sex is a very crucial in relatnship rite?am a 22yrs old virgin am in love with this guy,that also loves me,we v been goin out for like 4months,and no sex,there are times wen we start it up,but end up nt havin it,am scared that his feelins might gradully die if notin happens.l love him and think he is worth giving him.what do u think
2007-02-26 22:38:01 · 11 answers · asked by natureface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. if he is really true, he wont leave u.
2007-02-26 22:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Good evening..
Firstly, Let's get some misconceptions straight first.... Sex is NOT a crucial matter in a relationship. What is more important in a relationship is trust, love and understanding, DEFINITELY NOT sex.
Sex may enhance the relationship but it should not be used to make the relationship work or to make the guy stay with you. You will end up feeling very depressed, hurt and cheap. Do not do it just because you feel that you need to give. That has been and will always be the wrong conception.
Of course, making love (as we will call it), it will be wonderful if we are with the right person, at the right place and time. Both parties must feel that they want to give each other pleasure and should feel that it is ok. Neither of the parties should feel that they should give to the other just because for the sake of love. It is worse if the guy will to tell female that she needs to have sex with him to prove that she loves him. That's absolutely lame and it is very clear these type of guys who make this statement only has one objective. To get into your pants and after that, things may change.
You need to make this decision on your own. We can only advise what's right or wrong, since we have come from all walks of life. As mentioned, you are the one who is most suitable to make this decision. It is only you who will truly know if you feel that you are willing to make love with him or if you are still not ready. But please remember one thing. Having sex in a relationship is to enhance it, not to make the guy stay in a relationship. U can look at it in another way. If you are pregnant, and may need to be without sex for 9months, how will you cope with it?
Think about it first. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 00:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by DriftGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a virgin due to moral convictions... then make this dude hold out... if he can't hang, then your two moral convictions are headed in opposite ways. If it is just that you havent had sex, for a myriad of possible reasons, and not that you just didnt want to... well.... get it over with. Sex is very crucial in a relationship, and for general overall mental health of the individual. Sex, is not very good in the beginning. So... it will be.. .ahem.. anticliimatic... but... from most women I know, that first time sticks with them for a long time... stop worrying about making it some dreamy perfect orgasmic motion of two souls in love... just get it on... doing it isnt anything.. doing it over... and over... again with someone you have a deep connection with... now there is something to always remember, and perhaps even take photographs of.
2007-02-26 22:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Samos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna change, how he looks at you. It may, even change how he treats you. I applaud you for waitng, that long. Most don't go that far into it. You had, very good Judgement on that. It's gonna change how things go. You need to deicide if it's worth it. Good Luck, Young Lady!
2007-02-26 22:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, just be blunt here, I respect the virgin deal, I do, but, if that is your intention to stay that way stop friggin teasin the guy,
in other words stop racin his motor if you are not going to let him blow out his pipe, see, thats just rude,mean and physically hard on the man, causes severe nut pain.
just the truth.
2007-02-26 22:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by countryboy1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You're at the age where you need to give yourself a bit of a shove to get out of your shell.
Put him on his honor to be patient and gentle, including afterwards. He will live up to it.
2007-02-26 22:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable with him and you feel right about it, then go for it. Just make sure to be safe and use condoms, no need to get pregnant on your first time!
Just relax, you'll like it!
2007-02-26 22:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by Vegas♠Bound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have only been wit for 4 months slow down a bit
2007-02-26 23:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by cass1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really 22?
2007-02-26 22:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you he'll wait. if your ready get married, that is if you both really love each other if not then definetly not don't give that away to him save it for your husband!
2007-02-26 22:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by Cierra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is true he worth it, dont wait a minute. give it up! if not, I'm here. email me. I'll handle it to you. lol
2007-02-26 22:44:58 · answer #11 · answered by mhrhashemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋