really want to take my ex back, he didnt cheat on me but ended it out the blue then started seeing someone else.
he's now ended it and is trying so hard to get me back, taking me out, sending me flowers to work txtng and emailing everyday.
i love him, was with him 3 yrs and we got a house together.
feel confused cos i know i shouldnt give him another try but i cant let him go and dont want things to be over. would you risk it again for love??
2007-02-26 21:48:11 · 21 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ino were your comin from hunni , it is such a hard dissision to make . its easy for som1 to just write no he doesnt diserve it but its easyer said than done .. try sitting down thinking/ writing down the pros n cons of it , it may sound stupid thing to do but atleast you can see it all there infront of you and it doesnt get all muddled up like it does in your head.always remember every1 makes mistakes im sure you have , ino i have for sure ..but if you do take him back n he hurts you again dont even consider it he isnt worth your time.. i agree with the the person who said once bitten twice shy it is good moto to stand by but i still think easyer said than done . this is really hard for anyone to diside, but only u alone can diside it . hes oviously trying hard , have you asked him why he left you maybe that would help. good luck hunni hope you make write dission.xx
2007-02-27 00:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by sports_babe_92 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TAKE THE RISK!!! IT'S WORTH IT . There's a chance to have a happy engin right? Although there's no certainty if it ends up in a happily ever after, or lonely and miserable nights.
Always expect both sides of the coin. Either heads which is the positive outcome. Or the tails, which is the negative outcome. You should prepare yourself for whatever comes. After all we should be ready for the future, there comes another adventure, of joy and happiness or tears and sadness.
If you guys are meant for each other, God will find a way to keep you together. Although trials and difficulties may come in this affair, it's only Gods little way of making you stronger.
If Ever you get an unhappy ending you should remember that love never comes with a pain-free guarantee. We simply have to accept that being hurt is part of loving someone. It's the risk.
Although there's a possibility of this ending in tears, you should remember that even if this is probably the worst heartbreak you'd experience, it's still a blessing . It may be the worst nightmaire leaving you with lonely sleepless nights but it's only gods way of saving you from the wrong one.
Pain and dissappointment may come together with love that can leave you really hurt, but continue to love because the more you love, the more you'll get to know yourself. Every person you love becomes your reflection.
2007-02-26 23:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Love or hate? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
got to be honest here. ask your self why did he end it with you and then started to see someone else then to break up to get back with you was it that he got bored. so if you do get back with him what happens if he gets board again and he moves on and leaves you upset. or i could be wrong he might be missing you and wants to be with you again some people do deserve a second chance but be warned love can be a powerful thing and can really hurt. only you can pull the trigger on this. so here's what to do if you get back with him talk to each other tell each other how you both feel and take your time do not rush it and things will start to move slowly and if it's what you both want then you take the next step. good luck
2007-02-26 22:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can truly answer this question in relation to your own situation, but I believe that love is worth the risk. Ask yourself, if you didn't take him back, would you regret it? Maybe take him back but say you want to take things slow.
Sometimes couples need a break from each other to discover what they want. There are lots of things written on this, and maybe he has suddenly realised that the grass isn't greener with someone else.
Listen to what your heart is telling you - just don't decide against it because you're afraid of getting hurt. We have to take risks in life to make life worthwhile.
Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-02-26 21:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he thought he was missing some thing and panicked, people do strange things, if you love him your going to do what you want no matter what advise people give you, but the best thing to do is start from fresh, don't move in together go out on dates and let him spoil you for a while and when you can forgive him and trust him again without the worry of him leaving in the back of your mind then that's the time to look to the future of living together again
2007-02-26 22:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can tell you what to do in that kind of situation you just gotta go with your gut instinct just take it slow if you do decide to get back with him if he really wants to get back together he wont mind at all.....but the thing you want to think about before you decide is if your going to get beck together because he is what your used to and seems an easy option.....if it really is love then yeah i would say its worth the risk you only live once after all
2007-02-26 21:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Poppy28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is worth risking getting hurt, but not by this guy again.
Sounds like he'd met that someone else before he ended it with you, even if he didn't cheat could you really be happy with him? If it was me I'd constantly be wondering when he was going to end it again
2007-02-26 21:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by aleta_uk_0 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he ever give you the reason why he left? You should ask him to list the reasons why you should take him back. Did you have any doubts about him when you were in a relationship together?
You say you know that you shouldn't give him another try and you said that for a reason.
2007-02-26 21:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you really think he's worth all that pain you had to go through?
Of course.. what do we really know? hehe.. the thing is only you could answer your question.. follow what you're heart tells you.. but don't do so blindly..
Think long and hard before jumping to the same boat that threw you off the first time..
"fool me once.. shame on you.. fool me twice.. shame on me.."
2007-02-26 22:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by crushmybones 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart!
Because at the end of the day, that is what you will do.
It may be wrong, or it may be the best thing.
The same happened in my relationship, many years ago, I took him back and we are still together 17 yrs later.
Or it may not last...but hey isnt that what life is all about...experience!!
2007-02-26 21:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by pina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋