2007-02-26 22:05:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have yet to read the bible, but I can tell you that I have alot of Christian friends who do spank their kids because they think God gives them permission to do so.
Frankly, I used to spank because..... I was spanked as a kid. My thoughts were, "what worked for me will work for my kids." So, I spanked. I thought I was a good mom and was a good disciplinarian. My husband refused to spank, so it was left to me. I remember one day listening to my neighbor spanking her son. We lived in military housing overseas and you could hear everything!!! I heard that little boy crying so hard, begging his mom not to spank him. he had real fear in his voice and that just broke my heart. She spanked him on his behind, she didn't beat him or anything, just a regular spanking, but the fear in his voice was really heartbreaking. From that moment on I never spanked my kids again! I could picture my kids, smaller than me, cringing at the sight of me because I was stronger and could inflict pain. I realized then that there were better ways to discipline my kids. And I found that being more open to dialogue worked wonders for me. By having a more trusting relationship, talking to them, being consistent with what I say, praising them lavishly for the positive and not focusing too much on the negative, I have raised some really fantastic kids. I am so glad I "woke up " all those years ago and realized that spanking is an easy way out.
2007-02-27 01:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by blueyonder 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how you wish to interpret certain passages. If you were to take these passages literally, and not look any deeper into their meanings in Hebrew, then, yes, one could claim that spanking was Biblically supported. However, here is a fantastic article on the subject, where someone has taken the time to look into the subject, and from this has determined that the Bible doesn't tell us to spank our children:
http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/articles/rodstudy.php
2007-02-26 22:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner got spanked as a child. It did him no good whatsoever, apart for maybe resenting his dad in later life for the abuse he suffered. because it is abuse. It teaches children it is ok to hit out when they are angry, that if things don't always go their way its ok to use violence. I don't give a stuff what any storybook (sorry,bible) says, it is NEVER ok to hit anyone child or adult. what sort of irresponsible parent would or could hit a child? It is showing a distinct lack of self control and class.There are always other ways of dealing with a situation.
Tammer1973: U are contradicting yourself... u say they know hitting is wrong, but above that statement u say its ok to spank them? Isn't that the same as hitting them? skin to skin contact done in an aggressive manner? therefore, u must be wrong too? And, if u don't spank them very hard and it doesn't have any effect, then whats the point? to make u feel better? Im sure u are a good mum, and it sounds like u communicate well with your kids, but what u said makes no logical sense to me
2007-02-26 23:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i think of you are able to examine the context of that passage. The Bible certainly would not say everywhere to "spare the rod and smash the newborn." The connection with a rod has to do with slaves returned in previous testomony circumstances. whether, the Bible does let us know a pair of issues. First it tells us to coach a newborn up interior the way he could pass and all his days he won't leave. 2d, it tells us that we could continuously be conversing approximately God's rules in our properties in any respect circumstances. as quickly as we lie down, as quickly as we consume, as quickly as we take a seat, etc. My own opinion is while you're detrimental to spanking, then do not do it. whether, not spanking does not recommend no self-discipline. have you ever met somebody who would not self-discipline their toddlers? that's grotesque for every person who comes into touch with that kinfolk. we don't spank our females, not because of the fact we are detrimental to an open-exceeded smack on the backside (please do not confuse the subject by skill of throwing in abusing a newborn), yet because of the fact w have got here across different issues are in basic terms as effective, including removing privileges or time outs. much extra effective is effective reinforcement for good behavoir. it is all a stability. We abode college our females and that they are the two astonishing toddlers (13 and 10 now). i don't prefer to tell you to pass against your pastor, yet even a pastor would be incorrect. while you're uncertain, pass to the word. The Bible is the desirable authority. additionally, i think of you are able to pass communicate with him approximately this subject. it must be which you have misunderstood what he replace into saying. If not, then you definately've gotten of undertaking to latest your point of view and communicate it with him. good good fortune!
2016-10-16 21:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by ramayo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, people twist it around and think it does.
HITTING IS ACTUALLY NOT BIBLICAL
Don't use the Bible as an excuse to spank. There is confusion in the ranks of people of Judeo-Christian heritage who, seeking help from the Bible in their effort to raise godly children, believe that God commands them to spank. They take "spare the rod and spoil the child" seriously and fear that if they don't spank, they will commit the sin of losing control of their child. In our counseling experience, we find that these people are devoted parents who love God and love their children, but they misunderstand the concept of the rod.
Rod verses - what they really mean. The following are the biblical verseswhich have caused the greatest confusion:
"Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him." (Prov. 22:15)
"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." (Prov. 13:24)
"Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death." (Prov. 23:13-14)
"The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother." (Prov. 29:15)
At first glance these verses may sound pro-spanking. But you might consider a different interpretation of these teachings. "Rod" (shebet) means different things in different parts of the Bible. The Hebrew dictionary gives this word various meanings: a stick (for punishment, writing, fighting, ruling, walking, etc.). While the rod could be used for hitting, it was more frequently used for guiding wandering sheep. Shepherds didn't use the rod to beat their sheep - and children are certainly more valuable than sheep. As shepherd-author Philip Keller teaches so well in A Shepherd Looks At Psalm 23, the shepherd's rod was used to fight off prey and the staff was used to gently guide sheep along the right path. ("Your rod and your staff, they comfort me." – Psalm 23:4).
Jewish families we've interviewed, who carefully follow dietary and lifestyle guidelines in the Scripture, do not practice "rod correction" with their children because they do not follow that interpretation of the text.
The book of Proverbs is one of poetry. It is logical that the writer would have used a well-known tool to form an image of authority. We believe that this is the point that God makes about the rod in the Bible – parents take charge of your children. When you re-read the "rod verses," use the concept of parental authority when you come to the word "rod," ratherthan the concept of beating or spanking. It rings true in every instance.
While Christians and Jews believe that the Old Testament is the inspired word of God, it is also a historical text that has been interpreted in many ways over the centuries, sometimes incorrectly in order to support the beliefs of the times. These "rod" verses have been burdened with interpretations about corporal punishment that support human ideas. Other parts of the Bible, especially the New Testament, suggest that respect, authority, and tenderness should be the prevailing attitudes toward children among people of faith.
In the New Testament, Christ modified the traditional eye-for-an-eye system of justice with His turn-the-other-cheek approach. Christ preached gentleness, love, and understanding, and seemed against any harsh use of the rod, as stated by Paul in 1 Cor. 4:21: "Shall I come to you with the whip (rod), or in love and with a gentle spirit?" Paul went on to teach fathers about the importance of not provoking anger in their children (which is what spanking usually does): "Fathers, do not exasperate your children" (Eph. 6:4), and "Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will be discouraged" (Col. 3:21).
In our opinion, nowhere in the Bible does it say you must spank your child to be a godly parent.
2007-02-27 10:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is a lot easier to shape and nurture a Tree when it is a Sapling then when it is Full Grown. There is a difference to correcting a child then it is abusing one. IF a child warrants a *spanking* give it to them, AFTER you have cooled down. Do not ever do it while you are Angry or you may regret it. YES correcting a child IS IN the Bible. There should be more of it done today, from the ages of two years old through 17. After they turn 18, they are on their own, and should be out of the home cause Mom and Dad is not going to be around forever to pick up after them, and give excuses for their behavior.
2007-02-26 22:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Yes it does. And a spanking is not abuse, its shaping a child. A spanking is on the child's bottom, never anywhere Else. A spanking does not leave marks behind. Some will say its teaching abuse, I dont feel it does. If you are smacking anything then their butt then yes that's abuse.
Some will say that you are teaching them that violence is OK and that they will be afraid of you. Well I have 2 children, neither are scared of me, and they both come to me with anything, even when they screw up.
I have a rule in my home, if you screw up come to me, admit your mistake , and no spanking will occur. In fact I am very lenient if they dont wait to get busted.
They know hitting is wrong, Yes my kids know the difference between abuse and a spanking. They saw their dad beat me........ they know I would never hurt them, The few times I have had to spank, they have told me they were sorry they forced me to do that. I cry when I spank them, they never do lol tells you how hard I spank lol.
2007-02-26 22:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I don't know that, but the question is - are you abiding by whole Bible words? - If you intend to be a fundamentalist following and trusting blindly what it says, then you should know any verse first.
2007-02-26 22:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No.
It tells us not to "spare the rod".
The rod is what a sheppard used to GUIDE his sheep. Not to hit them.
We are thus told to ensure our children are guided and taught well, and not left to run astray.
2007-02-27 02:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by L A 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No... disipline. If a spanking is needed then sure. But nothing too hard.
2007-02-27 10:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by stepmom of 1 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋