Ok, So my boyfriend is plannin on movin out here, So that we can be together. But there are so many problems preventing it. Like he cant stay with me because i live with my dad, And he wont allow it. Go figure?...anyways, Hes workin on gettin a job where hes at, to get enough money to get him here. But he dont know anyone out here, and hes got until April to be outta the place hes at. And i have a place he can stay. But he cant till the end of april. and thats not soon enough, and not to mention he cant stay with anyone unless helps with bills, and he cant get a job here without a car. and hell im still working on gettin a car so that i can get a job myself. I mean i dunno im so confused, im tryin to figure all this out. But to have a month to do it all? A month never felt so short. and its not like he can do it, hes stuck to. and im just out of ideas, I need some advice.. Someone please gimme some ideas if you can!!! Thanks.
2007-02-26 21:57:42 · 7 answers · asked by So Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I personally think that you have to get your finances straight before moving in. I mean, if he can support you (or you can support yourself), then no problem!
2007-02-26 22:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by AnaC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you taking on the burden of handling his problem.
If he cannot afford to move he cannot afford to move.
He needs to move with money in the bank.
He should check the YMCA to see if they can help him.
If not there a shelters and social services available in some areas.
He may not like the selection but he has no choice.
You need not worry.
If it is to soon for him to move, he will have to wait.
Hopefully the job can wait or he will have no trouble finding another if he has to let his job go.
It sounds like he is a bit lazy and you are suppose to do all the work.
Forgive me if this was part of the arrangement the two of you made.
I hope all works well.
2007-03-06 22:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you, and your dad. You are in the middle. But for sure you have to go along with your dad. Your dad will be your Dad forever. This guy is not your husband, he is only your boyfriend. Relationships change. But not DADS.
You are not confused, you are feeling guilty. But there is nothing to feel guilty about. Your boyfriend is putting you on a guilt trip.
Tell him nicely that you understand his predicament, you would love to help him but you cannot at this point. I know that he will find someone else to sponge off on. He is taking advantage of your soft, and good nature.
2007-03-07 04:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he is serious about moving, he will find a way to make it work. I think it is up to him now, there isn't much you can do and you can hardly expect your father to take him in (can understand your dad's viewpoint on that) so he has to make his own living arrangements. He is a grown guy, if he wants to make things work, he will make the effort (which means he will work out living arrangements, transport issues, job etc, it doesn't fall on your shoulders, its really his responsibility, you can't decide that for him). I think you just have to wait and see, not much in your control in this situation.
2007-02-27 06:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by OziGirl_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on Craigslist near your city. See if there's any temporary rooms for rent for the month of April and if he or you can get a 'gig' to work to pay for it. They have several job and residential listings there. I'm sure it will work out somehow.
2007-02-27 06:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good grief, i can just imagine all the little teeny booper answers for this crisis, ohhh here we go, just tell your dad he is wrong crap.
this is simple as well, ...... we have no business giving you advice on your life!!!!!!
it sounds to me like a whole bunch of growing up is needed here.
dont worry, there will be about 50% sayin move on, kick him tro the curb and all that bs.
2007-02-27 06:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by countryboy1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are not ready. Don't do stupid things and ruin your life ahead.
Be smart and wait till he is ready for a move.
Life is not just all about LOVE.
There are bills to pay.
2007-02-27 06:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋