she has been with her boyfriend for 6 years + has always wanted to marry him + now he has asked her to she wants to wait another 4 years to do it because in the year 2011 the date they met will land on a saturday!!!!!!!!!!!!!! do you im being horrible by tellin her she's stupid by takin to long to marry him?
2007-02-26 22:52:44 · 37 answers · asked by Helen J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yep, dumb as a friggin stump.
2007-02-26 22:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by countryboy1959 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There should be no rush when it comes getting married and being together.. As long he loves and respects her that is the main thing. A friend of mine is also waiting til the day the meet to be on a Saturday before getting married, I think its quite sweet personally.
Im sure everything will work out between them just fine!
2007-02-26 23:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the date they met is important but it can’t really be that important that a prolonged engagement would be the only answer. And getting married on the date you first met is romantic but also it would reall ynot make the marriage more successful or less successful for that matter.
Nothing wrong in getting to know someone well, but I would have thought 6 years would be enough by now.
This seems to be a silly idea and can come across as a delaying tactic
2007-02-26 23:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well... on one hand it's their life and their decision. On the other hand I personally think that waiting so long for something that should be spontaneous is a waste of time. Marriage is an important test for the couple and simply it makes life easier... sometimes. For me it is not about some numbers or superstitions but about commitment and love.
I know a lot of couples who waited too long (more than 5 years) to get married and then it was too late for them. They got divorced in the first year of marriage....
Anyway, whatever her choice is you should respect it.
Good luck to her.
2007-02-26 23:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by didi1083 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is only trying to be romantic about it, so that the wedding date will have special meaning as well as convenience. That being said, the guy should want to that too; she shouldn't be selfish in that regard, and if she is a gentle prompt to think of the guy's feelings isn't out of place.
If you're just saying that to her because if it was you you would get married straight away and that you think waiting so long is silly etc, then.. not so appropriate. It IS her wedding and not yours, and if she wants to wait that long then why not? She's waited 6 years so far, what's another 4? lol
2007-02-26 23:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by tinania-elfireb 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I guess stupidity does kinda come into a wee bit! BUT, if her man is happy with waiting that long and she is cool with it - then so be it!
However, weekday weddings are def becoming the *in* thing to do! If it's love and you want to marry... do it sooner than later! God forbid if anything happens to either of them - the law doesn't recognise fiancees etc - better to be hubby n wife! x
2007-02-26 23:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by angelforlife1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion yes i would not be able to wait that long, and does HE even want to wait that long? She really needs to ask him if that's what he wants too. And what the hell does Saturday have to do with anything at all? She could always just do it on a Saturday or on their next anniversary. Maybe she's just scared to actually do it. you can say that you want to do something till it comes down to it, then its a whole different story. Tell her that she needs to ask the guy if he really wants to wait that long or not, its not just her that's getting married here.
2007-02-26 23:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not use this to start the wedding plans. Begin by finalising the date exactly, then set out plans towards that date. You may find they will bring the date forward due the excitement, and the show of support.
Good Luck
2007-02-27 01:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by geoff584 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.thats a bit extreme! have you asked her why she wants it on a saturday and are you sure that its not just the excuse that she wants to leave it a bit longer to get married so she knows for sure that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you,You need to ask her if it is the saturday she wants to get married why it is so important to her,is it because she wants everyone she loves and cares about to be there and its only the saturday that alot of people get wok off and if so maybe she should think of the holidays were people get off.Just ask her why she wants it to be a saturday and see what happens.In a marriage both of which are involved what do you want and shouldn't she also be respecting your wishes and what you want.
2007-02-26 23:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by xxcharlenebbyxx 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I would put it in nicer terms than that. You can explain to her that if they get married on a different date then they can celebrate two events throughout the year- their wedding anniversary and their anniversary of when they met.
2007-02-27 02:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ok so it seems like a bit of a daft idea, but really think about it, this girl is being very romantic, the day they met was the change in both their lives, so if thats what they want then leave them to it, plus this way they have longer to save and really have a good blow out
2007-02-27 00:38:28 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋