I delivered on 5th August 2006. I have not had sex since then. We could not find time as baby needed feeds often. My husband has also not forced me as I have not been keeping well. There has been so much calcium depletion in my body that my back and pelvic part hurts a lot. I cannot change sides myself as it pains. My question is how do I find time and will it hurt. How does everyone else gets time? My son has a very light sleep and even if we whisper at night, my son opens his eyes. How do I do it?
2007-02-26 22:59:10 · 11 answers · asked by lalala 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow, does your doctor know about your pains? once this is treated then it may be more realistic to consider sex, and i would certainly hope your husband never forces you! At 6 months it is surprising that your son is not a better sleeper, perhaps that needs to be addresed as well. I´m not sure what you mean about changing sides but my daughter is 8 months old and my lower back,pelvis, genitals are all still tender. because of the back and hip pain i have to sleep on my back, my dr. recommended back building exercises and kegels.but this gets better too with time.
Ok, yes it will hurt, and if your body hurts you may have to do simple positions.but the pain subsides with time, and sometimes if you have more sex it helps. if you are breastfeeding you may need extra lubrication.take it slow and relax, and stop if its painful. We tried sex after 2 months unsuccessfully, and again at 4 months,which was ok .It wasn´t until 2 months ago that it stopped hurting , and I know other moms that needed about 6 months as well. its still a bit uncomfortable but still fun,lol.
We barely have the time or inclination for sex either! when we do its in the living room so we don´t disturb our baby, and we take it very very slowly and quietly. If youre really ready then the best thing may indeed be to get a sitter and a motel room! It may be time to turn on the romance and remind yourself that you are a woman and a wife and not just a mama. Good luck and i hope you find your mojo again.
2007-02-26 23:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait untill your baby goes down for a nap and get busy really quickly. Go to another room also. Quickie will be a big part in your life from now on. It probaly wont hurt since it has been so long and you have had so much time to heal. I had sex 6 weeks after my son was delivered and I had a third degree laceration down there. It didnt hurt at all, I missed it so much that I couldnt wait. Oh.........you better enjoy sex while your baby is still a baby cause the older they get the more they know and it gets harder and harder to sneek and have sex. Trust me I am up alot at 2 oclock in the morning waiting on my 2yr to go to sleep just to spend some special time with my husband.
2007-02-26 23:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by LRCMT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need to take time out for you and your partner. I'm guilty of sneaking away for 5mins or so while my baby plays in the next room, but if I didn't there would be no sex life for me and my husband. You gotta find time.
I never had the problem of it hurting after birth, but maybe you should talk to your dr. There might be a way for you to get back to yourself again, or your dr might have some helpful tips on positioning and stuff.
As long as you are quiet and not totally out of control with your orgasms, then there shouldn't be a problem. Your son won't know what it is you two are doing.
2007-02-26 23:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't handle this situation very well, I think we waited 3 days after my son was born (shhh, lol).
As far as "time" goes, do you have family that can keep him? You two really need time together, alone time. This can cause a lot of problems in your marriage if you don't find the time. It's hard but it's something you need to do- for you. Take it easy the first time and it shouldn't hurt if it's been that long since delivery.
My son's nap/ bed time seems to be the only time we get, unless he's at nana and papa's house.
2007-02-27 02:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get KY you may need it. After my daughter it did, but not after my son. if your son sleeps in your room, have fun in another and don;t think you have to have sex at night. Nap time worked best for me and my hubby of course that could be why my littles are only 13 months apart. If your son still wakes up it is ok to let him fuss. Mommy and Daddy need that time. Also try different postions till you find one that is confortable to you.
Good Luck and have Fun.
2007-02-26 23:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 21:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by ramayo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you baby is asleep go in a room far off from him and do it or leave your baby with someone and you 2 can get out like teenagers and do it in the car somewheres.
I didn't have sex until 2 months after i had my son by c-section cause i was scared too but i couldn't go as long as you have.
Sometimes you just gotta sneak off into another room.
2007-02-26 23:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe get your mom to keep baby for a while. If you are not ready for that, maybe get monitors and try for sex in another room of the house. As for your calcium, I took TUMS with Calcium. They are loaded with it. It helped with heartburn and indigestion as well. I saw where someone suggested KY...great idea! I recommend the warming one. You'll never go back.LOL
2007-02-26 23:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should teach you young child to sleep with noise, Gradually put up the music when he is sleeping or put him near the tv. Please make sure he is away from you while your in bed with your husband, Just so our no concerned about him waking up or anything and enjoy the moment. I dont think it will hurt but you have it stuck in your mind it will. For me it felt different but great afterwards. LOL Relax and enjoy yourself.
2007-02-26 23:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by karhs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS A LONG TIME TO WAIT, IF YOU REALLY WANT TO MAKE LOVE TO YOUR HUSBAND YOU WILL FIND A WAY.GO TO A DIFFERENT ROOM IF YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT YOUR BABY WAKING UP. YOU MUST HAVE A VERY GOOD HUSBAND FOR HIM TO WAIT ALL THIS TIME.HE DESERVES A TREAT.BY THE WAY MY SON HAS THE SAME BIRTHDAY.
2007-02-26 23:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by aunty m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋