my bf and i were in his room and no one was home we were just talking and started making out we laid down and he went for my pants buti stopped and said no he said no its ok and kept going i said no again and he stopped. he calls me everynight but this night and the next he dident were going back out together tonight tho. should i have sex with him so he wont be mad at me?
2007-02-27 00:06:31 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you allow him to walk all over you now then he always will. You need to stick to what you believe. Giving into him will only make you weak. Trust any guy who answers this question. we know what we are talking about.
2007-02-27 00:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I believe the ol' say goes...Don't use sex as a weapon......and that is what he is doing. Don't fall for something which you believe in strongly. You have gone this far without having to give in so don't stop there. Only if you are truly sure this is the person whom you feel deeply for should you even consider it. Whether this is your first time or not, don't give in just because he gets mad at you for not putting out. If he is any kind of a kind and caring boyfriend, he would understand your concerns and wishes. If that is the only reason why he wishes to invite you over, then it is time to have some serious chat with this guy and lay it out on the table about issues of finding a new gf for him. Never be forced to do anything you do not feel comfortable with. Never let anyone use sex as a weapon to keep you in a relationship.
Hope it works out for you....follow your heart. =)
2007-02-27 00:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Only have sex because you want to. If you BF get mad then explain to him that you not rejecting him you are just not ready for sex. Maybe you, and only if you are willing, could help him a little if that is needed. There alot things that 2 people can do that is not intercourse. Do not do anything that you are not completely excited about doing until your married.
2007-02-27 00:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mike E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,
NO MAN (OR BOY) SHOULD WANT YOU TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING!!!!!!
That being said, Listen to me, I'm guessing your young and possibly still a virgin (not that that makes a difference) this may or may not be the first boyfriend that has asked this of you. You always, always have the responsibility to yourself to not go against your feelings. When your ready, you'll no it. This guy sounds like an asshole, you sound like a princess. Don't give in, make your first time, special, with a special guy. Believe me you'll remember it for the rest of your life.
2007-02-27 00:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Sex and Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Callie. Whether or not he gets mad is no reason to just give in to his carnal desires.
If he should try again, then he most obviously does not respect you, your ideals or morality. To him you will be just another conquest, something to laugh about when he is with his mates. I would strongly suggest that if you feel he is going to try again, cancel the date or be very firm with him and tell him that if he likes you, then he must respect you.
Once you have done it with him you will probably lose him anyway. The best way to keep a guy is to keep them wanting without giving in. That way, if he moves on, you know that he only wanted one thing anyway.
Be strong and stand up for what you believe is right for you.
2007-02-27 00:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u been smoking crack?!?! NO silly! u should not have sex with him.... you are a goddesssupaflymamidiva, why? because ur a lady, and if he isnt mature about the decisions and level of comfortability you have with him and YOUR body, then boo to him. dump him. there will be plenty of guys who will wait til you feel comfortable going there. not for any other reason than you have what no one else does, you.
oh, and if you do it without talking to him first and working out your feelings about this, prepare to have him treat you like doormat cause he'll know he can get anything he wants. protect yourself and whats yours, no one else can. much love and strength ma.
2007-02-27 00:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by tata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone so far has no.
And they are all right. Have some pride, sex should be a wonderful experience, not something forced just because you have a vagina. I wouldn't go so far as dumping him though. Talk to him about it, and give him a chance to respect you.
2007-02-27 00:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by BretFTW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... Believe me once you give into him he'll see you a few more times and then forget about you... Find yourself a guy who is interested in all of you, not just what's in your pants... You should be mad at him... Remember, the answer is NO...
2007-02-27 00:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't girl, that would be very silly of you, he maybe trying to manipulate you by not calling or getting upset that you didn't give in, but that's your own decision, don't let him tryin gto put guilt on you change your mind, be smart and at the end he'll respect you even more...
2007-02-27 00:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by happydial 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with someone so that they won't be mad at you doesn't sound like a good idea to me. If you have sex with him, it should be because you want to have with him. It should be the result of your body craving his body.
2007-02-27 00:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋