how many parents love their kids unconditionally?

Question

i was wondering how many parents can really handle if their kids dont meet their expectations, like for instance, what if their gay? what if their bank robbers? what if they have a dull job? what if they gain 300 pounds? what if they end up having a deformity? or what if they are just the type of person you wouldn't have liked? what do you do then?

i got this idea from watching a show about gay teens coming out. a lot of their parents became abusive, etc. i think in a way, the parents were disappointed, because they had high expectations, but the kids didnt just end up gay, they ended up hanging at bars and fooling around. so while one can understand their disappointment, at the same time a kid need unconditional love or its going to be sad. in fact, being mean to a kid because they dont meet your expectation could kill the child. they could die of a broken heart.

a lot of parents want to be a perfect parent and give everything to their kid, but what if they dont end up liking the adult they turn into.

i was just thinking about that and wondering what others think. sorry i ran out of space.

i just think that parents are supposed to be uncondtional, but its not really practical. there is as much expectation on a child as the parent puts into the parenting of them, it seems.

what do you think?

sorry for misspellings!

Answer 1

im 17 weeks pregnant and i can honestly say that because ive tried so long for my baby and wanted it so much that i will love it unconditionally. disappointment and anger are just temporary natural feelings. your children will undoubtedly hurt you at some point in their life but from my situation i dont think id ever not love my child.

Answer 2

Of course every parent has some type of dream for their children but I think it just comes down to wanting them to be happy. They are going to do some things you might not agree with but doesn't mean that you will stop loving them or anything like that. I have 3 boys and yes I want them to be sucessful in life but most of all I want them to be happy and healthy. I wouldn't care if they were disabled or anything like that. Sure I would be dissappointed if they robbed a bank because that is not what I have raised them to be like but things happen in young peoples life to lead them from the right path sometimes. I would not love them any less for making a mistake. No amount of unconditional love is going to keep your children sheltered from bad decisions and on the right path, and it will not keep you from being disappointed with some of their choices either. You just love them and be there for them when they need you. Reassurance is critical, if I had some when I was younger I wouldn't have done a few things that I knew were wrong.

Answer 3

1. If my kids turned out gay, I would still love them. And I wouldn't think any less of them.

2. If my kids turned out to be bank robbers, I would still love them but be very disappointed. VERY disappointed and believe that they need to pay their debt to society.

3. Ad dull job? Like our jobs are all that interesting?

4. 300 pounds in heavy, but still, so what. I would still love my kid.

5. A deformity is something that the child can't help so why would I love him/her any less.

6. Now that's a tough one. If the child is one that we just don't get along. My mother and I have conflicting personalities. I haven't spoken to her in 2 years. I don't know how she feels about me. And I don't know what I would do then, but I probably would still love my kids. I just wouldn't like him/her all that much.

Answer 4

i think you have a really good question here. i am a parent of a boy and a girl and i feel that i love them unconditionally and will try to always nurture and love them till i die. however i do understand that parents get frustrated with their children if they don't do or act a certain way and will be critical of their children for that. i believe that all parents need to be more educated on children before or during pregnancy and throughout the child's early years to learn to deal with the hard stuff kids put out there for us. as parents we need to step up and take control of our emotions and LEARN our own children. if you KNOW your child then there really shouldn't be reason to be cruel if the child decides in their teens to come home and say they are gay. and if you KNOW your child then you will see if other things go difficult for them and help figure a way to help them. all i am sayin is KNOW your kids this leads to loving them more full hearted. have a good one all=)

Answer 5

I think most parents love thier young children unconditionally but I dont believe this lasts thruout life. I have known many people who have been rejected by thier parents for one reason or another. I think it probably is just the result of the weakening of the parent-child bond that occurs when children become teens and adults. I have seen many many parents throw thier teens out on thier butts w no remorse - you dont see that a lot w 3 year olds!

Answer 6

I will always love my children. If one are one of the above then I will talk to them and try to get them to do there best. I am a southern baptist and dont believe in a person being gay so if they were gay then I would have a long talk with them and take them to church, just because I love them and want them to go to heaven. If they were bank robbers then I would jprobaly call the police on them but I would still love them. If they were fat or had a boring job, that is them who cares. I love my children and would always do whatever I can for them.

Answer 7

It took me 12 years and numerous corrective surgeries to get pregnant once and 6 more years to adopt.

My Children are my life and breath. But now they are grown adults and have children of their own.

I can honestly tell you that your feelings for your children as adults is different that it was when they were dependent children.
When they were little and they were dependent on you for everything you love can be almost smothering. They they begin to have opinions and a life of their own.

If your lucky your love changes to confidence that you have done the best you possibly could in raising them. This is the time to standback and allow them to make their own decisions.
Still molding and directing.

Once they are adults you stand back, hands off, stay parents, give them room to make mistakes and learn from them. No smothering allowed. They always love us but smothering or too much direction can smother that.

Unconditionally, No, but almost.

Answer 8

I will love my child no matter what. I feel so sorry for parents who alienate their children because of things like making wrong choices or homosexuality. I think it has a lot to do with ignorance, selfishness, and closed-mindedness on the parents' part.

Answer 9

I love my child unconditionally now and no matter what he does in the future I will still love him.

I recently saw a court case on TV and the father of a convicted murderer was asked how he felt about his son now that he had killed someone. The father looked at the reporter with tears in his eyes and said quite simply 'he's my son, I love him'. I think he summed it up perfectly.

Answer 10

I have known people in the past who did not love their children-simply because they are selfish people. I really dont know how to explain it or go into detail, but im talking of people who put their needs in front of their childrens needs regularly. Maybe the kid is only a free check or something....