a word i say i have tried naughty chair and stickers help!!?

Answer 1

get down on the floor to his level when telling him dont yell point out what you want him to do and why dont show any stress or anger or he will show it back takes a while but works

Answer 2

He needs to know who's boss, taking away a favourite toy, not letting him go to a party, things like this have worked for me, it is punishment without smacking. He also needs to know he is loved, so take time to play with him, read to him, draw etc. If he knows that you are there for him you love him and will listen, even at this young age he will more likely respect your decision when punishment needs to be meted out. This will only work though if you show him you mean business, ie, you have to carry through with the punishment, take the toy away whatever, but don't give it back after 10 minutes because you can't stand the screaming/whingeing. Better a bit of annoyance now than hell later when he gets older and knows he can wrap you round his little finger.

Also, it is very important to praise when he does things well, does what you want, praise and encouragement work wonders for children. Hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 3

I have 2 boys (ages 4 and 7) My four year old has always been the type to be a tad bit more unruly than usual. First you have to realize that most of his behavior is age related. With him being 3, his attention span is not like ours, and concentrating on things is much more difficult. Don't get me wrong, he still needs discipline in his life. I've realized that a lot of things that my boys did when they were young bothered me more than others. I was so worried about them behaving (especially in public) that I was constantly badgering them (which in turn, made them behave worse). It all depends on what you are telling him. The best thing to do is to take away something he really enjoys, and then tell him he can have it back when he does what you tell him to do. For instance, if he is refusing to eat his dinner or clean his room, take away a favorite toy of his and tell him he can have it back when he behaves. Good luck!

Answer 4

Stay calm and consistent with the naughty chair.
He's testing you and it sounds like he's winning.

You are the parent.

Take control over this kid before it's too late.
Take away toys, give him time-outs, do anything without spanking, spanking just adds to the anger and aggression.

Don't give him stickers...only when he's done something really fantastic. Don't give him stickers after sitting in the naughty chair, because he's not learning WHY he's in the chair, he thinks that if he sits there for a while he'll get stickers. No rewards after naughty chair, just repeat "Now, you can get down from the naughty chair, do not throw your toys again"
Good luck. My son's 2.5 yrs old and he tests us 100 times each day. Sometimes it feels like we have no control, but we know it's a stage and he's testing his boundaries.
Consistency consistency consistency.

Good luck :)
I feel for ya!

Answer 5

Try going down to his level and getting eye contact, use a nice friendly voice one you can make more stern if necessary. Give him 3 strikes then it's discipline. I always found taking away a favourite toy or putting in his room for 5 worked better than the naughty step/chair.
good luck

Answer 6

A couple of things:
- take away toys, lock them in a chest with a big padlock on it.
- no TV time
- very early to bed
- stick with it: don't try to take a bit of the punishment away
- keep saying "no" whenever the child wants something, NO MATTER WHAT, you say "NO"!!

Ask your other half to do exactly the same, since then the child will notice that it should better listen to you, since the mom/dad says the same thing and the child is all alone in this.

Hope this helps a bit. Lots of support, I know how hard it is...

Answer 7

Consistancy. Its not what you do, its when you do it.

Punishment is for the purpose of teaching a child to behave whether you're there or not. You teach them how to behave, and then expect them to choose good and not misbehave. When they do wrong, you hold them accountable for what they know, for what you taught them, and punish them.

Dont wait to punish. It should be automatic. If he does something wrong, pick him up and put him STRAIGHT on time out, or give his butt a swat. Tell him "you are NOT allowed to do such and such, when you do such and such you get timeout/a spanking".

It has to be the same every time, and it has to be at the moment of the offense, not after you've spent 5 minutes warning him. Dont do that crap. No "Honey mommy doesnt want you to do that." "Please dont do that" "Iam counting to three!" thats just crap. It doesnt do anything for your child, except teach him how to try to get away with something, because THATS part of human nature, part of being a child.

And use the same punishment each time. Stick with something. Taking toys away, and sending him to his room really wont work for this age, as toddlers live exclusively in the moment. He wont readily remember what happened 10-15 minutes ago and why he's being punished now.

Time out, being removed from the situation, or a swat on the butt to snap his attention is the most effective at this age. Removal from the situation being the biggest, you need his attnetion, and he needs to realize that there is life outside that circumstance, and your rules.

Also, booster his confidence. Point out good and bad behavior in his peers. Any other child you two might see. This is great for watching tv, or when out shopping. Point out that little girl who's throwing a fit in check out. "Oh honey, look how that girl doesnt know how to talk to her mommy, she has to cry like a baby. Iam so glad you can act like a big boy and talk to mommy instead" or "Look how nice that boy is listening to his daddy, iam so glad you know how to listen to mommy, iam so proud of you." This builds his confidence in his ability to do right, and make good choices, and in knowing that you approve of him.

Hold him accountable for what you teach him, teach and punish consistantly, punish right away, and stick to the same punishment each time.

The hard part is sticking to it.

Answer 8

stick to the naughty chair and stickers. if you give up after a small time of trying something the child will know that every punishment or reward you try will jsut be abandoned after a few days/weeks anyway. they aren't as naive as you think they are :P

you could also try ingnoring minor small misbehaviour, and rewarding any good behaviour, as small as it may be.

because if you scold a child for being bad, youre giving in to what they want, they are after your attention, but this way they will see that they only get your attention when they are good.

hopefully this helps :)

good luck!!

Answer 9

If the kid won't sit in his "naughty chair" then I'd wear his butt out so he CAN'T sit in his danged naughty chair.

Some kids are more docile and respond to the touchy feely disciple methods. Then there are kids like mine who respond to a pop on the butt. To me, it sounds like yours is like mine.

I am not saying whip out a belt and tan his little butt. I am saying pop him real good on the tail. Sometimes, it's the shock they need to grab their attention and let them know you mean business and you are willing to back up your words with action.

Good luck to you!

Answer 10

A spanking can help, be firm is the most important thing. Dont give in if he wants a hug or something else. Try putting his nose in the corner, works with my son

Answer 11

bust his butt .. You have to show him you are in control not him ...when mine were three ,I could take them to a nice restaurant, and out in public with no problems , at three , I could tell mine to go to bed they would say yes sir, and go ....you have to be a parent not a friend to your child , you are responsible for the adult they become , if you do not teach him to mind ,obey , and behave in a decent manner he will never do it in public then the courts will give him time out ((in prison )),My children are now 14 ,12 , 10 ,and 8 ..there teachers always compliment their behavior , and grades they even ask me how I done it to get them so well behaved ..I tell them I never negotiate with a child , they do as I say the first time ..I do not count down to punishment such as 1 , 2 , 3...I tell them one time then bust some butt.. I provide their needs ,and some of their wants, I provide them a safe/ clean home , I do my job , so they have no choice but to do theirs ..