Are you an only child?

Question

I have an only son and I wonder how this will effect him later in life. It took 7 years over all to have him so I know it wouldn't be easy to just give him a brother or sister . I also don't know if making a final decision to not have any more is the right one.

Answer 1

I am 25 and an only child. When I was younger i begged my parents to have another child as I wanted someone to play with. Don't take it as I never had any friends cause I had plenty to chose from but seeing my friends with brothers or sisters I wanted 1 too.
When I got to secondary school(11yrs) I wanted a bro or sis for a different reason other than to look after me at school incase I got picked on and had some1 then to fight my battles. Me being an only child worked in my favour cause I never had any1 2 stick up for me which made me become an confident, approachable person. The negative side of being an only child is they maybe selfish as they never had any1 to share or think of other then themselves.They can also love being around people or hate being around people. They are either 1 or the other. My friend calls it the "only child syndrome". My father was an only child, im an only child and now I have a child that is 7yrs and im very sure she is going to be an only child too. I would love to have more but the big age gap and the fact that she is so used to being the centre of attention I wouldn't want to take that away from her cause she has developed into a sensible 7yrs confident, polite, sociable and mature little girl.
The only thing I worry about now being an only child is to experience the death of one of my parents and not have any sibling to share my grief with!
I wish you the best to what ever you decide xxxxxxxxx

Answer 2

I was an only child until I was 11 ( I have a 1/2 brother from my father & step-mother but didn't know him until later in life. ) My mom married my step-father when I was 10, I then inherited a step-brother who is a year older. A year 1/2 later my little sister was born. I was so happy to not be an only child anymore.

It was lonely for me growing up, esspecially when no one in the neighborhood was around to play with.

My oldest daughter is now almost 14 and my son is 12. I am glad that I had them close, they always had someone to play with.

I also have a 5 year old daughter, even though they are 7 years apart, she likes to be around my son the most. But the older kids do get tired of her being around them, so she cries that no one will play with her. I feel bad, she is almost growing up an only child, I do feel bad that there will be no more kids for me for her sake.

I think having siblings helps kids learn to share. As an only child for 11 years myself, I was selfish & spoiled.

Answer 3

Give him a sibling. I have an older brother by 2 years and it wasn't until we were older that we became close. I'm now 26 and he is 28 we are like best friends we call each other every day just to say hi sometimes. he is a wonderful uncle to my son. just think your son will never be an uncle till he marries and that's only if she has siblings. I have only 1 child and i felt the same way I can't wait to give him a play mate. If you can afford another child why wait go for it. Think about your son not yourself

Answer 4

I was an only child till the age of 13 and found my life very boring&lonely at times also now Im 28 I would love a sibling to share my life with.I now have 2 brothers 1 sister but not close to them as I left home at 16. On the other hand closer age gap siblings can hate each other. Do whats best for you

Answer 5

I have an only child and I think that he is very outgoing and he sure has lots of friends.He is 16. I find the biggest problem is he tends to argue more with us parents then kids with sublings do and I think that this is due to him needing someone to vent at in the form of another sibling. He is well adjusted though and a pretty happy kid though he can get lonely at times which explains all the friends. Do not overly worry about it but we must keep from spoiling our kids too much due to this. My mom also was an only child and she had 9 kids so be prepared in case later you become the grandma of a new nation.

Answer 6

Lots of kids are only children and they turned out just fine. A good thing to do is make sure he gets a lot of interaction with other kids in and out of school. Cousins--neighbors, other family members. Some will say it's great growing up as an only child. there is no juggling for parental attention. Others might think otherwise. As for making any final decisions on weather to have anymore, Only you can answer that. Do what is good for you and your family.

Answer 7

i have an older sister,but have many friends that are an only child and have turned out fine!you could try to have another baby if you wanted to,and if you did get pregnant it would be a blessing,but if you didnt you will still have your beautiful boy!!if you really dont think you could go through all the hastle of trying for another baby then dont! i know its hard to accept you wont have anymore but you still have your son..he wont be traumatised for life as an only child lol..
only you can decide what you want to do. in the mean time enjoy your life and enjoy the son you worked so hard to get!!

all children are blessings!!

Answer 8

I really think it is all in how you raise a child. I had an older brother who tormented me my whole life (he is civil now, but we still don't particularly like one another)

I work with a guy who was an only child and he is a selfish, self important, spoiled baby at the age of 53. He expects everything to be done for him. My Granny was an only child and she says she was dreadfully lonely.

My daughter is an only child, but she is outgoing, happy, and is (at 3.5) making friends and plays well with other kids.

Answer 9

I wish i was does that count?

Im the baby of 5. the older 3 were 17, 18, 19 when i was born...... then i have one that is 4 yrs older....... i hated it , 3 were boys and mean to me. Such as tie me in a tree by my ankles.........

Tie me to a grave marker and leave!!!!! And not come back where I could see them until they let me cry for 45 mins.

My son is 15 daughter 6 and they bicker back and forth way too much lol ( and pregnant again)

Answer 10

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