Boyfriend of 4 years wont ask me to marry him. Is there anything I can do? Things have been going really good between us, I just don't know why he won't take the next step?
2007-02-26 22:32:36 · 23 answers · asked by juniper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can tell him how you feel about marriage but, seriously, man are, on average, slow to commit to such big things. If a guy gets too comfortable in a relationship then he won't bother changing anything. As much as we adore our men, let's not forget that they are simple creatures - you might want to give him a few hints or even openly talk to him about it. Guys love their girlfriends but at the same time they cherish their "freedom" as well...you know, they want to have their cake and eat it too! He has to WANT to get married. You have to re-think your priorities and needs - if marriage, family, children is something that you are ready for and are willing to commit to on a full-time basis then go for it! But if he is not taking into account your needs then you have to set it straight.
2007-02-26 23:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'm in the same place as you except me and my boyfriend just hit our 3 year mark. If he's anything like my boyfriend the more you nag about it the longer it will take him. Guys want to surprise you and do it for the right reasons they don't want to propose because the were forced and yes all guys get scared my boyfriend is too (and I do sometimes get in nag mode about it) but it'll happen when they're ready you can't force it or you can do what I did me and my boyfriend are 22 I told my boyfriend that I always planned on being married, having a house, and working on having my first child by 25 he has agreed that that is a reachable goal and so far we have none of it but he's working really hard to get there I can tell so maybe if you set a long term time limit but don't threaten it'll only push him away and make sure he understands that you want to be with him but you can't wait forever!!! Good luck feel free to email me if you want to talk more!
2016-03-16 01:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with your boyfriend's planning. Before talking about marriage date find out if he is financially prepared to marry you. Most girls loose the right men by forcing guys to marry them even when they see that financially the guy is not ready and what the guy does he stops relationship not because he did not love a lady but because he knows that he can't afford to do so now. He your boyfriend happy with his job? Do you know how much he earns? Do you know his debts? Find out about those issues and if you are satisfied that it has nothing to do with his financial background maybe he is married to a spiritual wife who would not let him get married to you and to know about that find out from him if he often dream making love to a woman he can not clearly define who she is and where does she stay. then that woman in a dream is a spirit that may hinder him.
2007-02-26 22:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a really hard thing for guys... it is literally getting of the horse :)... if he hasn't proposed you after 4 years, given that you haven't "encouraged" him in any way, you should have a little talk with him about the future of you two. but if you have pushed him all the time about this, and he still hasn't commited, i say you drop him (there is a remote possibility that he feels that you are expecting this from him, and he tries to stall you)
Good Luck
2007-02-26 22:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by gciochina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why does it matter really
i have been happily UNMARRIED for many many yrs after 1 divorce
the only thing that piece of paper is good for is spending lots of money to get in and out of
yrs ago we need that paper to get a mortgage/joint accounts/ins
now you dont need to have it
we had a bbq with fire works and bon fire with friends and family over
we exchanged rings and told each other we wanted to be with each other forever ( vows) YOU DONT NEED THE PAPER FOR THAT EITHER
it was very nice and quiet to do it that way
we both have wills so we know where everyone stands and we would not change it for the world
2007-02-26 22:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to encourage someone to get married when they don't want to or arent ready to is only going to end with you pushing them away and them leaving. If he wants to get married let him do it in his own time.
You could of course propose to him.
2007-02-26 22:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by WerX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about having children and maybe future together. Also, it isn't the first time a woman asks >_>
2007-02-26 22:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by thewird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably isn't proposing because he doesn't want to get married. I don't know what else it can be.
2007-02-26 22:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because non commital type guys need to feel what it feels like to lose you or almost lose you to make them wake up and want you more or marry you
2007-02-26 22:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by Miranda C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its a good idea to encurage him. based on my personal experience (happened to a good friend of mine) he may feel that he is forced to do something and in the end it will bring no good.
2007-02-26 22:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by VeronicaB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋