im back with my cheating boyfriend but how do i make him realise he cant do it again?

Question

recently finding out he cheated on me with girls from the internet after long arguments iv taken him back. Hes stuck to these rules iv given him, hes cut up his old sim card & got new number, sold his laptop & cancelled his internet and has promissed to make an effort.
wot i need to do now though is keep him on his toes so he knows that he has to make it up to me and any more nonsense hel be out. any ideas how to do this?

Answer 1

How long do you think HE will stick around if you treat him like this? Yes, he made a mistake, but you have chosen to take him back. He has done what you have asked him to do, and I think it is only fair now to forgive and forget - otherwise the relationship won't work. It has to be equal - it has to be a partnership - otherwise you won't last. As long as you tell him clearly that if he cheats again you will leave, nothing more needs to be done/said.

Answer 2

k pretend this question was written by someone else. if u read it the first thing ud think is wow this chik does not trust her man. so im sorry 2 say with out trust there is no relationship. u can come up wid new ways 2 monitor him but unless u got a tracker bug implanted in his ***, that shows u his exact location, what he is saying and shows what he is doing then u will neva be 100 % sure. so stop the bullshit and break up, or are u really that scared of being alone that u'll stay with a guy who is ***** whipped by u, destroys his sim cards etc and who cheated with u ova a computer. so u can either take my advice or u can constantly be paranoid and ur man can be unhappy in his relationship because what eva he does u still will neva forget his infedelity.

Answer 3

Sorry like but this is gonna be really hard work cause ur gonna find it hard to trust him again and he's gonna feel the pressure to not stray...
I went thru the same kinda thing last year....we got back togetha after he cheated several times...we lasted about 2 years and he cheated again, how many times, I dont know, I dont even know if he still cheated when we first got back togetha...?
U are best out of a cheatin relationship, it wrecks ur confidence in yourself and other men...?!!
Im sure many people will tell u the same thing....although u will only do wot u want to do....x

Answer 4

If you want this relationship to work you are going to have to stop being so hard on him. I understand that you feel hurt by what he has done, but he isn't going to stick around if you try to control him.

You need to make it perfectly clear that you will not stand for him cheating on you again and make sure he knows that this is his final chance.Then as hard as it may seem you have to put this behind you and move on don't bring it up every time you argue.

You will still need to keep a eye on him and watch for signs that he may be cheating again, but don't make it obvious that you are checking up on him.

If he loves and respects you he won't give you any reason to doubt him and if he does cheat again, well then your better off without him. I think that everyone deserves one chance, but no more

Good Luck i hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

you can't, he has to realise it for himself and to be honest if you've taken him back its only saying to him he can do it again to you anyway, because he did it before and you forgave him and the chances are if he does it again you'll forgive him again. Or thats how he'll see it. You can't play the keeping him on his toes thing either, because you are either back with him and you have forgiven and forgotten and want to move on and create a better relationship, or you want to play games and keep him on his toes showing that you don't trust him and are expecting him to mess up again.
Also you do have to remember that just because he's cut up his sim cards and stopped the internet doesn't mean he can't set it all up again or go out and find girls to cheat with.
I know this isn't very nice advice but I just want you to look at all the possibilities

Answer 6

Hi! well I'm sure you don't want to hear this but once a cheater always a cheater and I don't know why you would do that to yourself you deserve better but you must love him so that's cool. Anyhow once a man has cheated on you and you go back with him that is usually just telling him that it's cool to do it, cause she'll just take me back.

Listen I hope your guy is really willing to change, I do believe that everyone deserves a second chance so good luck but if it happens again do me a favour and know that you deserve better than that, move on things will be fine.

Later!

Answer 7

You really have to give him the benefit of the doubt. If you make rules he'll run. Going on about it all the time will do you no favours. Just act if nothing has happened and you rise above it, and if he cheats again it's not your fault - he's just a cheat and liar and nothing you do will stop that.

Answer 8

Keep a pair of rose cutters an some super glue in your bedside draw an tell him that if you ever find out he's been messing about he'll find out what there for.

Fair play to you for taking him back, but whats that thing about Leopards an spots?

Nah it does sound like he's trying, but keep him on his toes for sure.

; )

Answer 9

REMEBER THESE WORDS: HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. PERIOD.



EVERY ANSWER YOU GET WILL SAY DO THIS DO THAT, BUT THE FACT RAMAINS THAT ALL SCUM LIKE THIS GUY YOU TOOK BACK WILL DO IT TO YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN, IN A FEW DAYS, MONTHS YOU WILL BE WONDERING WHY IN HELLL DID I TAKE THIS DOUCHE BAG BACK, AFTER YOUR TEARS DRY FROM FEELING SO DAMMED STUPID, YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT, BUT I OFFER UP THIS TO YOUR QUESTION, THERE IS NO REALISING TO THESE KIND OF SCUM GUYS, NO MATTER HOW NICE, HOW GOOD LOOKING, HOW MANY I LOVE YOU BABYS, NO MATTER I WONT EVER EVER DO IT AGAINS CHANGE, PERIOD, THEY NEVER HAVE AND THEY NEVER WILL, ASK THE OTHER WOMEN ON THIS INTERNET, HOW THEY HANDLED IT, I WOULD BET THAT THEIR SCUM BAG IS PULLING THAT CRAP ON OTHER WOMEN AND NOT WITH THEM NOW, OPEN YOUR EYES IS THE HARDEST TO DO WHEN YOU DONT WANT TO SEE OR BELIEVE THAT SCUM COME INTO YOUR LIFE AND YOU AND ONLY YOU CAN CHOOSE TO NOT CLING OR HAVE THEM AROUND YOU BY NOT INVITING THEM BACK, MY SAYING IS FOOL ME ONCE SHAME ON YOU, FOOL ME TWICE SHAME ON YOU AGAIN, GO LIVE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE WITHOUT THIS DOUCHE BAG MESSING IT UP, YOU WILL FIND A MAN THAT WILL RESPECT YOU AND HONOR WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT, THIS BOY, MAN NOT APPROPRIATE HERE, WILL PULL AND BEAT YOU DOWN, ONLY YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT TREATS YOU LIKE THAT, SEND THIS BOY TIPPY TOEING ON HIS WAY, YOU WILL BE MILES AHEAD AND WILL NOT HAVE TO BE BACK HERE ASKING WHAT TO DO ABOUT HIM CHEATING AGAIN, IT WILL HAPPEN, DONT GIVE IT A SECOND THOUGHT, GO ENJOY YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL FIND LOVE WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT, I KNOW THESE THINGS.....

HAND have a nice day!!!

Answer 10

Ignore him. my boyfriend done kind of the same thing to me and when he txt me i would take an hour to txt back this really gets to them as they know u dont need then they are only in your life as and when you want them to be. he got really annoyed and txt askin if i was enjoying life without him so i said yes and ever since he has been like puty in my hands. Make sure he knows u dont need him and he will be the best boyfriend ever

Answer 11

personal opinion is - once a cheat always a cheat - sorry hun but you can do better and you deserve more - you shouldn't have to keep him on his toes and make him realise he needs to make it up to you - if he cares for you at all and is honestly trying to make the effort - he will do so of his own accord - if he doesn't then kick him to the kirb.!